so yesterday a person that i love told me that he has feelings for my bestfriend yet he still loves me how can that be? i want him to choose only one of us and whichever he chooses ill be happy because i cant force him to want me and i woudlnt since after he told me he also began to judge me telling me that im stubborn and that i have all these bad qualities it really hurt me its enoguh that he tells me he likes my bestfriend (who most likely likes him back i know she does ) and well me and this guy we werent going out its just that we are the unofficial couple" he kept tellin me he loved me. but now all of the sudden this...i was expecting it..but it is just too overwhelming..what can i do ?
2007-05-05 05:43:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first i would cuss the **** out of him he has no right to tell u all that and its true u cant change how he feels and it suxks it had to be ur bestfriend well life goes on..so jus try ur best and enjoy what life gives u!
2007-05-05 06:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by whiten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you and I can emphatize. I pray that you will find a way through this and love yourself enough FIRST -to believe that you will live. First of all - your friendship is obviously broken with your 'best friend'. If your fellow's feelings are directed at her - what kind of relationship can you continue with her? Find some new friends. I don't know how old you are, but I do know that these kinds of things happen in your youth. The judging he's doing is his only way out to make you look like the bad guy. Separate yourself from both of them. Get the smile back on your face and count this as ONE DOWN AND PLENTY TO GO!! Believe me, he is not the only fish in the sea. If you allow them to see you moping around and lost and hurting, that's not going to bring him back - sometimes people enjoy seeing us hurt - but you need to get back up in the saddle and ride, Sally ride!!!
2007-05-05 05:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first sign of a bad relationship was the "unofficial couple" thing. If he hadn't gone for your friend, you would have stayed and fallen in love more, and other problems would have broken you guys up. U think about him a lot? stop wondering about what could have been, stop thinking about him. get a fling just to get over it
2007-05-05 05:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets hurt by the one they love especially if they are younger when they "fall in love".
Now days alot of kids get hurt more and easier because they come from broken homes or their parents aren't around much. Sometimes both parents are so busy they don't have the time for their children. Kids get attached to other kids easier. This makes for early serious dating and gangs.
2007-05-05 05:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath.
Feel the hurt.
Cry. Wallow in misery for 24 hours.
Write bad poetry.
Realize that you might not even remember this a year from now.
This too shall pass.
2007-05-05 05:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by emenbensma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a messed up situation but you can survive it!!!!! you shouldn't even want to deal with a guy that has feelings for your "best friend" even if he chooses yo it would still sit in the back of my mind that this guy actually told me he had feelings for my best friend and if he chooses her and she deals with him id just get both of them out of my life because if shes suppose to be your best friend she shouldn't want to get involved with somebody she knows damn well you like, that's just dirty both of them are just dirty you don't need that type of drama. I'm sure hes not the only boy in your town. leave the drama behind before it gets worse. remember a real friend wouldn't do anything to hurt you!!!!! move on and enjoy life beisdes hes being an asshole by putting you down
2007-05-05 05:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by sosad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all do not be a "pathetic-sore loser girl" who wants to die. I have been there and done that and it is NOT WORTH it.
being a "unofficial couple" and go where he wants because he tells you that he LOVED you, take note there is a "D" on love so therefore you are past tense girl. Since he like your best friend he will use you to be his "bridge" to your best friend.
you deserve more than this, do not put yourself too low.
2007-05-05 05:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by sharron_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd punch the jackhole in the face for lying to me. I love you, but want to date someone else is pure bullshit. He wants to date other people and have you as a side incase it doesn't work. He was playing with you, then had the nerve to criticize you. Stand up for yourself. Don't let this jerk take advantage of you. Hope he treats your friend with more respect and move on. Don't even give him the time of day.
2007-05-05 05:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't take that! be strong! the truth is he never really loved you...maybe he was trying to get to know you to know your friend. Its messed up but he things like this make you learn and makes you a stronger person. So, tell him to go with his heart and both of you can still be friends. Maybe it will confuse him that you are acting like you don't care or maybe it won't confuse him. He's playing with you.
2007-05-05 05:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by aimzq09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋