I am 3 monthes pregnant. Before I became pregnant I had a small jelaousy problem now it's out of control. I cry when he says that his daughter is coming to spend the weekend with us even. It may be due to the fact that she DOES NOT LISTEN. To anyone icluding her father. We tell her no and she says we arn't her boss. A 7 year old should know better right? Am I just going through pregnant mood swings or is there something wrong with being jealous of a child?
2007-05-05 07:39:18 · 10 answers · asked by Gabby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I think that the jealousy is mostly her fault. Talk to your husband. And try bribing her if that doesn't work than punish her. When she leaves write letters expressing your jealousy, and then throw them away. Venting your feelings into word, and then putting them on paper, is a great way to relieve stress when you cannot hit anything.
2007-05-05 07:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Chicken Dancer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember that you are the adult. If this is becoming this big of a problem, you and your husband need to talk to her mother and set some ground rules. When the child refuses to listen to you- say "Do you get away with this at home?" or "These are the rules of this house and if you aren't going to listen to them, you will get a time out."
It isn't normal for an adult to be jealous of a child. You need to evaluate what exactly is causing this jealousy- since you were jealous even before the pregnancy. Learn to love this child unconditionally...she is a part of your husband, and a part of your life now. I think once you come to terms with their relationship and her role in your life, you will have a better relationship with her. Good luck!
PS. What is wrong with all you people calling this girl a "brat" she is a normal 7 year old child who comes from a broken home and probably doesn't know how to deal with this situation of going from one home to the next and her daddy starting a new family with someone other than her mother. Have some compassion!
2007-05-05 07:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by terasa425 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is normal, whether or not you're pregnant. Sure, part of that might be added to with mood swings. But that's normal. You may be jealous because there's basically no way you could get away with temper tantrums at this age, and you're missing that a little. But I don't think you're jealous as much as angry and upset and frustrated.
Does your husband know about his daughter being a brat? If he doesn't, clue him in nicely. Don't come right out and say that his daughter is a spoiled brat. If he does, suggest family counseling. She may be acting out in response of her being jealous of YOU. Either way, you should take action. Good luck!
2007-05-05 07:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by QueenKatrina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think a 7 year old should know better, you should.
Have you ever considered that maybe the daughter is jealous that you get to spend all your time with HER father?
You should be trying your hardest to gain her acceptance, because if you don't build a strong relationship with her now, its only gonna get worse as she gets older.
I'm speaking from experience as that child. My dads girlfriend of 10 years does nothing to try and engage me in any way and it irks me so much that I have vowed to make her life hell if she ever tries to take a single thing from my dads estate that didn't belong to her before she was with him.
2007-05-05 07:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by frankovich213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When that child says "Your Not My Boss" Say "Yeah I am!" cause you are. And no, your not jelous of the child. Just the freedom it gets. Being able to run around with out pain in your backs and to what ever u want. And in a couple months you'll probably be jelous cuz u cant see your feet. Happy baby!
2007-05-05 07:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by 1m@ h3@rT Br3@k3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children of divorce have gone through quite a lot of trauma...
sometimes they feel as if their parent has been taken away by the new spouse.
the child might feel as if she is competing with you...
sometimes children of divorce even believe their parents' divorce is their fault.
they can develop anger and guilt issues as well.
we sometimes fail to realize what children have been through as the result of their parents' divorce. they are, after all, children and truly don't have any idea how to cope.
i have put a link to a short article here, which might be helpful.
i hope you have a good pregnancy. congratulations on the new baby. take care of YOU.
2007-05-05 08:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell ur husband to beat that childs butt with a belt when she talks back like that, then make her stand in the corner for 15 minutes. Thats what i do.
2007-05-05 08:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyedbabe1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have thought twice before marrying this guy----she's always going to be his daughter regardless
----it's normal seven year old behavior......i wonder what you'll do when your baby is 7 and acts the same way your step daughter is acting right now. Will you send her away to lets say a boarding school?
2007-05-05 07:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your body is under enough stress and to have a bratty 7 yr old tell you "shes the boss" tell daddy dearest to talk to his daughter and maybe his ex-wife to help with this child.
2007-05-05 07:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by diamond257 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2017-01-09 13:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋