2007-05-05 02:07:21 · 21 answers · asked by Arielle J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask, then no, it isn't good. You should only say yes to a marriage proposal if you are 100% certain, not a doubt in your mind, that you want to spend the /rest of your life/ with this person.
Remember, even though it isn't now most of the time, marriage is for LIFE. And an engagement isn't just a romantic moment with a ring and what not - it's a proposal for the two of you to be together for LIFE.
Are you ready to say yes to that kind of a question? If so..go ahead and do it.
If not, go back to him and tell him that maybe you guys should date a few more years before making such a big commitment. If he can't appreciate the reasoning behind such a statement, he doesn't deserve you. :)
2007-05-05 02:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Basiate 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Back out... tell him you were "caught up in the moment" absolutely it may work out...you both need to take into account that you are "young adults" and that the people you are today are NOT the people you are going to be 2 years...5 years...10 years down the road... Marriage should be something that you put a whole lot... of thinking into... and as nice as it would be to say that Love conquers all... fact of the matter is it takes a whole lot more than love to make a marriage work... what you both need is some alone time... to ponder your futures... and I mean without each other for a couple of months...
If you are going to proceed along the matrimonial trail... sit down alone... and discuss what the future will hold for you two... what are his expectations??? what are yours...
Ultimately... your both going to see somewhere down the road... that one person... for the rest of your life... was a mistake...
Get married... sure... after all marriage isn't fatal... people make mistakes all the time... even folks older than you make this mistake...
It's all good... just be prepared... marriage is more than a piece of paper... it's about two people who have vowed that no matter what...you will be there for each other... and "No matter what" covers a whole lot of ground...
a tip to see if it will succeed??? move in together... buy a puppy... if you can make it together for 3 years without lying, cheating, "running home to mother" or arguing over who gets custody of the dog... set a date....
good luck
2007-05-05 09:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, HEHEHE!
what the hells the matter with you. chances are hes not the one. only a fool would be so naive to propose to someone in12th grade.
im 30 and i barely finished getting my yayas out.
but im an optimist , so true love isnt far fetched. even nowadays.
theres a whole new world outside of high school sweety.
and theres plenty of time to play house with the boys.
concentrate on yourself first. a person can only start to care for another after they learn to care for them selfs.
you are #1 in your life always. temptation lurks around every corner. so be smart and on your toes.
2007-05-05 09:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by melovesdaddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to ask this question you should be having another look at your relationship because you have doubts obviously. Also you are still young go to college get out in the world see whats out there before you settle down you may one day regret not doing those things. Good luck
2007-05-05 09:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you love him, than congrats
just make sure you really think this through. Are you ready to be with this guy for the rest of your life? Are you sure your not rushing. If it makes you feel better, just have a long engagement. See how that works out.
2007-05-05 09:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Marcela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you're planning to go to college, you still got a lot ahead of ya. I wouldn't want a husband in my way of being ambitious and trying to make my dreams come true. If you truly love him and know that he won't be in your way, and you two can make it through the rest of your lives together (keep in mind, that means you can't be with anyone else for the rest of your life!!), then it's all fine.
2007-05-05 09:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by gorgeous♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not good. you're too young. You need to enjoy your teenage years and your 20's before getting married. Wait till your in the mid 20's and above to get married. By that time, you'll have a better understanding of life
2007-05-05 09:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by #1 Monkey Minion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
firstly how old are you and how long have you been together?
if you have been together quite a while and you both feel its right for you then all i can say is congratulations
life is to short to put things of if its the right thing to do
but if your worried about what people may think then you can always have a long engagement
2007-05-05 09:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by vicky g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how old you two are. If you love him, if you plan on being with him for the rest of your life. If you think you can provide for two instead of just one, then do it. What have you got to loose? Try it out, and if it doesn't work, then forget about it. You learn from your mistakes, right?
Congratulations and good luck =]
2007-05-05 09:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by jesa ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how long u 2 have been dating.
2007-05-05 09:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋