my new boss has just told me he is attracted to me and the feeling is mutual hes married what do i do?

Answer 1

Dunno - it's up to you.
I'm evidently cut from a different cloth - if I were in that situation, even if I found him attractive, the minute he came on to me, I'd drop him like a stone. If he will do that while married, then he's not worthy of someone like me.
I know I sound arrogant, but really - is that the kind of man you really want to be involved with? Don't you think you deserve better? I know I would.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Elaine,
My advice, DON'T do anything, and get over your crush, LADY, you're only inviting problems for yourself and "others" involved! Don't go "there", please! BIG MISTAKE! Anyone on this panel will tell you the same!

Maybe you should resign right away, or if you can go see a Counselor and tell of your obsession because I can tell you must not think much of yourself to begin with by letting yourself be attracted to a married man! To start with he IS OFF limits and if you pursue this, is WILL open the "Proverbial "can of --------- you know what!"

NOT to mention lose your new job AND be badmouthed to any future employer by way of your newly/former Boss ----------sorry, I have forgotten that "term" used.............................

Anyway, YOU LOSE all the way around!

You ARE better than that by accepting this flirting your "future X-Boss" is "throwing your way".

Where is your opinion of yourself anyway, and self respect? Do some Soul-searching , then tell your Boss you either cannot accept the job for personal reasons, or toughen-up and say you are a professional and you have no intentions of working under "shady" conditions, meaning him chasing you! He is unprofessional himself hitting on you like that! Think twice now, OK?

Answer 3

He's obviously fishing for a bit on side.
1.If he's going to two time his wife he'll two time you.
2.He belongs to somebody else so find your own.
3.There are enough single men out there, you shouldn't even consider him.
4.You would be 50% of the deceit of his poor wife and probably 50% of the cause of the divorce case and could be named as the other woman.
5. Please don't be dumb enough to think no one will find out people always do.
6.This is why some women are sexually harassed at work because of people like you.
You're probably flattered because he's the boss, would you be flattered if he was the company lavatory cleaner?
Keep it to yourself that you find him attractive and move on, if necessary leave the company. If he hits on you tell him you're not interested and threaten him with sexual harassment.

Answer 4

walk away and say no. you dont want to end up getting hurt and used by this man. plus you could end up being slapped by his wife and lose your job. if you are looking for love your best bet is to find a single man less baggage and so much less hassle. work relationships do not work, your work mates will gossip about you sleeping with the boss and if you want to further your career it will be by sleeping with the boss rather than your own input. no is the best answer in the end.

Answer 5

What do you have in store for you? Choose the right answer.

A bad relationship.
A cursing family.
A job loss.
Hurt ego and emotions.
Lonely tearful nights.
All of the above.

You see, he is ready to dump his family to have an extramarital relationship. Well aware of his authority over you, as a boss.

If he still persists, tell him that you will wait for him, if he is ready to dump his family for your sake and also discuss the situation with his wife, regarding his plans. Ask him, how can you believe that he will not dump you in future for someone else (if he indeed agrees, which I doubt).

You don't seem naive to choose the wrong one.

Best of luck!

Answer 6

aaaah! do i hear freud's laughter from his grave? what is this about extramarital adventures and complexes that have to keep on recurring? providing a straight forward answer won't be that easy when you say that you too are "attracted" to him. but let me guide you in answering the question yourself: What is it that you are looking for in this relationship? Do you anticipate some kind of excitement or commitment? Are you sure of whether your feelings are born out of love or mere desire?
MEN usually use all sorts of figurative devices to get to their goals. Attraction is one such word. So go ahead answer the questions for yourself and if you still feel that your feelings are strong enough just go ahead.

Answer 7

don't fall for that old trap. You'll end up loosing your job, your self respect and will have karma hitting right on your face afterwards. You don't get involved with a married man. Period.
Doesn't matter if he's your boss or not.

Answer 8

DON'T GO NEAR HIM WITH A BARGE POLE UNLESS YOU ARE HAPPY TO BE WITH A MAN WHO CAN CHEAT ON SOMEONE RATHER THAN FINISH WITH THEM.

HE WILL USE YOU FOR ONE THING AND DUMP YOU LIKE A TON OF BRICKS AT THE END OF IT. YOU/ANY WOMAN IS NEVER THE EXCEPTION.

KEEP YOUR SELF RESPECT. DO RIGHT BY HIS WIFE AND TELL HIM IF MEN SAY I DO YOU SAY I DON'T.

YOU AND HIS WIFE DESERVE BETTER - HE HAS PROBABLY DONE THIS COUNTLESS TIMES BEFORE EVEN IF YOU SWEARS THE USUAL - I AM SO ATTRACTED TO YOU, I HAVE NEVER BEEN WITH ANYONE BUT MY WIFE ETC ETC ETC

BE SMART AND DON'T BE FOOLED.

Answer 9

Dont do it he will just use you then you will have a hard time going to work and seeing him everyday eventually youll quit or be fired and the grass aint greener on the other side

Answer 10

stay away! Try to imagine if you were married and really happy and your husband cheated on you with an employee. I'm sure you'd agree it would be devastating. I know you have no attatchments with his wife, but remember 'what goes around comes around.'