2007-05-04 14:05:04 · 16 answers · asked by Heather P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Okay. I say hold of on the marriage or better, cancel it altogether. Addiction will make people say or do things they wouldn't otherwise do in a very big way! If he is a true addict, you can't be certain that he really loves you the way you think he does.
Another factor to consider is that he has been deceitful enough to keep it hidden from you for 6 months??? Definitely not marriage material. If he could hide it from YOU for that long, you are likely to be what in the world of drug abusers is termed an "enabler." In other words, you would make it convenient for him not to fight the addiction. Because of the deceitful nature (addicts are great liars) that drug and acohol addiction causes, you may not even be able to tell the difference.
It must be hard, but if you love him, it's probably not a good idea to marry him unless he has been clean and sober for some time.
2007-05-04 14:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by Leroy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well no telling what else he has been lying to you about and right in front of you too. WOW can't believe you couldn't see he was on drugs make the needle marks or the white powder or the red and empty eyes. Well that shows your going to be there when he gets out and he will know he can get a way with anything as long as he's with you. What you need to do is grow up and open your eyes and realize the world is real not what you think it is, or what people tell you it is.
2007-05-04 21:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm... You don't say how far away you are from the big day, but I think you should postpone the wedding, if it's soon. That's a huge lie, a huge betrayal of trust, and if you start your married life out with that going on, there could be some REAL big problems in your future.
2007-05-04 21:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave, Run, Get Away!!! No matter what you CANNOT help him. He can only help himself. Jail is no help. If he's been lying for 6 months that you know of you trust and believe that its been a lot longer.
It will hurt but its better get out of there now. I got this same advice but continued because I thought that I could make a difference. He only cares about the dope. The drugs are his woman,friend,life. Get OUT
2007-05-04 21:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by TamiAmi 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Take this as a sign. Dump him and move on. Honestly, you can not have a decent life with an addict. You can not make him quit. An addict will lie to you they will steal from you and your freinds. You will come home and your TV, VCR, DVD player, computer , jewlry, it will be gone little by little or one big sweep. They will lie to you and say you were robbed. Well it really will not be a lie, you will be robbed by your fiance. The relationship can not last., it will only get worse. Move on.
2007-05-04 21:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by 2Cute2B4Got 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it were me i would leave him, because if he's lying before the wedding than he'll be doing a lot more after the wedding.
2007-05-05 08:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by tasheema22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what is your question? The fact that you still refer to him as your "fiance" tells me that you are still willing to go through with marrying him. Have a nice life being a doormat.
2007-05-04 21:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you should have an ex-fiance, not a fiance.
2007-05-05 00:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him back the ring & change your phone number. Be happy you found out now & not five years down the road.
2007-05-04 23:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was married to an addict & would give anything to have those years back! Even if he "recovers' he'll always be a liar and a user. Please don't throw your life away - dump him NOW
2007-05-05 00:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara L 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋