how to beat lonliness when you lose wife at age 47?

Answer 1

Rajendra - mujeh bahut afsos he bhaya.

I'm very sorry for your loss! My good thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time - if it was a recent loss.

The first thing you have to ask yourself is are you feeling the general, garden-variety of loneliness that all of us single people feel (and that you felt before you were married) or are you specifically missing your late wife.

If the latter, then you haven't completed the mourning process and that's OK. Everyone does these things at his own pace. There are no rules for these things. I'm sure you have heard about the steps of mourning. The last step is acceptance. One day you wake up and say, "I am ready to move on with my life" Only you will know when that day comes. There are many movies with this theme. Sometimes life is like the movies. Often it is not. Some things you never get over completely - and that's fine too. The important point is that everything you are feeling is legitimate. You have a right to feel that way.

Once you have determined that you are past the mourning process, you need to get yourself into a mental place where you can imagine sharing your life with someone else. You needn't act on this until you are ready. Again, go at your pace. The point here is open-ness.

The first natural step is to be open to people who want to introduce you to women. It's the easiest step and if the matchmaking friend knows you well, then chances are it won't be a horrible experience since they have done some of the screening for you. Maybe you will like the people you are introduced to but either way it will move you forward. From there you may feel comfortable joining a dating site or asking a woman out.

Once you overcome the initial hurdles, it will be easier. It will never be easy but it will be easier. Your next challenge will be evaluating a significant other purely on her individual merits rather than how she compares to your late wife.

The laws of physics are right - objects at rest tend to stay at rest and it takes a lot of energy to get them moving again. The human heart works the same way. The first couple of steps are the hardest.

Good luck brother!

Answer 2

So sorry to hear about the death of your wife. Some people can suggest certain unpractical things to help you overcome your grief, but if your wife was your life this can make the situation seem minor and impractical. All I can suggest is that you don't lock yourself up in your house. Sunshine is good! Get out and about. Join a social club in a interest that suits you; eg; sports, social club etc..... What are your interests?...... What is something you always wanted to try?
Don't sit inside on the computer all the time as this will only make it harder for you to get out of the house. The more you get out and interact with people the more confident and happier you will become then you will have the confidence to start moving on in your life and meet a new companion. I am sure your wife would of wanted you happy. Enjoy your life it is the only one you have.

Answer 3

Do you mean your wife passed away? Are you 47 or was she? First of all if you think getting into a new relationship will help, it will only cover the grief and the pain of your loss. Have you grieved, it takes time and energy, not easy ! Seek help help from groups that have been through similar situation, that way you will not feel alone, there are groups held at hospitals and advertised in the paper. You do not have to stay home, but invite friends over, talk to people who are willing to listen. Journal your feelings all of them! Rushing into another relationship would be very unhealthy too soon after your loss. you need to take care of yourself, get help, you can heal after awhile, but until you do your grief work, healing decisions, are hard to make, so take time! Best of Luck

Answer 4

I am sorry for your loss. It must be rough for you. At the same time, when your wife was still alive, what were some of the things you liked to do. Just because she's gone doesn't mean those things inside that you liked to do are gone as well. Take some time for you and figure out what you want to do. Try doing something for someone else maybe in a volunteer capacity. At least it will take your mind off your loss.

Remember to grieve the loss and when you are ready to start moving forward you'll know the time.

best of luck

Answer 5

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. I have not been in your situation but if I was after a suitable amount of time of being lonely I would join up to a sporting club like tennis or golf that does social mixed games. They usually have social nights where you may meet someone who is great company or knows someone that you may get along with. Also join up to charity organisations and keep yourself busy. Remember Karma comes to those who wait. Also if you are not looking for someone they will appear when you least expect it. My husband said buy a latex vagina but I think he is gross!

Answer 6

Only time can heal your loneliness, I believe you should let yourself go through the natural process of grief and loneliness after divorce or death of a spouse before you can go forward and gradually you will find pleasure in small ways again ,the years you spent with your wife and loneliness without her will gradually be replaced by another way of life, and if you loved her you will have memories to help you get past this difficult time in your life. I wish you good luck and peace of mind.

Answer 7

Do something you like. Example:
1) Play music
2) Fix your house
3) Go for fishing
4) Find an interest in your life that can fulfill your memories and especially you. I'm really sorry about your wife i know how you feel when you lose someone you really loved, good luck.

Answer 8

Engage yourself on what you really like...but if the thing you really like the most is your wife...then you need to clone her...(joke)

I suggest you chat...meet other people over the Internet...I know many Filipina (if you like Asians) who is looking for a husband.

Answer 9

Bar hopping? do you like pool? that will keep ya entertained if you can stand to go out with a couple buddies and have a few drinks and play some games and chat.

Answer 10

u r only as old as you fell if you think your old and lonely now what are you gonna do in eternity when your like a gazillion yrs young with all the angel babes chasing you....really (wink)!!go out and live a little they would want you too!!!