In November my fiance proposed to me. He said it was the happiest and most serene moment of his entire life. He did it by surprise at the Grand Canyon. We both cried. Four months later we argued a lot over finances and cause we both quit smoking. After one of those fights that got very nasty, he accidentally met his sisters friend at her house and slept with her (she is a whore and took advantage of the fight and went after him big time). He then thought he had feelings for her and loved me still but wanted to move on. It did not work only days later. After that we talked and now he says he still is crazy about me and made stupid choices and realizes things he didn't before. Can he possibly love me?
2007-05-04 22:18:18 · 10 answers · asked by theartisttwin 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What exactly makes you think this will not happen again? People do not change. And stop with the whore business. If he loved you and you trusted him, the hottest woman on the planet could not have derailed him. Go back to the grand canyon and throw him in. If you throw him over your left shoulder, you will get three wishes...Kes
2007-05-04 22:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are not even married yet and he has already slept with someone else!!! Maybe if you guys had been married for 20 years, had a couple of kids it may be worth working through it but really don't you deserve better than a bloke that is gonna sleep with someone else (no matter what the girl is like because after every fight there will always be a whore around) every time you fight.
I don't think thats love, you try not to hurt the ones you love surely. He doesn't deserve you, get a new one without an inability to keep his pants on.
2007-05-05 05:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is possible that he still loves you. Maybe you just need to hold off on the marriage thing until you work out your differences. They say one of the main reason for a lot of divorces is because of disagreements over money. But it would be hard for me to forgive him after the one night fling thing. That is something that you should make sure he is never going to do again. I can understand to a point that he might have been hurt and all and that may of been his way of getting back at you. But he should have respected you and loved you enough to not do that. Just take it slow and see where it goes, and if you can't get over your differneces then maybe you shouldn't get married. Or you might try going to a counselor. Best of luck.
2007-05-05 05:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
about half of your answers will be "what a pig" leave his ***, and the other half of your answers will give him the credit about stepping up to the plate about his mistake and being honest about it. given he thought he fell inlove with a whore,I am somewhere in between,it worried me when you had to write about how she took advantage of him,while he "accidentally"met her,to me I would think if she is such a whore this would make him think a little more. You know in your heart what to do, we know he loves you, but you need to know if you can live to forgive and marry him without any doubts of a fight happening when you are married. People make mistakes though we are only human,what matters is honesty and respect and it seems like you both have that! good luck!
2007-05-05 05:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by yessca333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes losing someone before you realize just how much you loved them. and it isn't always that you have the chance to have them back in your life. If you feel that he is sincere and that you can feel his love when your near him, and when your not. Go with your gut, not your heart. Go with your own internal instincts and you will know if it will be okay or not. So only take one day at a time, don't rush back into it so that you don't get hurt just in case he isn't sincere. Don't jump in with both your feet. test the waters first.
2007-05-05 05:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he might love you, but he doesn't respect you. The girl is not the whore it takes two to tango, he was not raped he chose to cheat on you, if he did it once can you ever trust him not to do it again. If you can't marry him with 100% trust then that is your sign not to marry him, the cheating will always be an issue and you will not last
2007-05-05 05:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand this, If he did it once then he will do it again, you will never be able to trust him ever again because the moment he is out of your sight you will always be wondering where he is. If you had not known about this ONE NIGHTS STAND then you would not be any the wiser but you do. it is up to you if you feel you can trust him again then that's fine but you will need a lot of faith.
AGONY UNCLE.
2007-05-05 05:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by coofooman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he can still love you, but the question is are you willing to forgive him?? too many times, after infidelity, the one person tries to forgive the other and move on, but they never can.. if you can honestly find it in your heart to forgive him 100%, then i'd say to give him another chance.. but you gotta really make sure that he is sorry and is committed to working through it!! otherwise, it will just be a life of resentment and pain.. good luck!!
2007-05-05 05:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by idgaf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess as long as you don't fight and he stays away from his sisters house, it may work out.
2007-05-05 05:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he showed it with meaning yes, because not a lot of guys actually admit they were wrong or made stupid decisions with feelings
2007-05-05 05:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋