It seems like two people not being able to date because of religion is as foolish as fighting a war over it. I was raised an extremely radical christian and am now my own happy creature of god in my own little happy way. I dont understand why people cant break through these silly lines and everyone just enjoy everyones company. I am in love with a good to do christian, but she will only love me so much because of my wacky belief system. I know I am about to get swarmed with responses from the christian folk saying, "Welp, christians should only marry christians if they are really christians." Can someone please make sense of being so radical about a belief that it is worth the separation of two people that are otherwise perfect for one another? Also, was that a run-on sentence?
2007-05-04 17:59:03 · 16 answers · asked by daniel m 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
In response to 2 Cor. 6:14
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
This is what irritates me to no end about christianity. Why a book as "good" as the bible would deem another soul dark? This is damned! It creates division in people that were otherwise born peacfully to the earth. It teaches a christian to look down on anyone that isn't a christian. Lord give us some truth...
2007-05-04 19:07:42 · update #1
Well, "otherwise perfect for one another" is an interesting statement. The two people are not perfect for one another if they have belief systems that appear to be mutually exclusive.
Honestly, I'm not sure I could date someone who is any more than a holiday theist. It's not that I couldn't find a religious person interesting or beautiful or anything like that, but I couldn't see us being compatible in the long run.
Religion, even amung the most moderate theists, is an extremely huge part of their lives.
2007-05-04 18:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tao 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's your harmones that makes you think you're perfect for each other. When two separate belief systems are in play, it causes all sorts of problems in the family, especially with the kids. The unity of the marriage has no chance. For the Christian, it is a priority for a good marriage to marry another Christian. God commanded it for a reason. A Christian places God above everything and everyone in their life.......otherwise they loose fellowship with God, and that's not a good place to be. If you really loved this person, you'd respect that. Love is wanting the best for the other person, it is not selfish.
You say you were raised a radical Christian, but I don't think you actually are a Christian. You seem not to understand the personal relationship a Christian has with God. If you do understand, I think you have rebelled against it and rejected Christ so you could do your own thing, go your own way. You say you're happy, but it doesn't seem to be working for you at all. Maybe you could start by asking God to help you.
2007-05-04 18:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Joyful Noise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I view it as simply common sense. I have strong Christian beliefs myself. That means that my choices are made based on those beliefs.
I can see in my life how my closest friends are those who share my beliefs. I want to be able to share my heart with close friends, and one day a husband. When I share my struggles, I want to have advice that comes from the same belief system that I hold. If we don't believe in our own beliefs, what's the point? I do believe, so I can only really trust advice from others who believe. I have a friend that was my best friend for 8 years, but recently her beliefs have changed and I've seen the shift in my level of sharing with her. It wasn't intentional, it just happened.
I have lots of friends from a wide range of beliefs, but I'm only really close with those of similar faith. I don't see the unequally yoked passage as a way to look down on others, I see it as common sense to help me maintain my standard of living in a world full of temptations trying to drag me away from the place I've decided to stake my life. I've seen my friend's life fall apart as she dated a Muslim. She ignored that verse of caution, and now she is a single mom, emotionally wrecked, the "darkness" was that her faith was compromised and she now has the burden of a child to raise on her own.
Faith is an extremely important, if not the most important part of my life. If anything would entice me away from it, I choose to avoid it. There is nothing more important than my eternal relationship with God.
2007-05-05 04:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that would be putting 'the law before man' when Christ specifically said 'the law was made for man, not man for the law'. Jesus clearly believe in putting people before the law.
Sounds like your 'wacky' belief system is a little more on target than hers. Could there be some pride and arrogance at play here?
2007-05-04 18:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Fancy That 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try thinking about this from the point of view that there is no god. Then your worries would be over. If you can only find the power within yourself--and you have it--to break the chains of this idiotic "god" concept your life would be so much happier.
2007-05-05 07:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by tartu2222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion should come LAST. It has caused more breakups, inequalities and sexual dysfunctions than ANYTHING else you could EVER name....just as it has started wars, suicide bombers, yu name it.
Keep religion OUT, lock the doors behind it, and don't EVER let it escape to do its damage again.
I'm a bit concerned about your so-called "wacky beliefs" as there must be SOME limits to what you do...for example, if you're into "kinky sex", do you use a feather? Or do you use the whole chicken?
2007-05-04 18:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by The Master 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on each person's beliefs. If one person will only have a relationship with someone else of the same religious beliefs, that's their choice.
Personally, I have an open mind as long as the person I'm having a relationship doesn't shove their beliefs down my throat.
2007-05-04 18:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by fakesister 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
MakeSure and fixerken have given you the impressive answerer's. It does not be counted what a Church or faith coach you, if it conflicts with what the Bible says, even in only one element it really is a faux faith. the only faith i comprehend of that sticks as close to to the Bible as a probability are the Jehovah's Witnesses. it really is why different religions dislike them because their understanding of the Bible is continuously impressive.
2016-12-05 09:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 Cor 6:14
A Christian should read the bible to see what god says.
2007-05-04 18:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by robert p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you put God first in your life, everything else will fall into place. It's the only way to truly be happy.
2007-05-04 18:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by conni 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋