Wedding Question about Islam?

Question

I have a sincere question. I have chosen which dress I like, but I'm wondering something else. Even though I will be wearing the traditional Christian wedding gown (it's a tradition here in the states), is it ok for a muslim woman to don them even when she is covered? What would fellow muslims advice be about what to wear for it? I still have a few days to run to the store and get it paid for, but I'm wondering if I should just drive to the next city and see if they have wedding abayas (just heard about this from a friend). What do my fellow muslims think would look best on me, to those who have seen my nonpregnant, non-swollen about to have a baby picture?

I am questioning because this is the last time I plan to remarry, and I want to make sure everything is right.

To the fifth answerer, thanks, I never knew that. I learned something new.

To the 7th answerer, that's just a rumor. Both are in their room the wedding night, but it also depends on the couple. I know exactly where we'll be, probably out on the town together until later.

To the answer beforer Aslam, I was previously married and used my islamic right to divorce him. From that previous marriage, I have two children.

Answer 1

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There is nothing wrong with a woman wearing a white wedding dress



Question:

Is it permissible for a woman to wear a white wedding dress on the wedding night? Or is it haraam because this is the dress of kaafir women?.

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

There is nothing wrong with a woman wearing a white wedding dress on condition that she does not appear in it in front of men who are not her mahrams, because usually wedding dresses are adorned and decorated, and we have already stated in the answer to question no. 39570 that one of the conditions of women’s hijab is that it should not be an adornment in and of itself.

It is also essential that this dress does not reveal any of the woman’s charms, even if she is only going to appear in front of women in it. See question no. 6569 and 34745.

With regard to it being the dress of kaafir women, that is not the case. Rather many Muslim women nowadays, if not most of them, wear this kind of dress.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen was asked:

What is the ruling on a woman wearing white for her wedding as it is known that this is an imitation of the kuffaar?

He replied:

It is permissible for a woman to wear white so long as it is not in the same form as men’s clothing. With regard to it being an imitation of the kuffaar, that is no longer the case, because now all Muslim women wear such clothes when they are getting married. The ruling depends on whether the reason for it is present or not. If it is no longer an imitation of the kuffaar and this has now become something that is common to both Muslims and kaafirs, then the ruling no longer applies, unless something is haraam in and of itself and not because it is an imitation of others. Such things are haraam in all cases.

Majmoo’at As’ilat tahumm al-Mar’ah, p. 92.
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Answer 2

Please note one principle before saying any thing right or wrong we need to see what that action has that is against the teachings of Islam.....as far marriage things are concerned every place has its own culture and customs we need to have some broad and healthy mind i seen some muslims who are soo much conservative that they say every thing Haram whatever they dont see in past this is what i want to highlight that u need to judge the basis first whether it contradicts teachings of Islam or not....I am a Pakistani National and we have many marriage cermonies in common with hindus may be the cultural effect of living together for 100s of years....one cermony is called "Mahndi" where guests put some Hina (i dont no its english name its brown colour used to shade your hands) on girls hand and in some cases on boys also....many people in my country says it Haram as adopted from hindus....i seen the basis for my occasion and told my mother that for my wife case i dont hve any problem cuz its customary as far i m concerned i wont do this ceremony cuz once a gay put this mahndi(hina) on his hands and Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon Him) ordered to send him outside city....now u can think what if a man is using this...so in woman case there is nothing wrong untill and unless the cermonies do not contradict teachings of Islam...cuz culture varies from place to place like wise wedding dresses of asian muslims are different from arabs and westerns .....here the question of concern would only be whether the dress properly covers ur body or not?? i mean it should not be sleeveless or should not be soo tight fitting that could attract other males to you.....please care for neck also that its not too wide.....these are the things that should be considered being a good muslim rest fashions change by time...and so the way and style every thing........probably u got what i wanna convey......Best wishes again..

Answer 3

I can't believe that you would worry about such minor details. With a bit of luck, he is going to rip off your dress, and gaze at your naked body, then ravish you a few times AFTER the Wedding, so what does it matter what you were wearing during the ceremony? Or do you guys still cover your face when your shagging?


And did you say that you were pregnant before the Marriage? Isn't there something in your holy book that proscribes that sort of activity? Shame! Shame!

Answer 4

Im guessing you arent of the same religion? How about you go 50/50 on the wedding? Go non traditional as both your traditions seem to clash or just pick a few that dont clash. Its all about compromise

Answer 5

IMO, it doesnt really matter what you are wearing as long as you keep true to your faith, and know where you stand in it.
From where I come from (Malaysia), we have muslim weddings in western wedding gowns, traditional chinese outfits, traditional japanese outfits..the list is endless. Of course, if you do cover up on a daily basis, it would be best that you adjust your outfit to cover up, because a wedding is definitely not an excuse to compromise your beliefs and values.

Answer 6

There was a bride who was very beautiful. Her friends praised her much. Every one came and said you are looking much beautiful having so charming face, beautiful dress, perfuect make up etc. She listend all that talks and replied, taking a long breath, whatever yoru applause donot have any weight, the only things matters is the approval of my groom where i have to go. If he likes this all make up, jewellary, dresses will be rewarded. So ask about your future groom what dress he likes upon you at that day. His choice should be final. As all our preparations are for that person who is going to be our life partener.

Answer 7

I hope your marriage is magical. God bless.
Welcome to the United States of Freedom. Canada is north if need be.

Answer 8

I would be more worried about the wedding night, than wearing the traditional veil decked in white.

It is rumoured that the newly wedded groom, go out on the town and I mean out on the town instead of being with their virgin wedded bride.

Answer 9

We know you and your sincere questions!
Is this really your last attempt? Unbelieveable!

You pretend to be Muslim but fail to understand the Muslim mentality ( man or woman )!

You are exposed - necked, lier and a Fool!
You need no dress! even on the wedding day!

You think you are serving your religion by such foolish questions. I think NOT...

God bless and save your soul. Ameen!!

Answer 10

honey its fine if u wear the gown howeva if u like the abaya thing go for it........but wearing gowns is fine however it shud be decent , no cleavage showing n stuff( but im sure u already knw this)

BTW wat pic??// show me plzzzzzzzz!