I'm 17 weeks with baby #3 and feeling a bit down at the mo. My other half changed his day off this week from thursday to saturday this week coz his friend is doing stuff today for his birthday so that he could go too. I don't mind that, but it just seems that he's always out and doing stuff when he's not at work (he's not, he's here most of the time, it just feels that way) and I'm here all day (which I class as my job) and here all evening. I feel a bit trapped at the mo, coz my eldest is at school so I can't do anything during the day that takes too long to get to or back from because of the school run, and my youngest is 18months, so she still needs a lot of attention and looking after. When this one is born it'll be around her 2nd birthday, so I'll have two young ones at home all day, and I'm really starting to feel like I'm gonna be stuck at home without a life for ever! Sorry it's so long, needed a good rant!
2007-05-05 00:21:16 · 11 answers · asked by georgina155744 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
hi there. i can totally sympathize AND emphatize with you. just a few months back, i was also feeling the way you are right now. i have 3 kids, 2 are in preschool & the youngest (2 years) stays at home with me. I'm a full time, stay-at-home mom who also felt that i was losing my identity, wasted my university degree, gave up a fulfilling career (9 years ago) just to end up changing diapers, doing the laundry, cooking dinners, etc. i guess it's normal to go through this phase. it's perfectly ok to rant and let off some steam. it's not healthy to keep negative emotions bottled up inside. me, i came to the point that i just wanted to pack up & leave! but i knew i couldn't leave my kids. one day, i woke up before everyone, and left the house without telling anybody where i was going. i just wanted to be ALONE! and i realized that I also needed time for myself; that i needed to meet with my friends once in a while; try to reconnect with a world so totally different than the 4 corners of my house. what im trying to say is, create some" ME time" for yourself. even if it will only be just a couple of hours.
i still sink into my low mood sometimes, its unavoidable. but now i understand that I am the only one who can change how i feel, i make the effort to squeeze in a few minutes to just sit down and breathe.
please feel free to email me if you want to talk more.
(myrah_lopez@yahoo.com)
2007-05-05 00:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by mamai326 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is totally normal. Its very confining to have small children! I felt the same way as you. When my third was born, my oldest was not quite three, and my second was 13 months! I barely remember my third child's first year of life. My oldest was in preschool three mornings a week, which didn't leave much time to do anything, plus I had the two little ones home with me. Oh yeah, and my husband travelled Monday-Friday. I don't know if its possible for you, but what helped me was I got a babysitter one morning a week. If nothing else it allowed me to grocery shop in peace! I lived for that one morning a week, it helped me get through the rest of the week. I was also fortunate my mother lived close by, and she helped out whenever she could.
Anyways, my kids are now 6, 4, and 3. The older two are in school full time, and my baby is in preschool three mornings a week - you do get your life back, I promise!! I would say by the time my youngest turned two, I was feelling more back to normal. I'm sure this seems like forever and a day to you now, but I promise, the time actually does go by fast as I look back at it now. Hang in there, and I wish you the best of luck!!!!
2007-05-05 00:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have twin daughters that are 2 and I know the feelings you are having. I am here at home all day except when I have errands to run and then the kids come to. Sometimes you just need time to yourself and it seems as if nobody cares. I also have a 17 year old daughter who will be going off to college this fall and then it will be just me and the young ones. My husband works long hours and he spends time with the kids in the evenings and gives me a break. Feels like that isn't enough for me. I love my children dearly but sometimes you just have to get away. Have fun with your young ones cause they won't be cute and cuddly forever. Good luck and if you ever need to rant...here I am..
2007-05-05 00:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by Donna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee you sound like me, except my eldest is 3, 2nd is 17 months and am 32 weeks pregnant. If you can pass your middle child on to a relative for a few hours why not go have a pampering session with a massage, or get your nails or hair done! Go shout yourself some "me" time. I'm sure that may help.
2007-05-05 00:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by jayger04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt exactly the same with my first baby although i didnt have other children to care for too! why dont you set yourself a few things to do for the week - on sunday write yourself a weekly plan, maybe monday you just stay in and clean the house, say tuesday take your little one to the park, wednesday you go for a walk, thursday - stay in again, and friday have a friend round! i know it sounds silly but this really helped me when i was feeling like you do because instead of waking in the morning, taking your child to school and coming home thinking "great, another c**p day at home on my own" you will have a clear picture of what your doing that day, if you know your staying in that day you wont feel so disappointed, if you know you have to go to the park, you will aim for doing that "job" and you can always have something to look forward to on friday - your friend coming round or maybe have your hubby take you out for a meal or drink friday night! if you have something to look forward to then you will feel much better - really i know this sounds stupid but it did really work for me! good luck!
2007-05-05 00:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by girley_05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is absolutely normal. I have one in school and a toddler at home. My husband works crazy hours and it sometimes feels like I'm doing this all by myself. Look around in your area to see if there is a moms organization. MOMS club international has chapters all over. The website is momsclub.org. This has been a lifesaver for me. When we moved to a differen state, one of the first things I did was look up to see if there was one in my new community. Another friend moved and started her own chapter.
2007-05-05 02:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's some heavy stuff to be questioning approximately. I generally hear to my well-liked music, loosen up in a warm tub (with the music) consume some thing yummy and basically loosen up. in case you could, take an prolonged walk someplace non violent. i do no longer fairly be conscious of what you have at your disposal. yet i attempt to do issues that i myself savour. while everybody is scuffling with around you that's difficult to split your self from the drama. My mom and dad used to combat plenty while i replaced into growing to be up, Heck they nonetheless do now that i'm grown and out of the abode. i might get far flung from the abode while they have been scuffling with. of course at 3 interior the morning that can't happen. i might positioned headphones on and examine out and drown them out. i'm so sorry you're able to desire to bypass by this. Do you have a chum to communicate to? conversing to somebody can fairly help you experience greater effectual, even whether that's one among those warm-traces for persons handling abuse. they are there so you might communicate to.
2017-01-09 12:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm home all day too, with our kidz, my husband has 2 full time jobs! so when he's home he's sleeping. i'm not pregnant, but i love to lay out and get pretty and tan. it's really relaxing,and yeah yeah it's bad for your skin but it feels great. next research will say don't breath it ages you faster!!!! oh yeah and it's free and you don't have to go any where. dont have to dress and pack up the kid's either. manicures are overated i wash too many dishes, faces and dirty butts for nails that cost 20 bucks!!! just wanted you to know i feel your pain mama!!!
2007-05-05 02:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an outside activity, with the kids or without them (in that case, take them to the house of a relative)
Go to a park, have a walk, buy yourself a treat...and recover your peace so you can deal with your life and take care of the kids.
2007-05-05 00:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chin up! Grit your teeth! Realize that your kids are your life, and nothing is more important than your kids! We all have bad days and it's mostly due to our stinking rotten corruptament, but that's a whole other story, so toughen up and find some fun things to do with your kids, there will be days ahead for you to get away from it all but, you must be patient... Good Luck!
2007-05-05 00:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋