he did apologise for not turning up
i have not contacted him since
i don't know what to do
i really like the guy however
2007-05-05 04:16:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No don't contact him. He's definately not worth it - and don't send him a nasty text either, cause even if you didn't it makes the guy think you really cared that he didn't show. Also, if you don't contact him at all - how's he even supposed to know that YOU turned up at all?!?!
2007-05-05 04:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he had been bothered about letting you down he would have been in touch to say SORRY but since he has not bothered I would cut my loses You are obviously a nice person as you are even thinking about giving him another chance but at the end off the day would it be worth it as if he thought he got away with not showing up first time why bother there are plenty more fish in the sea all you need is the right bait for the right guy and patience (good luck )
2007-05-05 11:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by jj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh.... I have had this happen to me in the past and yeh, it's annoying! I didn't text him, or call, but neither did he?
We HAD however, chatted on MSN, so one time (weeks later and after I'd just forgotten about it)... he came online. I just said "hey" and we got chatting like mates. I didn't say anything and he just said that loads of stuff had happened etc etc and that he was sorry...
I genuinely feel that sometimes, guys think we want to get all serious on them... like they'll show up and we'll be standing there in a white dress with a man of the cloth?
I don't think so... It really pisses me of when guys think it's acceptable to just not turn up... But then again, you have to give the benefit of the doubt. Something MAY have happened, but you can't act off about it. Depends how well you know him and if you'll run into him in the future... If you do, act cool, like he's an old friend. Smile, say things are "great with me, how are you" and pat him on the arm. Say you have to go and leave - don't mention it.
If you feel compelled to text him, leave it about 2 weeks and say, "hows it going stranger?" or something like that (that was off the top of my head - don't judge)... and leave it. If he texts back, cool.. But if it's with, "who is this?" - He's a LOSER!
2007-05-05 11:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by ThatNeverHappens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him one chance to explain, as some kind of emergency or the like may have come up and he's reluctant to explain for the moment. If I didn't get a good explanation along with the accompanying request for a rain check, then I would figure he just wasn't that into me and would then let him go without the need to be nasty.
2007-05-05 11:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him another chance if he has a legit excuse for not coming. even know he may have not called telling you he could not show up he apologised so he must really like you.Talk to him and let him know that he needs to communicate more and call u right when he find out he can not meet you somewhere. Dont call quits on a good relationship for a one mess up. iF you really love him or like him alot give him a second chance and see how he changes his ways. But dont forget to talk to him about it......
2007-05-05 11:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by im just THAT GUY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An apology alone wouldn't be sufficient. I would require a legitimate reason why I was stood up...did he misplace his phone and that's the only place he had my #?
IF I felt he had a good enough reason, I'd consider making new date plans...if he gave a lame excuse, or none at all, then that would be the end.
No nasty text message...what would that accomplish? I don't want that kind of karma...
2007-05-05 12:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't send a nasty text. Maybe something happened to him. Better give the benefit of the doubt the first time but he better have a good excuse. I wouldn't contact him again though- he doesn't really sound interested.
2007-05-05 11:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably let it go. If someone did that to me I would get the impression they were not particularly interested, unless there was a genuinely good excuse. Don't send a nasty text either. Not worth it.
2007-05-05 11:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ginny Jin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's put the shoe on the other foot. If something happened and you couldn't make it and weren't home when he came by to pick you up and you apologized do you think you should be given a second chance?
As they say in the old country sh*t happens.
2007-05-05 11:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a good reason..."my grandma had a stroke and I was on my way when I got the call and had to turn left and go to the hospital instead of right to meet you." then be understanding. If he is just like "sorry" ask him why and unless he has a good reason, ditch him
2007-05-05 11:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋