Is it wrong to be shy ???

Question

Hi I am 26 years old with a good job....right from my childhood I am a very shy guy ...infact even to this day I cannot speak to people eye to eye and when it comes to girls....less said the better !!!

now I am in such a position that I dont have true friends...never even talked properly to a girl (let alone a girlfriend or love)

I am quite good looking but I guess the biggest mistake I did was unknowingly I waited for some girl to come up to me for any romantic involvement

Now I am like a child ready to picked up. I guess I will give in to any girl who is bold enough to come up and propose to me....irrespective of what type she would be and what will future carry..

could you suggest anthing ...please help

Answer 1

Just be yourself. Try to make friends at work. It's not easy being 20 something. The 30's are much easier.

Answer 2

Normally a guy should never be shy, bold enough like lion. when u have been in such shy position how can u expect girls to propose u, girls are over thinking and looking for bold, hard working and loving person. Guys should first propose a girl, if u have any one in your heart show to her that now u have changed and been very active, bold andf left all the shy under you foot. Never be shy to any one its just waste in our life all we need is our courage and will power.

Answer 3

What you need to do first is get comfortabble with people. Join in on a charity fund raiser or volunteer to help out as a big brother. Once you overcome your fears of talking to people, then you will feel more comfortable in talking to women.

If you wait for someone to make the first move, you will probably be a 50 year old single guy. There is nothing wrong with being shy, you just need to know when to assert yourself.

Good luck from a shy gal!

Answer 4

i have continuously been shy. different persons act like they look down upon it, and that i do not comprehend why. In grade classes, below the demands benefit area on my record card, they could continuously say that i'm too quiet, or too shy. what's incorrect with that? If i do no longer deliver about an prolonged communique, do no longer have even if to educate, or do compared to conversing on the time, persons continuously component out that i'm being shy. Their comments simplest make me extra self moral experience. i do no longer mind being shy all that plenty. despite the indisputable fact that it will be fantastic if i might want to imagine extra comfortable at the same time as I desire to open up.

Answer 5

I get that you're shy and all but if you're waiting for someone to come up to you and propose then you're waisting your time, maybe. Hey if you're good looking then go and ask a girl out. Don't think about what she might say. For all you know she will gladly accept you're invitation. Don't accept the first girl that comes up to you unless you really like her. Thats the thing, make sure you really like her, you feel comfortable to be around her. Believe me you don't want to end up with someone because you were to scared to be left alone.

Tip: people you meet don't know how you are so give the impression that you're strong and confident.

Answer 6

Nothing exactly wrong!! but try going up to a girl who knows you (now that you are working!)by sight at least!! ask her out!! become bold!!
Girls will never propose a guy that easily as you think.They'll always wait for the men to make the first move! Only really bold girls will propose to a man!! These types of girls are really hard to find!!!
GOOD LUCK !!!!! BECOME BOLD!!!!

Answer 7

I had a crush on the shyest guy in the world. He was too shy to ask me out. He kept saying he wanted to ask me something but couldn't. Finally I figured it out & asked him out.
We ended up getting married!!

I would suggest getting involved in a co-ed group activity, maybe bowling, softball, soccer- whatever. It will give you practice talking to girls in a non-threatening situation. Girls are pretty bold nowadays, so if one talks to you alot, or smiles alot or gives you her #, then just roll from there.

Try to talk to more girls everyday. Then it will become no big deal. Look for signals that she's interested like I listed above, oh and if she rubs your arm or touches you, she likes you.

Get out there & good luck!!

Answer 8

It's perfectly ok to be shy. I'm shy too but lately I've been trying to work on that. I just think of the worst thing that could happen (which I usually make out to be pretty bad, :) I just try to talk to as many people as possible. If they are nice, they make it easy. Just talk to a lot of people and you start to get over it. Good luck:)

Answer 9

Aw, you're such a sweetie! First of all, that cute, shy charm will hook any girl like a baby dog! I remember, I heard one of my favorite artists say she likes guys who are sort of inner and personal and shier and sweeter and cuter. But, when it comes to asking a girl on a date, it has to be the guy who does it. Believe it or not, it's the GIRL that's waiting for you, not vise versa. Girls are just as afraid of guys. Trust me, it's true. Any, I know, you've heard of/ seen those situations where the guy starts stuttering to ask the girl out and the girl is reluctant to go out with the guy. GET THAT OUT OF YOUR MINDSET. Girls like that are not necessary. They are just brats and don't deserve a boyfriend. You must find a girl that is your type (nice, sort of shy herself, inner, but friendly). Please, do NOT take just any girl.
Try to become friends with her. Pick out a girl in your work (THAT IS SINGLE. Make sure you overhear gossip about her and make sure she's clean and you're good for dating). Girls love it when you start out as casual friend. Now, I see in your situation, you are very awkward with that. Just, treat her like you would want to be treated. Believe it or not, girls are very much like you. We're not aliens! We just can't express our feelings and like to work for the benefit for you guys. Casually sit with her during your lunchbreak, ask her questions, make HER feel special, and once her know her favorite color, her birthday, her parents names, the bare minimum, ask her out on a date.
Now, call me high school, but I always found that a movie or a coffee shop is a GREAT place for a first day. For your situation, I suggest a movie, since you two won't have to talk that much. Don't feel awkward sitting next to her. Don't do that whole stretch and put your arm around her. Expect to pay. Then ask her out to dinner.
You must be bold, but cute. If all fails, there must be someone in the office that has that bold charm. He will be glad to show you the ropes (just... try not to pick a jerky guy... get a funny, casual guy). Explain him your situation and he will help you.
Hope this helps

Answer 10

It's not wrong to be shy. But as shy as you say you are. If you don't try to over come it you will miss out on a lot. For example you may never get to experience a deep emotional connection with a woman. Do to your shyness.