My Mother In Law is need of serious help.?

Question

I have had problems with my MIL in the past interferring into my business, but now I feel I need to interject my opinion in something that she is doing. My MIL's mother was hospitalized with kidney failure and heart congestion about a month ago. She is doing a lot better thanks be to God. The problem is my MIL is 62 years old and likes to party. Tonight she called my husband up to watch his grandmother so she can get out and go partying. My husband is disabled and if anything were to happen to his grandmother (i.e. her falling out of bed, she need to go to the bathroom) he would not be able to help her or even lift her. My husband will not be able to call me if anything happed. We have a long distant number. I went to check up on them and his granny was very upset that her daughter had left her knowing that my husband was disabled and unable to really tend to her. She doesn't want me at the house we don't get along. What can we do to set my MIL straight about responsibilities

Answer 1

wow she is what 62 going on 16? Jeez what a situation hey. There isnt really anything you personally can do about it, especially if you dont get along..she wont listen & will more than likely do it more often.
I believe you need to find out how your hubby feels about it & get him to speak up. Even her own mother should be speaking up, ill or not.
If you try to step up, then it just might cause more trouble between you both but if your hubby & his grandmother say something, she might listen. Might. Perhaps your hubby can tell her how much it hurts him to see her having no regard for her own health let alone his or grannys. The last thing he will want is to have a crisis on his hands while she is out kicking up her heels. Imagine how bad she would feel if she came home from a night on the town to find her son in distress because he had no help with his ill grandmother.
Ahhh deary me, best of luck to you, I dont envy your situation.

Answer 2

The next time she calls for your disabled husband to watch his grandmother, he should say "no". He can tell her he's unable to help her tend to bathroom issues and isn't able to handle emergencies. She can just find someone else if she needs to get out for a break from watching her. You should just stay out of it and let your husband handle it.

Answer 3

MIL needs to be told "NO", especially if she wants someone to watch grandma that cannot take care of her properly.

Find some places that have "grandmother sitting" and point MIL in the right direction.

Answer 4

Tell her she needs to find a qualified care giver and that your husband cant watch her any more. If she persist call the hotline for neglect to his granny.

Answer 5

wow man see what thy call it pay back