my ex bf wants me to come over .. i know i shouldn't, but part of me wants to & part of me knows its bad for me if i do ..
why is it so hardddd to stay away from him when i know hes bad for me.. i feel like such a moron :-(
2007-05-04 14:26:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say no :))
Turn around and walk the other way, it is for your own good.
2007-05-04 14:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Misty M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is moron's have feelings too. What are your feelings telling you? It is impossible to guide someone so convoluted with such sparse information. "Bad for you", how? Why does he want you to "come over?" He may want you to come over to give you flowers, but no, he would probably bring them to you. Maybe all he wants is a sexual relationship, but we would have to stretch to get there. We just do not have any way to help you. You have made a decision that says he is bad for you, for whatever reason. Now, you are feeling something different than that for whatever other reason. Just remember to take a step, make a decision. No matter how far you go down a certain path, it is never too far to turn around and go the other way if you find yourself going the wrong way. The biggest, hardest thing to do in any relationship and in life is to make a decision and act on it. If you see yourself as a moron, be a good moron. just decide. Have fun. be safe. God bless.
2007-05-04 14:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Searching for answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all and most important you are not now nor could you ever be a moron. You still have feelings for your ex, so a part of you still wants him, that is your ego, your super-ego is telling you that he will hurt you or cause you problems, and your id is saying What did I do wrong for this guy not to be with me anymore? even if it was all his fault. Only go over if you can forgive him, not hold any past anger and not get hurt. Once burned twice shy.
2007-05-04 21:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't help the way you feel. and from what i see, your not over him but you want to be. i can relate to you in many ways becasue i had the same problem with my ex bf and everyone of my friends were telling me i was stupid nd i should stay away from a moron like him, but deep down everyhting they were saying to me didnt make sense cuz i knew that deep down i loved him. and i didnt listen to them. and now we r not together and the jerk broke my heart. maybe its just bad luck, or maybe you hsould listen to the people around you. all i know is i dint listen and i got hurt. if you really love him, and you feel that you guys should be together- then go for it, " its better to have loved and lot then to never have loved at all" this proves that if you guys go out again and then u brake right back up and you have broken hearts, you shouldnt be sad becuz its over, you should smile cuz it happend, as long as you guys love eachther and he not only sees your outer beauty rather your innner beauty, then go for it!! and i wish u the best of luck in your relationship♥
2007-05-04 14:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by lucyfrell93 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this will help. I was with my x for 8 years he was very abuseive . I left several times before I finally left for good. Now who is the morom. Its up to you what you do I don't know what your situation but the longer you mess with this guy the more time you are waisting trying to find the one so why do it. You could be cuddled up to him right now enjoying your dream life as I am now.
2007-05-04 14:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everytime you think of him do something like pinch yourself or something like that so you will associate negativity with thoughts of him. It's kinda like the scientist Pavlov's theory...go check it out and just dont answer his phone calls or tell him you know he's not good for you and you'd appreciate if he had no further contact with you.
it's always hard to stay away from someone you care about but if they are self destructive you dont wanna get caught in their bomb.
2007-05-04 14:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by Love Tha Skins! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u thing is bad to go well don't go. He may want u for sex who knows. Don't thing about him in don't answer the phone when he call u, if u said that he not good for u. Thing about yourself first, u will be alright.
2007-05-04 14:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cuz its something thats familiar. and hey a chance to get laid and have crazy 'were back together again for this second' type of sex. its ok if you want to. but hes an ex boyfriend for a reason so if you want to be good to yourself resist and find yourself a new guy..one thats good for you! best wishes!
2007-05-04 14:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, that is a hard situation, I've been there myself. Plain and simple... you have to put it in your mind that he is bad for you. You have to avoid him. You have to push him aside. The best thing to do is to try to focus on something more important... even though it's hard to resist the temptation.
2007-05-04 14:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by cizzle2thebizzle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. No matter how good it may feel to go see him right now, something tells me you shouldn't.
2007-05-04 14:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by Haley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋