2007-05-04 18:19:10 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It could mean anything. Try talking to him about the important parenting issues. Discipline and who takes which responsibilities in parenting. Who is going to be the financially responsible one. Those are all issues you might want to discuss with him BEFORE the baby gets here. Some of these things can be deal breakers and it's better to get them out of the way before you have an infant to deal with.
2007-05-04 18:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by liberty5499 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say that I am a pretty strict parent to my son....not abusive!! I make him listen to me and he gets disciplined when he doesn't. I try hard not to let him get away with something one day and the next discipline him. He is very well behaved. He has so much fun too as I allow him to be a child but when his behavior is wrong, I correct it. You have to understand this is a parent child relationship....not a friend one....of course you want your kids to like you, but you can't let them get away with a whole lot because when they are older they will think the rules don't apply to them....ex. school/ teachers, law/ police, housing/ landlords. of course you are just pregnant and it will be a while before you really have to worry about these things. You two should really sit down and discuss your desires and expectations of child rearing. Because if You two are in it for the long haul, you need to be on the same page. Good Luck and congrats on the upcoming bundle!
2007-05-05 01:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never predict how you be as a parent. I hate when people wihtout children say they would never let their children do that if they were a mother. Everything changes when you have a kid. He might say that because that what he thinks a good parent should do is be strict. I have found that being flexible and fair with your kids is important. For example if your child's bedtime is 9:00 and you never will sway from that it is unreasonable. The kid might just not be tired. Putting them to bed them they might just lay there all night unable to sleep. It is best not to be too rigid with rules. Lots of love, understanding, patience and teaching them the right things by example is alot better than a bunch of strict rules. (Mother of a great kid)
2007-05-05 02:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he's not going to let your child get away with anything, possibly because your b/f's dad was not strict. And if it's the first child, he doesn't really know what to expect, so, he's just trying to be protective from the start to show that he can be a good dad. If you really want to know what he means, just ask him.
2007-05-05 01:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully it just means that he won't let his kid get away with things that they shouldn't do.
That's the same thing that my husband said when we were expecting our first but once the baby came it was a different story. I don't think there are many people out there would can be a 'strict' parent. We all go a little easy on our kids.
2007-05-05 02:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what he is trying to say to you... Is he trying to reassure you that he will be a good father? Or that he will balance your permissiveness?
Being very strict means that he intends to rule the house and baby better keep in line. Does he treat you like that? If not, don't worry. When he looks into that tiny precious face, he will lose all resolve and melt into a pile of mush just like you will. It is good to be a little strict, but all parents need to keep in mind that childhood is supposed to be fun and carefree, not full of hardship and disappointment.
Your best bet is to assume he will treat your kids as he treats you. If he is overbearing and abusive with you, RUN... if he is sweet, caring, and giving, cut him some slack and see it as his way of working things out in his mind.
2007-05-05 01:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he means. It sounds like he may be prone to physical punishments. It worries me that he is already thinking about possibly striking a child that isn't even born yet. Remember it will be your job to keep your baby safe...do not allow anyone to harm your child. Children should not be struck/hit/spanked simply because they are smaller than you. You can't walk up to an adult that does something stupid and smack them...so why can you do that to a child?
fyi, hitting a child has nothing to do with whether or not they end up in the principal's office. My 9 & 6 y/o daughters are not struck at all and have never been to the principal's office either.
2007-05-05 01:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Linnygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the word hes trying to use is necessarily "strict" I think when someone says that they mean to say "protective". No one wants to be made out to look bad in anyway so I think he just didn't use the right word. :)
2007-05-05 01:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably he's thinks by being strict means that he is protecting his child from the corrupt in the world or maybe in other words he doesn't want his child to be a lose cannon
2007-05-05 05:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by meez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you both need to have a long talk about how you plan on bringing up this child. who will be the main disciplinarian? will you share the responsibility, or designate roles for child rearing?
It could also mean he doesn't want the kid to be spoiled in any way and the child will have to follow rules throughout his/her life.
2007-05-05 01:37:16 · answer #10 · answered by m h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋