i am an old teen an i haven't even been able to hug a guy they keep saying im to young i am always responsible and i drive myself places this is not fair to me i really feel i need a companion.
2007-05-04 22:45:15 · 20 answers · asked by Brunette Diamond 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you guys arguing when you tell them about this? Sit them down calmly when you're in a good mood. They have to be too lol. Tell them how you feel. Remember not to get angry. If they get angry, be the bigger person. It'll make you look good. Say to them, "I didn't want to talk to argue. If you're going to yell, then talk to me when you're ready to talk calmly." Yelling will just cause competition. Tell them you're almost an adult and you want to experience teenage things like going on dates with boys, holding hands, and having fun and being young. Explain that one day soon, you'll have so many responisibilities and you'd like to enjoy being young. Also tell them of your accomplishments and how good and responsible of a person you are. Let it be known you don't follow peer pressure, you have a mind of your own, and you know right from wrong.
2007-05-04 22:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of focusing on what you feel isn't fair to you, why not ask your parents exactly why they won't allow you to date? Perhaps they have reasons that they haven't explained to you, but until you ask in an "old teen" (I'm assuming you mean responsible young adult?) manner, you won't know. Ask your parents for an open, CALM discussion regarding their opinions and feelings about all of this and then share yours with them. Perhaps you can come to some kind of compromise that would make everyone concerned a little happier.
2007-05-05 05:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're parents are speaking from experience and they know what's best for you.
It may seem unfair but it is safer for you to not date right now. The safest thing is actually to remain chaste until you are married.
A lot of guys these days will only be looking to have sex, and afterwards they may disappear and find another girl. You are better off remaining a virgin until married. There are so many other girls that are also choosing to remain a virgin until married, so don't feel like by not going out or having sex that makes you such a lonely or deprived person.
2007-05-05 05:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Adel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are independent as you say, you drive so your about fifteen, do you work part time or? are you responsible? do you go out with friends?
My grandson is fifteen, he doesn't drive yet due to insurance but, is allowed to date with friends, group dating and, his mom, my daughter drives him crazy with his cell phone checking up on him. His friends go through the same thing I noticed.
These are good parents and care for their kids, I did too. Talk to them, see what they say about group dates and having a cell phone, this may change their minds, they could check up on you or you could call them to let them know your O.K. They only have one of you.
2007-05-05 05:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the rush, to grow up. your life probably seems dead.
but just up ahead is the rest of your life.
ive been there ,and done that. been around every block.
i say this to my daughters, i know from expieriance
if you play right now, your through. concentrate on what youd like to be, find your place in this world.
once youve done that , then you will see how itll pay off in the end.
calm cool and confident in your self. a man will only bring ya down, if you play right away.
2007-05-05 05:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by melovesdaddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well you are definately old enough to begin being closer to guys seeing as though you drive,im probably a couple of years or so younger than you...my parents dont know about what i do although i in my personal life although dont get much luck of my own anyways..start by becoming friends with guys and communicating with them,this will give you a headstart when you are out of your parents reach and want to start a relationship...theres no hurry to rush into a relationship straight away,especially at our age.
2007-05-05 05:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Atticus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask them if they trust you, which I hope they say yes. Then ask them if they trust in the way they raised you. Once again if they say yes, then you should tell them that they should trust your decisions, because they would truly trust you if they truly trusted in how they raised you. If that works then tell them that you know right from wrong (I hope you do) and know how to be responsable, and know a good decision from a bad one. I hope that helps.
2007-05-05 05:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sharksblade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so you're old enough to drive ... and I am reading this in the Australian section .. so that makes you at least 17 ..
That's old enough as far as I'm concerned ( although ask me again when my daughter is 17)...
well why not try this ... If there;s a guy that likes you and you him ....ask if he would like to come to your house for dinner .. let your parents meet him and get to like him ..
I know it's not ideal .. but it's worth a try
2007-05-05 05:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by ll_jenny_ll here AND I'M BAC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question should be "How can my parents convince me that I should be reading my textbooks and learning as much as possible so I can hold a respectable conversation with a man when I am a woman?"
2007-05-05 05:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by DAVID C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are doing the right thing. Stay focused on getting out of highschool and/or extending your education by attending college.
You will be caught up in the drama of dating sooner than you know it.
2007-05-05 05:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Staci C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋