My guy has been acting really weird, in and out all hours of the night and when i did ask him about what he's up to he gets all defensive. usually i could call his friends house and talk to him when he's out or he'd call me but recently he's been gone for the whole entire eveniong and through till the next morning, he'll come home really early in the morning and lay in bed, or i'll have to go find him. sometimes i don't even see him until i get off work the next night. he swears he'd never ever cheat on me, he's always said that. he told me if he ever found intrest in another girl he would tell me before he did anything with her, but with all these weird things he's been doing i'm not so sure i belive him. is is also known to lie, a lot.he'll lie just about anything. i've been with him for 4 years, what can i do to get his attention towards me rather than whatever he's doing while he's gone? what do you all think is going on?
2007-05-04 22:35:47 · 22 answers · asked by Bitterly Sweet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
now he isn't at his friends he'd usually go to and he doesn't call. i mean, he has to be somewhere with someone for 10 hours or more at night until the morning. am i being to overbearing or should i be worried?
2007-05-04 22:37:42 · update #1
Oh man, girl! Trust your GUT feelings!
You have a few choices here;
1. You can start using your alone time finding a new place, new friends, and new life! How exciting! Go out! Get some new clothes, hair done, and go out! Join groups! Someone else can wait there for him, maybe the person he's with now. Think of all the things you've been wanting to do in life.
2. You can spy on him, have someone else follow him if you can't, put a voice recorder in his car, place a global positioning device (I think called a GPS, will show you exactly where he goes!) in his car, wire your home phone line (search on line for these devices online, electronic store for supplies, must be for entertainment purposes only I believe), or call the show "Cheaters", or "Maury", one of those shows.
Note: Prepare yourself for what you may hear and see.
3. Just do as he says to trust him, stay with him and waste your life away living for him and what makes him happy. You can't feel happy if your always feeling stressed, worried, depressed, arguing, etc.
Life is too short! Hurry, choose the first one and go live happy!
2007-05-04 23:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by jamz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to upset you in any way.. just offering my opinion to you. It sounds to me like one of two things is happening with him.. either he's cheating or has lost interest in you. (My money says he's cheating) Sure, guys like to hang out with other guys.. just as well as us girls do.. BUT.. 10 hours and nowhere to be found? Sounds like he's got something on the side. If he is NOT hiding anything.. why the need to be defensive when you ask a simple question like.."where have you been?" If you have been with this man for 4 years, an explination is the least he owes you. How about some respect? You obviously don't approve of his late night hours and behavior. Now, you can do one of two things yourself. You can sit there and take it. Or get answers for yourself. If you already know him as a liar who can't tell the truth to save his life.. then why even ask him? IF he is cheating on you.. 9 times out of 10 he isn't going to just straight up admit it to you. Why would he? If that were the case, he'd just break up with you and go out and do his thing. Why admit anything when he can just lie to you.. or make excuses to just keep you at bay? Girl, get out there and find out for yourself what your man is doing.
2007-05-04 22:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you adult adult males are accomplished with so it does not supply you the suited to get into his business employer.. and secondly, postpone so which you're cheating on your boyfriend too? whoa, ok.. how could you like if his female pal informed your boyfriend?! LOL and the completed intercourse ingredient it relatively is merely too lots, heavily.. it relatively is not even precise so which you would be able to be asserting that.. you're merely letting him get on your head.. he ("s") is time-honored with of he has you so for sure he's merely utilising you and you're merely too blinded by actuality which you're searching for convenience and for somebody to love you... which in all probability isn't what your modern boyfriend is doing... atleast it relatively is to no longer your likings... and to hate your self sounds lifelike... why do no longer you merely keep on your buisiness and leave the guy a lone, he's finished with you... if he needed you he could be with you. LOL and it is coming from somebody who's youthful. OH! and one extra ingredient in case you cared approximately this woman's thoughts then you somewhat does no longer be sound asleep along with her boyfriend, your ex.. now could you?!
2016-10-04 10:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by lichtenberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a woman instinct,if u think he's lying then he is...u've known him for 4 years and u supposed to know him that well and u said he's been acting so weird this time so ask him or talk about him on why he's so acting like that.if he still not saying the reason why then leave him and find someone else.....
2007-05-04 22:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by m m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say there's someone else in his life if he doesn't come home until the wee hours of the morning after promising that he will.
This happeend to me once, only it was my girlfriend, and she used to ALWAYS call. well, one day (to my surprise) she stopped... then a week went by... then 2 weeks... finally i just called her. i guess (at the time) she was in the process of doing the cheating. it was almost as sweet as walking in on them, and it was a nonconventional way of me catching her in the act.
hope he isn't cheating on you. I'd still leave him though, and find someone else... someone who will kiss the ground you walk on and someone who will think you're the greatest thing to ever happen to you... someone who means it when they say "i'll never cheat on you"
2007-05-04 22:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeeaaa, follow him quietly , see maybe he is joining the mafia groups, or traficking drugs. I would be suspicious if I were you.
If he has another girl usually his best friend would know and the answer is wishy washy ..
Hohohoho, you're gonna becooming a detective very soon.
2007-05-04 23:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have reason to worry. I would get to the bottom of it, but from what you've said about him getting defensive and all..it sounds like he's probably cheating.
2007-05-04 22:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's really cheating on you because acting so weird would definitely be one of the clues or it is also possible that he's hgiding something. Try to open up on him, tell him what you are thinking and ask is what you thought is true.
2007-05-04 22:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is definitely up. sounds like he is cheating...
BUT-
as his girlfriend of 4 years, and living partner.... you have every right to ask him. flat out- say - whats been going on? you've been acting strangely, and i want to know if i can help.
dont acuse him of cheating, it will only make it worse. maybe he picked up another job b/c he wants to buy you an engagement ring.... never know.... just ask him, and see what comes out...
good luck!!
2007-05-04 22:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's up to something for sure - but what is this thing?? This is what you have to find out.
Try to follow him,
or make him confess,
or ask his friends or something...
Just find out what he's been up to before you decide to do anything else. Maybe it's not a girl... Maybe it's something else.
2007-05-04 22:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by Grace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋