How do you start a conversation with a girl?

Question

Hey im a shy guy and i want to know how to start a conversation with a girl. I mean is their some secret to this, or are you just supposed to start it out of thin air? Some pointers would be nice.

Answer 1

Hmm.....I was in your place 3 weeks ago...I would say that be yourself. Then if you sit far-away then try to move closer (this is what I did and helped) then try talking about class stuff...and eventually start talking....
That was me 3 weeks ago...what i did was go on myspace and typed in her name, found some profile and next day i told her that i found her profile (although it was a wrong 1 she gave me her's and told me to add her....lol) now i have her myspace and we talk. ENJOY AND ALL THE BEST

Answer 2

OK now this is a fun question. I've been out of the game for a while but my favorite ice breaker would always revolve around what the girl was doing at the time. Here are a couple of examples:

- At the bar: Where did you first have that drink/beer/whatever? (Wait for her response...) Really? What would you compare it to? Should catch her off guard and you'll know whether she's interested by her reponse (if it's a detailed story she's interested, if it's short she has a boyfriend or she's a lesbian. At least that's what I always told myself...).

- How about the mall? Let's say a lass catches your attention-> hopefully she's looking at something (to buy), walk up and say "I'm sorry but do you mind if I get your opinion? I'm shopping for my SISTER's birthday present and thought about getting her this shirt... purse... shoes (it will be one of these 3 things 94.6% of the time) but I'm terrible at shopping. What do you like about this?" Go back to the old rule, if she's interested she will talk at nausium about whatever the hell it is, if she gives a short answer and/or calls security, she either has a boyfriend or is a lesbian. The key here is that when things DO go well you have to tell her that you don't actually have a sister (at least I don't) and just confess that you needed to catch her attention. If she's a keeper she'll be flattered and laugh, if she doesn't then she is pure evil. RUN

Good luck!

Answer 3

I will tell you a few things using examples from last nights excursion to SpiderMan3
First we got in a line with nerds, then we were moved to the 'preppy and not nerdy' line. I don't know what they were doing there, but my twin shouted AWE these people arent nerdy enough!
One of them said "Hey Im playing pokemon! Is that not nerdy?!"
And that started a fantastic night together. We had alot of fun in line, but the movie was horrid.
That is always a great approach. Commenting loudly on something will get many peoples attention. Now, if these tactics dont work, here are a few other tactics I've learned.
Saying things like
"Hoy, where's the bathroom?"
And then later "Ah I feel so much better" and "What are you doing here?" Or "What class are you in?"
Small things build relationships.
If you catch her eye, stare into them a while. Its a scientifically proven fact that people feel more intimate with a person when they stare them in the eye alot.
Even if you arent confident, act like it. Otherwise, it will never happen. Don't act uncomfortable, like walking up to her and saying "Yo." with a wierd expression on your face. Do what's natural, somehow sidle your way towards her and then say Yo. It's not that hard, but you've got to try and put some finesse in it. Also, chicks dig guys who have lots of text messages. It makes them look popular.
Heheh.
Ok, maybe not that last part. But I think it works!
Just dont become engrossed in them.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

Depends if it's a girl you know well or not!

If you kinda know her or are friends or at least talk sometimes then you'll know the kinda things to say hopefully, cos you'll have something in common, or you'll know a couple of things she's interested in. Ask her how her day's going/ what she's been up to/ how classes have been. Or about something you have in common.

If you don't really know her then I totally sympathise - it's really hard. Talk about what's going on around you, or about someone you just spoke to that she knows - just make little comments like 'hey, i heard such-and-such was going on today. it sounds really cool' or 'did you hear about what happened today? weird huh?!' or again, find ANYTHING you have in common and just ask about it.

If you literally don't know her at all then asking questions is always really good. Just casual friendly ones - you can make stuff up if you have to break the ice, like pretending to not know where something is, or needing change, or asking when a train leaves or something.

Most important things to remember are:
1. Girls generally love it when a guy starts talking to them so don't worry about what you're saying too much - body language and a smiley face is much more important.
2. Be yourself. Talk about whatever you'd want someone to talk to you about. If she doesn't get you, move on.
3. Practise. You'll get less nervous every time you start talking to someone, even if it goes wrong sometimes!

Good luck :)

Answer 5

I met my husband of 45 years forty-five years ago in a Crafts class. He came on too strong at first, and he was unshaven. So it was not love at first sight. My roommate finally said that she knew him and he was a nice guy, so I went out with him after the third time he asked me. He was just fortunate to have someone root for him like my roommate. You may not be that fortunate. Here are some hints that I would like if someone was approaching me:
1. Be friendly
2. Be neat
3. Don't try to get it all said in one day. Give her time to adjust to you; especially if she is going with someone else.(like I was).
4. Be helpful. My former boyfriend and now husband helped me make a frame for my hooked rug. He brought ceramic tile for me from his dad's building site, so I could make a mosaic table. He took me downtown in his car to buy more yarn. I did not have a car and he did.
5. I finally gave in, and saw what a nice boy he was.. I love him more than ever than I did in 1961.
I hope this helps a little bit. God go with you.

Answer 6

You start the same way as every conversation with people, you smile and you say "Hello", I'm and your name. Just be friendly and not threatening.
Just don't do it to a stranger, be in some comfortable setting, such as classroom, or party or some get together.
If you do see a pretty girl, just smile and nod, and if you are close enough, say, "nice day isn't it"
If she ignores you and many will, don't push it, just go on your way.
Always best to practice, when you are in a friendly situation. a smile and saying hello or hi, does the trick.

Answer 7

If she's looking at a book or movie that you have any knowledge of - make a suggestion: "Harry Potter and the Order of Pheonix? Are you a fan?"

You could try looking at something "girly" like shampoo and when a girl that interests you walks buy stop her and ask for help: "Excuse me - Can you tell me what fortifying shampoo does? My mother asked me to buy her a bottle of shampoo and I know nothing about it."

You should try stuff like that for a while until you get comfortable talking to girls that you don't know. And once you're a bit more confident at that - you could try approaching a girl in public. Introduce yourself and tell her that you couldn't help noticing her across the room, and ask her if you could possibly have her number. Sure, you might get a few 'no's' or fake numbers, but you'll eventually succeed. :)

Though you might not like the results, you could even ask your friends if they know any single girls to introduce you to or set you up on a blind date with.

The one thing to remember: CONFIDENCE without *********.

Answer 8

Make a cute remark about her clothing, actions, hair, purse, whatever jumps out at you that caught your eye in the first place. Say it with a smile and be non-threatening and sincere. Flattery and humor go a long way in flirting, which is what you are trying to do. Of course, it pisses my wife off to no end when I do it in front of her! I'm just incorrigible.

Answer 9

Well, my advice is bring up some subject that's gonna happen soon. Say Spider Man 3 that's coming to theaters this weekend. You can do it. I know how you feel.

Answer 10

Hi am so n so..i work in same office/am in same school.....could i borrow ur book, note, or whats time or even am friend of(her friend)..finally thank u...returning same... thanks so much for help..be urself n they will like u for that..genuine girls are more attracted to shy men..so probably they will start conversation with u :)