my gf is a 30 year old single mom with a five year old son. i am 21 and i am very much comfortable with our relationship.i love her son like my own.i want to marry her and want to build a family with her . but she seems to be very much concerned about my age . what i have to do ? thanks in advance to all for ur answers
2007-05-04 23:04:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm thankful for all u guys opinions, especially the answer from Dylan was very much encouraging , thanks dylan.Emilia i'm thankful for ur answer too. believe me i am very much serious about my relationship , i understand the realities of life .i believe , she is the one for me , she is like a baby to me and i love sending her teddy bears (she loves it too , from the way she responds).the answer from bill was critical ,thanks for the concerns bill.answers from "its k" and "like it were outstanding too . i believe we are made for each other and thats all that matters to me . thanks again for ur responses guys.
2007-05-05 04:29:52 · update #1
age is only a number.
don't stress.
if you guys are happy and comfortable then thats awsome.
im a 26yr old single mum with a 3 yr old. i find it hard to find a guy like you. she should be greatful.
2007-05-04 23:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Dylangirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. 1 opinion :
If I were her, I would not get married with you.
You are a baby, 1 baby is enough, the other one is a pet. Sorry.
No.2
She is a single mom, she must have enough problem and struggling having to survive, unless her parents is rich .
What can you offer to make her happy or give her an easier life ;Is your parents rich, that she doesn't have to work any more?
No.3
You feel very much comfortable,why ??? Maybe she is not.
Maybe she thinks that getting married means having to feed 3.5 people instead of 1.5 .
Usually, guys your age, eat a lot tho.
No.4
You should realize that, in 10 years time, she would be 40 and youre only 31.
Wringkles start appear. Mind you, lots of jealousy will come into your life, I see this happen ;
20 years later, You will be in your itch time for abt at least 7 years , and she is getting old enough that you are not interested on her any more. You want a young one, have a nice screwing .
So, keep being friendly, if she is not No.1 above, enjoy your sex life with an experienced one. It is fun .
I think you are addicted tho.
2007-05-04 23:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A 30 year old lady who has brought up a 5 year old child has obviously gone through much trials and tribulations, her maturity and experience with life is great assuming that she has come from the same socio economic background as you, i am assumeing that she reads you like a book, your 21, you've seen a little of life, but not from a mothers point of view, she may see you as not being able to fullfill the role of a father and also a husband in the context of life experience, and i suppose she wants you to realise that you have 10 years of valueble life to experience all the joys of meeting someone your own age group and going through the issues naturally as you age and gaining the life experience that of a 30 year old. she may also think that you may come to your senses one day and become bitter that you could'nt enjoy the the way life could have been. your so young yet. live and discover life naturally. i hope this answer helps in some way or at least gets some thoughts moving around.
2007-05-04 23:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mum of 36 with a 12 year old girl. My boyfriend is of my age, but never married and never had a child. So from a single mum's point of view, a 21 year old man is still a bit too young, considering when we were in our early 20s we already had a big responsibility (me-married with a young baby). In my view, 21 year old men are still "kids", if you could prove me wrong, good on you. Maybe your girlfriend is concerned you might miss out on things that 21 year old men do (I missed out on my early 20s) and might recent her if things didn't work out between you two. It's great that you get on with her child. If you think you're up for it, don't stop being supportive of her, prove her that you could be the man of the house, the man she could TRUST and so on and so forth.
Remember you're not commited to her just yet. When you're ready, mate.
2007-05-04 23:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by like-it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to be the mummy no longer the suited pal. maximum sixteen 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous women are boy loopy so she is well-known. yet there must be rules on your place. communicate along with her and tell her the guidelines and what you anticipate from her and the main needed ingredient is to tell her why you're placing those rules. college had to be her concentration precise now and the boyfriend has to return 2d. So no telephone calls until eventually the homework is finished, and then i could shrink the era. My daughter could take a seat and hear her boyfriend breathe for an hour if i could enable her. No computing gadget chatting until eventually homework is finished, the two. somewhat no relationship on college nights. have you ever met this boy if no longer that desires to be a precedence for you and much extra useful get to fulfill his mum and dad so as that they comprehend your rules on your place and you will be able to comprehend what his rules are. it relatively is lots harder to fool us mum and dad as quickly as we paintings at the same time. Your little woman is starting to be up and it relatively is as much as you to steer her on a course to being a effectual and being concerned woman.
2016-10-04 10:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by lichtenberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a 33yr old single mum with 2 sons now in thier teens, from my view if i had a b/f of 21 i would be wondering wat an earth a 21yr old wanted to settle down with me for when there is so much for you to do, its very difficult to allow a man into your life in the first place never mind speak of full time commitment when you already have that with your child, maybe you should hold of the thoughts of marriage until she realises you are there to stay and mean what you say!
2007-05-04 23:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you have to prove to her that you are mature enough to take that responsibility, which you have to follow for the rest of your life. Are you sure you want to do this? If the answer is yes, then you can do that. But remember, you have to ask and listen to your heart first and then see all the answers that appear in front of you. Congratulations for you marriage. Good luck, i wish you every happiness.
2007-05-04 23:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why your age bothers her, and do it quick before her son starts to look at you like a dad and then it doesnt work out. The son plays a big role in this to.
2007-05-04 23:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by Just Another Cali Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a boy toy to her. She is reliving her life BEFORE her child. You are both very young. If the relationship is still there in 3-4 years, THEN discuss marriage. But for now, enjoy
your MILF !
2007-05-04 23:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by jcatania58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may think that being 21 that your still too young to be settling down or something, prove to her that your ready and that you love her, hopefully she'll accept that and you 3 can be a family. Gl!
2007-05-04 23:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by lozzy_x3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋