My seven year old son is very emotional, he cries at the drop of a hat and gets angry for no reason...He has always been a little this way, but now he is getting more so and I am very worried about him. He says that he is sad all the time buy when you ask him why, he has no reason...he says that he forgot why he was sad...Help me please!
2007-05-04 16:56:29 · 21 answers · asked by doublebee0320 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I would go see a psychologist to find out. If it's normal, then you'll know. If not, then you'll know. I wouldn't leave that issue to the kind of advice you can get on this forum.
2007-05-04 16:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through 4 7 year olds thus far and all of mine cried more then they did when they were babies. I remember telling my friend this when her son was about 5. I warned her what to expect and she thanked me when he was 7 because she knew it was normal. I noticed it die down more and more by 8 and oh my goodness when puberty starts they seem to go through it all over again. Just keep doing things to make him laugh and be happy if that doesnt work then I would be concerned. I would start with the school counselor first. Maybe someone is bullying him at school but honestly as I said 4 of mine went through this phase at exactly 7 and I expect my 4 year old will to in 3 years.
2007-05-04 23:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time with your son and watch for "triggers". When he begins to feel emotional, step in and try to de-escalate the situation with a caring approach. If you can clearly see that he does not have a clear "trigger" for his anxiety and cannot explain his anxiety, he may need help from a doctor. If you see the cause of his pain, help him address it. He may be overwhelmed with things in his little life and hasn't developed a way to relieve that stress. Teach him to count to ten and breath deeply. It sounds corny but it really does help them to regain control. Then help him figure out a way to make his problem better, together! Show him how to "make things better". If he is using "emotion" as a way to attain your attention, then unfortunately you need to address that too. Do a "self-check" and make sure you are being all that you can be as his parent. I know I get l caught up in the events of the day and can sometimes come off as uncaring or angry to my kids, when I am simply busy. When I realize this is happening I try to stop everything that I am doing and address my kids. Impossible? I used to think so too...until I tried it. I was surprised to see how well my kids responded to my effort. It sounds to me like your son has trouble communicating how he's feeling. Take more time with him, quality time, quiet time and see how he responds. With time, you will be able to figure out what he is having trouble with. Best of luck with this.....he is definately worth it!
2007-05-04 17:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Raaf 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a stage. Kids usually go through it twice....at about 4or 5 years of age and again in about second grade, which sounds about like you son. Sometimes they also go through it at about 5th grade....especially girls.
Some kids go through it more than others....it has to do with growth and maturity, etc. Just hug him, show you love him, be sure he is not scared about anything...and it will probably just gradually fade away.
You have to also know that as a Mom you have to support him, but not baby him....he is in the process of growing up....and you don't want him overly dependant...he gradually has to gain confidence that he is doing a good job and able to cope....not just be a "Mommy's boy"....it's a balance of support, love, encouragement, and being there for him....and of also helping him feel confident in himself.
Does he have a father figure in his life? That is very important....he needs a father to put that added balance...if he doesn't have one, find a relative, etc. who will spend some "Man time" with him. That too gives him a balanced perspective.
But my guess is he will outgrow this in a year or so.....
2007-05-04 17:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't too unusual for a 7 yr old to have emotional reactions, life is hard, even for a seven yr old. just try and remember what it was like when you were in grade school.
on the other hand, 7 yrs old is not too young to suffer from clinical depression. just sad. could be psychological, could be chemical, could be biological problem.
talk to his doctor and if he is no help, talk to a psychiatrist (not just a therapist).
don't, don't ignore this. some children, like adults, will harbor thoughts of suicide.
i'm glad you are concerned. act on your fears.
good luck.
2007-05-04 17:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by july 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there someone you know that he really confides in? If so, ask them to talk to him, if not then take him to the doctor so they can see if he might be suffering something physical that might be causing him to have bouts of depression. Diabetes and different things can cause this. Hope you find help for him soon, I hate to hear of children having to suffer needlessly. Some parents don't try to get behind the reason. Good to see someone trying to help their child out.
2007-05-04 17:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to just say "yes" or "no" to your question especially since we have no background information on him. Is he an only child? has something traumatizing happened to him growing up? does he have friends? He could be a very sensitive child or he could be a very emotionally fragile child caused by some event(s). sorry i couldn't help without the additional info.
2007-05-04 17:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by x-mas&newyrbabies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't hurt to have a child therapist have a chat with him. It may be nothing, it may be that something is going on in his life that you need to know about, or something within him that he needs help understanding. 7 year olds don't have the experiences or the vocabulary to explain complex things. That's what experts are there to help with.
2007-05-05 06:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to take him to a shrink. If he does have some type of disorder, they can treat it. If he doesn't, he can still benefit from therapy. Better safe than sorry. You don't want to find out years from now that something is emotionally wrong with him or that he's experianced some kind of trauma.
2007-05-04 17:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son has ADHD, its obviously similar with yours, let him be assessed by a child psychologist, it helps. dont let it develop to depression or hyperactivity to protect him from harm. Always embrace him and let him feel he is loved, its a good therapy. It may be caused by several hormones as well. Guide it so the outcome will be positive.
2007-05-04 17:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by Dosage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋