my boyfriends mom doesnt like that im a catholic?

Question

its because she is a 7th day adventist.
can someone tell me about that religion? and why doesnt she approve of mine?

i mean, im not gonna give up catholicism, but id like to know.

Answer 1

People tend to be afraid of or criticize what they do not understand. Just stand firm in your beliefs. If your boyfriend doesn't have a problem with it then I wouldn't worry to much about it.

God bless,
Stanbo

Answer 2

Dear Kayterrz,

i think the best way to learn about the beliefs of 7th Day Adventists is to go to your local Christian bookstore and you can find short books which summarize the basic beliefs of a certain denomination.

i think it's important to know the basic beliefs and then to ask the individual. As a Christian i have a lot of Catholic friends and when i ask them about their relationship with Jesus i get all sorts of different answers. i think you can say that not every Catholic you know believes the exact same thing- and the same can be said for every religion.

i think studying what 7th day Adventists believe will help you maybe understand their history with Catholics and why they don't really care for Catholics.

More than anything i'd try to get to know her, because in the long run- if the relationship works out- you'll be connected to her and you want to make sure that it's not just a religion thing. Meaning maybe she's just being over-protective of her son and is using that as an alibi to have something against you.

Anyhow i think a book would be a lot more informative than people's opinions. As you read on this forum- i think you realize sometimes that some people speak (representing a certain point of view-- but they actually don't adhere to that point of view). i've read so many people on here claiming to be Christians but they give answers which clearly indicate that they are not. And i think it would be a big mistake if you learned a false piece of information and brought that into your interaction with your boyfriend's mom.

Hope that helps. Kindly,

Nickster

Answer 3

I am also a Seventh-Day-Adventist, so maybe I can hlep you to understand what your boyfriend's mom is thinking.

There is a verse in the Bible that says, "Be ye not unequally yoked with unbelievers." (2 Corinthians 6:14) Amos 3:3 also says "Can two walk together unless they be agreed?"

She doesn't have anything against you. The reason she doesn't want you to be with her son is because of the above verses. Say you two get married, and you have a couple of kids. Catholics and Adventists have very different beliefs, so it could cause a lot of conflict between you two. You may want your children to go to church on Sunday, and yet he wants them to go to church on Saturday. Since Adventists don't take the matter of the Sabbath lightly, this could be the cause of many fights between the two of you. You'll want to raise the kids Catholic, and yet he'll want to raise them as Adventists. There are too many differences between the two denominations for there to be a compromise on this one.
According to the Bible, it is best to marry someone who beliefs are similiar to yours. It can save you two a lot of heartache in the long run. You don't have to agree on everything (no two people do), but you should agree on important topics like whether or not you want the children raised Adventist or Catholic.
Seventh-Day-Adventists have many characteristic beliefs and it would take a lot of space to write them all down (along with supporting Bible verses), so I'll briefly tell you that the name Seventh-Day-Adventist means that we believe that Saturday is the Sabbath and the day we should worship on, and Adventist means that we are looking forward to the soon second coming of Christ. You should ask your boyfriend about what we believe. I'm sure he could give you some insight. I'll give you a couple of websites to look at as well.
God bless!

Answer 4

I really should not have answered your question, because I don't know very much about the Seventh Day Adventists. I know that they are a very close community, and that they do not like Catholic is particular. I don't think that you will ever have a solid relationship with your boyfriend, especially if you marry him and have children with him. It is always going to be a bone of contention,with his Mother and she can make your life a living hell. Give what I say to you some thought. My brother married out of our faith, (we happen to be Catholic) and her family made it impossible for the two of them. My sister in law was threatened with being cut off from her family, taken out of the will, unless the children were brought up in her faith. It went on and on, and finally, she gave in and my brother had his marriage annulled. It was and is a mess.

Answer 5

7th day adventists are very upset that the catholic Church established Sunday as the day of worship rather than Saturday (the 7th day).

This is a no win situation. You will probably never win the favor of the mother.

Answer 6

Why the hell does anyone really care? Faith is supposed to be a personal thing, if anything. This is no better than not liking your kid's bf/gf because they're a different race or ethnicity. It's senseless prejudice, and I'd totally go off on her in your position. She's a dirty bigot, the end.

Answer 7

Well it seems that other Christians don't think Catholics are Christians. Apparently believing Christ rose from the dead isn't the main belief system of being a Christian anymore. They THINK that Catholics worship false idols (instead of honoring those who sacrifices for the cause of Jesus) and that they practice magik...which is whole different argument.
Don't take it personally.
Hitler executed THOUSANDS of Catholics. They didn't help him with crap.

Answer 8

7th Day Adventists are generally one of the most anit-Catholic groups out there.

Their beliefs are totally out of phase with most conventional Christian ones, so they are also totally out of phase with God's truth.

Adventists are rooted in the old testament, while most of the rest of those who profess to be Christians have been freed from the curse of the law, and operate under grace.

Adventists are followers of proven false prophets as well, including the original founder of their sect.

Adventists believe that the Catholic Church is the whore of Babylon, and the Pope is the anti-christ, even though they profess to believe in the bible, and the bible says no such thing.

All this, and you're interested in her son, too.

Tell her that infant baptism, as practiced in the Catholic Church, is the only true form of salvation with absolutely no works at all, and watch her blood pressure shoot right up!

Answer 9

Have you noticed that religion, any religion is man's way of trying to please their gods, with rituals, rules and sacraments? Than religion is man's way of controlling people? That religion causes war, hate and discourse.

Jesus is God's way of reaching down to man with love, forgiveness and grace. Jesus is a relationship. Not a religion.

Acceptance of Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and repentance which is turning away from sin, is what God requires for salvation. Read the book of Romans.

Answer 10

Many people are intolerant towards the religion of others.

Eventually, mature people realize it is fine to tell someone to "go to hell" if they screw with your personal life. Hopefully one day you and your boyfriend will be close enough to where you can tell that to the mom.