if the purpose of sex is procreation?

Question

if this is the case, then should i not be allowed to have sex, even with my husband, just because i am unable to have children?

i ask because i had some right-wing fundamentalist screaming at me that it was wrong of me to have sex with my husband in the eyes of god because i couldn't help populate the earth. and then he goes on to tell my husband that he has sinned by marrying me and by having sex with me instead of some woman who is able to have children.

i was just curious to see how many people think this way...

Answer 1

The Catholic Church says you cannot have sex unless you are married and attempt to have children.

Talk to your local church ....they can best determine what types of "sex" you are allowed to perform with your husband.

The Church will probably need to examine and Videotape your acts...and then debate to ensure your performance was not overly "pleasurable".

If your husband is young and handsome the Church officials may want to "examine" him closely to be sure he can please both you and the Church in the holiest possible ways.

Good luck !

Answer 2

I assume you are talking about Catholic doctrine when you use language like the purpose of... If so you only have half the doctrine. The purpose of sex is two fold: procreative and unitive. It brings forth children and it units the couple. The moral issue that stems from this understanding is that acting in a way that removes or denies these purposes distorts the natural intention of the act. Seeking one alone is okay but acting in a way that purposely removes either is a negative moral act.
Example: rape occurs when the unitive purpose is blatantly denied, one forces the other (not to mention that neither is procreation intended). Taking the pill is an act that is intended to deny the procreative purpose, even though the unitive function may be honored.
Using the infertile times to have sex is not an act (even though the intention may be the same as taking the pill) against the natural order but a working with it to space procreation. The unitive function is being honored doubly well here because "responsible parenting" serves the family with its many commitments.
In a situation where one parent may so want to have a baby that they become demanding of the other, the procreative is being honored but the unitive is being tested. You would need to think carefully about when these demands are becoming unacceptable and therefore wrong.
It is pretty obvious that using people for sex denies the unitive and is wrong. Its not so obvious that denying the procreative purpose is wrong.

The logic of this is clear enough to me. If you do not like it you have to change your basic assumption of "Natural Order" which is where the idea of purpose comes from. Do we just act according to the present circumstances or are there rules that we should apply to the circumstances?

When you are unable to have children, you are not acting in a way to deny the procreative purpose and your are honouring the unitive purpose and that make it a good act. Your inability to have children is a circumstance and therefore morally neutral - just don't wear him out:-).

Answer 3

Just goes to show how warped these religious people can become...but what would you expect from those of limited intellect? Some people love life and get on with it WITHOUT the need for religion. Religion (per se) has caused MORE dysfunctionality, misogyny, unrequited guilt, sexual inequality, repression and human problems than it has EVER prevented. And it continues to do so even today, you cannot be a Priest unless you have testicles, Islamic women must wear a Burkha, don't wear a condom even if you already have seventeen kids at age 24, etc. By the way Religion has ALSO caused wars, mass murders, been involved in paedophilia, massacred millions in "the name of God" and for some strange and unknown reason - it STILL professes credibility.

I cannot understand why the "masses" haven't woken up to this blight on humanity, and consigned the whole concept of religion to the pyres.

Get on with your life, enjoy your sex as often as you can, with the man you love, thrill to the fact that you don't have to worry about an unplanned pregnancy, etc. If you need kids, there is always adoption, IVF, or even surrogacy. Enjoy!

Oh, I just LOVE the answer from Y.G.L. Did you detect a note of sarcasm there? I especially enjoy his bit about the Church coming and videotaping the evidence then debating whether or not you had too much pleasure. Can I be "on the jury"? I would vote that you didn't have TOO much pleasure, and should try for a bit MORE pleasure next time.

Answer 4

The biological purpose of sexual intercourse is for procreation. But, sexual contact is vital to all of man kind and woman kind for that matter. If you are married and are into that whole monogamy thing then I would suggest that you have sexual relations with your husband as often as both of you want to (ironically one of the best solutions for a headache is sexual intercourse - it redirects the blood flow from the head to other parts of the body). And if you are not tied down by monogamy then I would suggest that you invite as many new people into your sexual lives to make things even more fun.

You need to realize that religion was set up so that "Men" that had power and "A Plan" for everyone else's lives could keep us all in line. Sure there are some great principles within the religious culture, but I strongly suggest that you keep the principles that make since to you and discard the rest. Try to figure out if you are holding to a principle because it is the right thing to do or if it is what your religion told you to do/think.

Answer 5

sex is for procreation only!!! that's what some fundamentalist teaching of christian,hindu and buddhist sect i have come across, but not in islam.Islam allows birth controls but not abortions, allows the use of contraceptives that will not make permanent halt to pregnancy.
sex with one's espouse is an act of worship. In islam, whenever a man needs sex with his wife, he can do so but not force her, the same as vice versa. However, if a man comes ahead of his wife, he committed a sin not only to his wife but as well as to Allah. When one of them declines a sexual advance with no apparent or just reason, then they are as well committing a sin against Allah.
Having sex specially without the man desire to ejaculate is beneficial for his health, for mutual benefits, the exchange of "electricity" and fluid essence is also most beneficial .to both.
Sex is the last "frontier" that a person can share privately, only for a special reason, one is emotional bonding more intimately thru this physical act.Sex done with variable partners destroys all essence that is beneficial to ones health, emotionally, biologically, socially, medically, etc.

Answer 6

Of Course, for sex is a gift that God gave to married couples and although it was for procreation procreation is not a requirement in this day and age, in(Proverbs5:19,20)says to men to be in extacy constantly with heir wives not with a strange woman, even though you do not usually procreate constantly it is allowed for married couples to enjoy each other's love constantly the Bible even trells married couples not to be depriving each other of it(1Corinthians7:5) I to am not able to have children bu that does not mean that you cannot have sex within your marriage bed.

Answer 7

I believe that God gave us a Physical body (and sex) to strengthen the bond between married couples.. it is not just for procreation but also for making a better relationship.

Answer 8

Of course not.

And to the extreme religious fringe people who believe sex is only for the purpose of procreation, otherwise it is an affront to God?

By the same logic, eating should only be done for the purpose of nutrition, and should never be done just for enjoyment or socialization.

Nothing but All-Bran cereal with water 3 meals a day, and vitamin pills... all by yourself, quietly, while thinking of nothing but how this food will nourish your body.

Answer 9

Tell the right wing fundamentalist to mind his own damn business. And, btw, the guy is an absolute a**hole who doesn't even understand his own religion. I can't imagine anyone condemning sexual relations between a married couple.

Answer 10

That's one of the purposes. Not the only one. One of the purposes is for just plain intimacy with the man you love.