my four year old son has developed a disgusting and annoying habbit of constantly putting things down the toilet (such as bars of soap, socks etc) and also peeing on the floor next to the toilet. I have told him time and time again that this is wrong. He knows it is wrong but constantly continues to do it. This has been going on for months now and i just don't know what to do to get him to stop. It can't be attention seeking behaviour as he gets plenty of attention throughout the day. I don't understand this behaviour.What can I do?
2007-05-05 08:24:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
treat system: give him treats when he does it right and take them away when he does it wrong.
or
make him sit on the naughty step or in the naughty chair for 4 minutes (1 for each year) each time he does it.
2007-05-05 08:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by tomw91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAs anything changed in his life lately? such as starting school, moving etc? It could be a phase brought on by some form of stress or trouble emotionally so maybe you could speak to him, his teachers, nursery etc to see if there is a reason for this change.
Also, I know you say hi is not attention seeking but is he still getting attention for it? He could now see it as a game...I know you cant really ignore the situation but instead of saying "thats bad" all the time try putting him in his room or taking a fave toy away before you start to clean it up (I would say get him to clean it up himself but I think that depends onthe parent). Then everytime he uses the toilet sensibly give him lots of praise and the toy back.
Keep things in the bathroom to a minimum that way he's less likely to do it on impulse...he'll have to actually go and get something in which time you mayh ave caught him before hand. If you do see him go to get something or eyeing a bar of soap up try getting him to come and help you with something or say you'll get a game out to do together.
If things get worse then you could always call parentline for advice, speak to a health visitor or again nusery/school staff.
2007-05-05 09:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my son was just shy of 4 he started peeing beside the toilet as well. I made him start cleaning the bathrooms- all of them.
You can get the disposable mr bubbles toilet wand... they lysol wipes, a swiffer wet jet, mr. clean magic sponges and other cleaning products that are safe and easy for him to use.
Once he starts taking pride in his job of keeping the bathroom clean and he has a responsible use for the toilet- this behavior will stop.
2007-05-05 08:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the docs do no longer think of there's a situation, and you have gotten some comments...then that's a habit situation. he's basically too previous to have a p.c.. basically throw it away; in case you do no longer elect to breast feed him do no longer; he's basically too previous to be in diapers too. it would be a tricky few days, yet I assure you in case you supply up giving in to his behaviors, he will study. there'll probable be a lot of crying and suits, yet you're quite helping him. He can't commence college in a 12 months with diapers and pacifiers. basically be good and don't supply in! After he has an twist of destiny....had him some wipes and enable him sparkling himself up. I taught 4 12 months olds for 3 years and that all of them knew a thank you to wipe themselves...its no longer asking too plenty from him. while he does bypass to the potty or eats a good meal supply him a lot of compliment!! good luck! you will get by this!!
2017-01-09 13:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son used to do this when he was roughly the same age.
I decided to give him the chore of cleaning the bathroom, instead of his normal chore of cleaning his bedroom, and then when he made the mess on the floor in the bathroom, i just told him that it didnt matter coz HE would be cleaning it up, not me1
he soon stopped!
2007-05-05 08:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he pees on the floor, make him clean it up, unless his aim is just off. If he throws something in the toilet, well idont know what to do about that, maybe timeout. Good luck.
2007-05-05 08:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like his parents need to watch him. . my son is 4 and has never flushed anything because i wont allow him in the bathroom alone. dont let him be in there unsupervised its as easy as that
2007-05-05 08:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Smack him and sell his favourite toy on ebay.
2007-05-05 08:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try ignoring it i know it,s hard but with no reaction it may work good luck.
2007-05-05 10:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by tina s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep him out of the bathroom
2007-05-05 08:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by manna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋