hes a perfecist and gets mad at me because i'm not and hes changing my mom in to one to I can't stand him,
and his son thinks he perfect cause he gets what ever he wants when he wants it and cause he goes to a privet school
he thinks he so perfect and he talk more then anyone should be able to talk in a hour or anytime I can't stand them please help me what should I do
2007-05-04 10:16:01 · 10 answers · asked by hobojoe309 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How old are you? If you are a teen and your dad is in the picture then you can go live with him. Are they living with you? If not, when they are at your house, go to your room and shut your door. Just because your mom likes them, does not mean you have to. A room and a door make for a strong statement of what you are willing to take. If it has no lock on it ask for one. A person deserves to have a space to call there own. A so-called My Space. If you mom is all interested in this guy and it looks like it will become a marriage, you can choose not to go to the wedding? No-one should be forced to accept or support the union of two people if it causes problems for you. I hope you are given this respect of your space. Remember to also give your mother the respect that she can have her love and friendship choices too. She does not choose you friends, should you get to choose hers?
Tracylyn S
2007-05-04 10:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not know what is going on in the mother's life. She simply may be stressed out. If so, time will take care of that. The son graduates in a couple weeks and may well move out of the house, another stressor for mom. If she's always been like this, you are not going to change her and any attempt by you to do so will be met anger. So, what can you do? You be there for your boyfriend, you avoid mom. She may feel threatened by you; if you are not there as much, she might ease up. You, as the outsider, trying to interfere with the family dynamics will just make things worse. Just support the boyfriend and avoid mom.
2016-05-20 08:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by nichole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew how old you are. Either you will have to live with this until you can move out if you are like 16; OR you should ask your mother for an appointment to discuss the situation with her and do it calmly. I know people who say that divorced or widowed people should wait until their children are grown before dating anyone. It sounds like your mom is focused on her boyfriend and I am sorry for that. I mean I don t know for sure what her side of the story is but it sounds like that. THEN the best you can do is remember how you feel now when you are married and do not copy your mothers behavior and put that pain onto your child!!!! You will do better.
2007-05-04 11:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any chance you can live with another family member? At least until you know whether or not your Mom's relationship is going to work out into marriage? I know that could be disruptive to your schooling....but how many years do you have left in school? How old are you? If you see only a year or so before you graduate and/or go on to college, then try to stick it out. Above all get a good supportive peer group who won't egg you on in resentment, but help you maintain a positive life of friends, school achievement and goals for your emancipation. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-05-04 10:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I know exactly how you feel. After my parents divorced my dad got married right away and it took my mom awhile before she found a boyfriend. The first couple of times she brought him over everything was fine and and I liked him and his son. That is until he started making up stories that I was sneaking around and climbing out my window (this is funny because my room was on the 3rd story of the house). For some reason my mom believed him. He also moved onto my brothers and sisters making them do all kinds of stupid chores, and punishing them for no reason. Well we all ended up moving in with my dad and none of us really have a good relationship with my mother.
My suggestion sit down and explain how you feel, and that you dont want to ruin your mother/daughter relationship.
2007-05-04 14:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by Erica R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be grateful you have a Mom, and her boyfriend and his son to get mad about and blame things on ... not everybody does
acceptance is the key ... accept them for who they are and dont try to change them ... take care of yourself and do the next right thing ... and stop being part of the problem :P
2007-05-04 10:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to tell you this, but it is your mom's life. Who she dates is her choice, not yours. If you dislike them so much and are old enough, move out. Otherwise, you just have to deal with them and try your best to get along. Good luck. I am not too fond of my step-dad, but my mom loves him. Her happiness is more important to me.
2007-05-04 10:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Katie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up. Your Mom has a boyfriend, and you'll have to accept that.
2007-05-04 10:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit doen with your mom over breakfast or something and explain to her everything!
2007-05-04 10:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staand up to them, im sry about whats going on im not quiet sure what do do.
2007-05-04 10:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by hhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋