how would you react if you found out your 16 yr old?

Question

How would you react if you found out your 16 yr old daughter has had sex with her bf of two yrs. On the pill though.

Answer 1

Don't over react, Same guy GREAT she needs to be comended for 1 relationship and not pres. like most 16 year olds

Answer 2

I don't think I'd be very happy if my daughter has had sex at 16. I know it's more common for teens to be sexually active, but I waited until I was 18 (I'm 24 now) and I hope to instill that same value in my daughter. Truthfully it's a tough call because she is already on birth control is giving a sign that it's okay, plus you can't keep an eye on her 24/7 no matter how much you try. I guess it's too late now, but I would try to make sure that she doesn't end up being promiscuous and that she is still using additional protection on top of her pill. Women still get pregnant because they miss one pill.

Answer 3

I am thinking of locking my daughters in a high tower once they hit puberty... so it is difficult for any otherwise rational parent to accept that THEIR child is having sex.
With that said, here is how I feel about other teenagers doing it. I watch my beautiful, smart baby cousin who is sixteen and I pray she will always make safe, wise decisions when it comes to issues like this. If she does have sex... I hope she will protect herself against all that entails: pregnancy (use the pill), STD's (and condoms too!) and even understanding that the boyfriend she shares herself with most probably will not be hers forever (and accepts this however painful it is to think about).
I know you want validation that your decision was right for you and your bf.... Your parents can not give that to you, not because they are sex hating ogres but because every part of their heart and soul is tied up to keeping you safe. You understand this, I know you do! Even without religious issues there is a lot at stake when it comes to sex. They want to protect you from these things even though you feel you can protect yourself. Try to respect their feeling on this and see where that leads.

Answer 4

She's taking resposibility for her sexual health, in a committed long term relationship so I'd just chalk it up to life and being a young woman. If you overreact you will not stop your daughter from being sexually active by any means, what you will do is damage your relationship with her and shut off future communication between the two of you. Do not say anything unless she brings a ? up. At 16 your daughter is no longer a child but a young woman treat her like one.

Answer 5

I would lose my mind! However, I would do this far, far, far away from her. I would rather know what she was doing and if I freak out on her she will never tell me anything. And I would lose my mind that she's on the pill. The pill does nothing to protect against STDs and the most rapidly growing demographic contracting HIV/AIDS is teenaged girls. My daughter is only 2 but I fully intend to emphasize to her the ugly side of teenaged sex and the wonderful side of married, monogomous sex.

Answer 6

Initially I would be upset but when time passed I would tell her how disappointed I was in her choice to give herself away. Virginity isnt sacred anymore and girls and boys are having sexual relationships younger and younger due to our screwed up society. She did take responsibility and get on the pill but that doesn't excuse her. You cant keep them apart because that will only drive them to want to be together more. The best you can hope for is to explain the difference between love, lust and sex. Good Luck To You.

Answer 7

If you overreact and threaten her she will retaliate and you could possibly "lose" her. You need to casually sit down with her and have a talk. Tell her how you found out about it and "try" very hard to not get angry or lecture. Remember, you want to keep her in your confidence, you want her to know she can come to you. You also need to realize that there is a very good chance she isn't going to stop having sex. So you need to prepare both yourself and her for being an adult. Teach her about sex and birth control. Explain to her about STDs and teen-pregnancys. Ask her about her goals in life and ask what she thinks would happen to those goals if she got an STD or pregnant.

But above all, remain calm. I know, easier said than done. But she had already gone down this path...now you need to guide her while on it.

Answer 8

As shocking as this must have been for you to find out, there's really nothing you can do to stop her. It's very good that she is on the pill though. All you can do is make sure she's well educated on teen pregnancy, STDs, and sex in general so that she can make good decisions.

Answer 9

If you smack her to many times in life...

She's going to smack close and not tell you another thing for the rest of your life. Our entire family shows it. I think I show it the most. Nothing is told. My Mother and I have such a bad relationship. My Dad sat me down and talked to me, and I love him more than anything in the world. My Mom smacked me untill I stopped crying and she's like chopped liver to me.

I would most likly make SURE she's useing condoms and if she isn't I would buy them for her. Just something simple such as 5 a month, around that. It is very good she is doing it with her two year boyfriend. Most girls it the 35 year old next door or the guy who just moved in two days ago.

Answer 10

Well atleast she's on the pill. I would be upset, but I wouldn't be furious. I would TALK to her about it and not yell at or her ground her. What do you expect? She's witha guy for two years and shes on the pill. Tell her she can come to you for advice or anything and to not feel embarassed. I mean tell her you would prefer her not to have sex till she were married, but if she is going to be having sex atleast make sure he wears a condom and she takes her pill on time. Don't tell her not to do it, becasue then she'll just do it behind your back and not talk to you about it or about anything, especially if she needs your help on something.