I asked this already but i need more help!!
I like 2 guys. Both of the guys are younger than me by a year. The first guy thinks i stalk him and is ignoring me. But not only that, he likes my best friend. This guy also called me fat, ugly and flat. The second guy I like, flirts with me like a lot but to my best friend he called me extremely ugly. I don't know what to do with either of them. I am currently trying to get over them but whenever some body brings up either of their names I break down in tears and it is hart to totally forget. Please help me :-\
2007-05-04 15:35:58 · 18 answers · asked by Lyra H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stand up to them yourselves. Tell them to just shut up. Stand up for yourself, and tell them they were no good. They'll regret it later. Their just stupid idiots like most guys. You'll meet the right one soon enough. Go listen to "Finding a good man" by Danielle Peck. Or better yet, watch the vidio on youtube(I'd provide the link, but you wouldn't click it anyway probably).... it's a good video though. Hope that helps!
2007-05-04 15:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by lifelesswonder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how the hell can you break down in tears over 2 forgive the language a******* . they are both ignorant and rude and do not deserve a person like you who is sensitive and nice.
you are not ugly,the two of those guys are.
whomever brings up their names tell them that you do not want to hear their names ever again .
next time wait till a guy approaches you, then you may have a real winner, until then forget this two jerks, they are not worth shedding a half a tear over.
you will find better than them in the future, believe me, you have lots of time, do not rush it.
good luck
keep us updated.
2007-05-04 22:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by maureen s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of these guys sound like first class turds. Anyone who ignores you is not interested, and you can't change that. Anyone who calls you names is a total jerk and is not worth your time.
The second guy who is flirting with you sounds like he is stringing you along because he enjoys your attention but is not interested in having relationship with you. Plus, he had the audacity to say bad things about you to your best friend. What a moron. Leave this narcissistic loser in the gutter where he belongs.
Believe me, you can, and will do much, much better than these two sad sacks.
2007-05-04 22:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Charlotte B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be hung over two jerks like that cuz if you do, by some slim to none chance, get with one of them, how do you think they will treat you in a relationship? there are so many more options out there you can choose from that are more appropriate for someone like you. and the guy that flirts with you alot, dont flirt back if you do, you're only feeding his ego. what makes them so appealing to you, is it their looks? quit being so shallow and like the persons personality. unless you do like being called ugly, fat, and flat, then thats another story. im not trying to be mean, im just being straight forward and honest with you.
2007-05-04 22:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by trakstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are jerks, just the two you happen to like. I understand how hard it can be to get over a guy, even a jerky one. The best advice I have is, fake it 'til you make it. Pretend you couldn't care less about them until you really couldn't. I hope somebody better comes along soon! Good luck.
2007-05-04 22:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be strong. Remember that you are beautiful and so much stronger than you realize. There is tons more to life than pining over men, and even though right now it might feel like you're going to be miserable and alone forever, you WILL meet a man who will treat you like you deserve if you hold your head high and respect yourself.
2007-05-04 22:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Stegosaurus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither sound like the guy for you. Unfortunately, neither like you like you like them. If they cannot be nice, you don't want them.
You deserve to have a guy who has the respect for you to treat you like you were a human being. Not someone who calls you names. You really don't like the two guys for who they are, You want to like them for who you thought they would be.............Think about it.
Forget about both of them. Have faith that when it is time, God will send you the right guy who will treat you with the honor and respect you deserve. Do not waste your energy on someone who calls you names or ignores you. What do you want in a guy? Hopefully, you want someone who will be a "man" and come up to you and talk to you on his own. Look at you and only you. Respect you for who you are. Who will not push you into doing anything you do not want to do.
It is hard to "get over someone who you like and doesn't like us in the same way". Believe me, there is someone who will actually like you the same. You will probably come in contact with someone you like only as friends, but who will like you more than friends. Just be honest from the start. Communicate. You can never make anyone like you. You can be who you are and if they don't like you in the same way, it means that he was not the one for you. It doesn't mean you are ugly or mean or wrong, or anything like that. It simply means, the right guy has not crossed your path yet. Sometimes we have to cross those other guys in order to appreciate the one guy that God has in store for us when it is time for us to meet him.
The best way I found was to meet everyone and start off only thinking that they will be friends only. If it happens to be more down the road, it will be a pleasant surprise. You have to be friends first anyway. I want to marry my bestfriend someday....
I have met a lot of frogs in my day, believe me. I can tell you stories. I have a pile of tears, but, I have moved on and decided that when I met a guy, I told him from the get go, I only wanted to be friends. That way, as I got to know him, if it didn't turn out that I liked him as a person or who I thought I would like to pursue in the future, there would be no feelings hurt. It is much better to become friends than to try to get someone to like you that may not like you to begin with. Be friends first and see where the road leads..... Hugs to you. Your Prince Charming will find you someday. Have faith..... In the meantime. Meet people and make make friends. You can never have too many friends.
2007-05-04 22:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jerks like them aren't worth your time and energy...any guy that makes you cry is not worth chasing. a guy you like should have a good personality and should make you feel good about yourself...not bring you down like that. i know this really sux, and trust me- i've been there. dont let it get to you. find someone else who's worth it. hope i helped...and im really sorry you had to deal with those two butt-heads.
2007-05-04 22:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by Surfergirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay.....i feel bad for you but plz pull yourself together and get over these two jerks and next time try falling for someone who is mature, intelligent and (okay this is a hard one) sensitive...believe me its gona be well worth the wait. don't waste your time, feelings and tears...you deserve better than that and better is not going to come to you until you realize that and focus on it!!! good luck!
women need to stop crying over jerks!
2007-05-04 22:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get over honey we are mean by nature i call all that stuff to my colleagues at work and they also cry but is just for fun and we didn't mean it literally is just is funny to see a hot girl that we kill to be with so insecure is a strategy to make her feel insecure and accept us when we finally attack, sorry to be so honest but you deserve it i feel released now that anonymous i said it.
2007-05-04 22:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋