Me & My boyfriend has been together for 2 years & We are thinking about getting married next year. next year he'll be 19 & i'll be 16. so,what do you think?
2007-05-05 06:00:27 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
as long as you have love (and your parents permission) then yes! forget what people say, you know when you are ready, just dont jump into things because marriage is for a lifetime not 5 minutes.
2007-05-05 06:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 8⤋
You don't have children, right? There is no reason why you guys can't just keep having a committed dating relationship, even set a date that you will get married when you are 18 or 19. You could then spend the next couple of years getting things lined up so that you guys have a good start in life...prepare for the working world, and YOU get your H.S. diploma, etc.
Personally, I would definitely wait on the marriage thing. I know women who got married at 16, etc., and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM now, in their 30's and 40's say "I never go to do ANYTHING on my own! I never had time to be FREE!" Just think about that....and that's if your marriage actually lasts -- and getting married this young usually means you won't. Sorry.
2007-05-05 06:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by SillySally 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you have been living on your own and working have a job car and pay all your bills.Otherwise you dont have any idea of what adult life entails much less amrriage.Its not all honeymoon sex hon. Its responsibility and if he dies where would you be?Gte an education and a good job first so youll have something to bring to the marriage besides sex.Your young and want to enjoy life, like going out and having fun with your guy right?You cant do that if your taking care of a bay feeding it and changing it every 2-3 hrs all day and all night. Also if there are no kids there will be financial responsibility and people chaneg a LOT between the ages of 15-25.Do you really think you know as much NOW as you will at 25?Look back to when you were 11 and ask yourself if youve learned anything about life.You have a LOT more to learn hon.Get thru school first.
2007-05-05 06:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOO. You don't know it now but you have no idea what married life is like. You have dated one guy since you were 14 and want to get married? That alone shows your immaturity. Yes, I'm sure you are both very mature for your age. I am 36, been married 13 years, 2 kids, ages 2 and 7. You have a lot dating years left. You have to get out and get an education and meet a lot more people and see and experience a lot more things before you get married. Once you are married you are not your own person anymore. You are a couple. You are both way to young to appreciate that right now. Wait, Wait, Wait!!!
2007-05-05 06:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by dkwkbmn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are too young. It's too early in your life to decide such things yet.
I have a friend who is only 15 and got engaged to a 19 year-old guy. After they decided to get engaged, the guy cheated on her and there were other problems as well. Eventually, they broke up.
This probably isn't your case, but I think your marriage won't be that happy if you start it now. A recent study has found that the younger you marry, the more likely you are to later get a divorce.
My advice: just continue to be boyfriend and girlfriend for a few more years, until you're at least 18. That will give you enough time to truly decide if you love him.
2007-05-05 06:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's traditional for u/ ok in ur religion, yea i guess, but i personally think u should wait b/c if something goes wrong u dont wanna be divorced at 16 or 17.. it just wont look good
i'm getting married at 18 and 2 days lol but i dont think i missed out on anything in my life, i went through it all.. and i'm arabian so it's sorta traditional but we're really modern lol
the only thing thats gonna change is that wen i'm in college i'm not gonna be getting drunk every night w/ ppl i dont even know and having sex w/whoever..
i mean i can still go out w/my friends only i'll be married and i'll have a husband so i'm not gonna like mess around!
but my fiance is 30(i thought he was like 24 wen we first met and i he thought i was 20 but i found out like 4 months later.. long story) now and a stockbroker so that helps lol we'll have a housekeeper at home that can do the cleaning and cooking and what not, i guess it just depends on if ur ready mentally emotionally and financially, good luck! :)
oh and i was engaged at ur age now it's been 2 yrs and i'm glad we waited to get married.. b/c we got to know eachother and had more than enough time to plan the wedding!
p.s. my wedding dress came in yesterday!!! i love it! and i wish u the best
2007-05-05 06:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're throwing your life awya. At that young you may be in love but it won't last because you'll have been with each other for too long. As a young adult you'll want to have fun. Being married you have more responsibilities. Some poeple say the purpose of marriage is children. Therefore, being tied down with marriage and kids won't help you get anywhere. You may be in love but you can take it slower. There's no need to settle down now. You could move in together but you may find you need some freedom and the relationship will break apart.
2007-05-05 06:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
nope I think its a bad idea i think you are both too young to get married. I would suggest living together and learning how to be responsible adults together first. Life seems so easy when you're sixteen but wait until you have to pay all the bills yourself with your spouse it is nowhere near as easy as it seems and a heck of a lot more stressful. There are so many marriages that end because the two people invilved cannot get through their money issues. I would live together for several years. Finish school go to college get a job then plan a wedding
2007-05-05 08:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there! I think maybe I can help. Just think about it really carefully (obviously). Its possible to do it and be really happy but your situation will be a bit awkward no matter what you do. Just ask yourself these questions:
-How will we afford the wedding?
-Where will we live?
-How will we furnish where we live?
-How will we afford to live there?
-How will we get to work?
-How will we afford that car or whatever it is?
-How will we keep going to school (I assume) and still afford all this?
When you budget don't forget utilities, rental insurance for your apartment (I assume), gas for the car, insurance for the car... talking with your parents about estimates and budgeting advice is a plus. I gotta tell you I couldn't have made it without my parents financial and emotional help. If you don't have them on your side, your chances decrease dramatically. From a non-financial point of view, I have to tell you two things:
-Make sure you are okay with the lifestyle changes you will have to endure. There will be no x-boxes anymore, you will be flat out broke and your parents will be too drained helping you make ends meet to give you the fun stuff. PLUS-There will be no "me" anymore, it will ALWAYS be "we" that comes first in EVERY issue. Being a teenager you are psycologically prone to be selfish, you can't help it! It will wear off in your early 20s.
-You will be a completely different person by the time you are 20, and he may be too. If you are flexible enough to grow together you can make it work. I feel like I have a much stronger marraige for that time that we grew together : )
-Keep in mind that being married young will change your whole life from here on out. It will change your maturity level from your peers forever, it will change the way you look at money and relationships.
- Don't cheat yourself out of the beautiful ceremony you deserve just because you are excited! Take your time, plan it out. I wish I had spent more time on mine, but we had a baby and I had to hurry for insurance and tax reasons. Good luck, I wish you the very best. : )
2007-05-05 06:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by <Sweet-Innocence> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do NOT want to do that. You as a woman have the right to not be married off to someone at that age, thanks to womens suffrage! Be young! Be wild! If you love your boyfriend, when you turn 18, get an apartment with him. Learn if you can live with him. Look at your choices in life. Settling down at a young age doesnt work as often as it used to! And when he turns 21 and can go to the bar, you think you're gonna be ok with the fact that you'll be left at home, waiting for him to get home? Honey there is so much potential in this word for you, your man, and your relationship. Try other things out before you leap.
2007-05-05 06:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by kissamoose217 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Why the rush? You have your whole life ahead of you. You're 16, you don't even know what you really want yet. You may think you do, but trust me, that will change very much in the next 10 years. There were a few guys I thought were "the one" when I was younger, and looking back, I would never want to date ANY of them now. Your goals change, your wants change, your needs change, your interests change, and what you want out of life changes drastically between now and your early to mid 20s. Making a lifelong commitment would be a huge mistake.
2007-05-05 06:08:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋