Are their men in relationships out there that don't check out other women?

Question

My best friend Kerri's boyfriend says he might notice a pretty girl now and then, but he doesn't 'check them out'. According to him, you'll never see him "drooling". At first I told my friend that this has to be complete b.s., but the more I thought about it, the more I believed it might be true. When a man is in love, does he feel a certain sense of being content that causes his eyes and mind to wonder a lot less?

Also, Kerri is beautiful. Maybe this helps?

Answer 1

Yes, when I'm in a relationship I find myself to be a lot more focused, and happy with everything. Hence this causes me to not really pay attention to the next pretty girl that happens to walk by, because I know I have my girl friend at home (guess it helps that if she found out she would smack me lol). Hope this helps.

Answer 2

I know for a FACT my husband does not check out other women. For one reason, I use to watch him all the time and and still do sometimes just to see and not once does he even cut his eyes in another chicks direction. Don't know if it's because he is older or what. Well, no it has nothing to do with age. When a man KNOWS he has the right chick he no longer feels a need to look at anyone else. No one else compares to her in his eyes so looking is a waste of his time. There is a such thing as being truly love struck over someone. Your friends boyfriend sounds young and typical. If he noticed a pretty girl, then that means he checked her out. My husband doesn't even notice if a chick was cute or not, even when I point a girl out. He barely saw her or didn't pay attention at all. And being "beautiful" doesn't help honey. There a lot of "beautiful" women out there. Maybe she doesn't have other qualities that he wants and thats why his eyes keep roaming or maybe he just needs to grow up a little.

Answer 3

Lets see...it isn't complete b.s. but it also I'm sure isn't meant the way you are taking it. By what he says what he means is he looks but he understands the difference between looking because it is natural, and he knows the difference between what he would do if he looked and he was single. I'm sure if a man is in love he will still look but he is probably looking and thinking "she is pretty, but....my girlfriend has this"...and I'm sure sometimes he is thinking "I wish my girlfriend had that.." It natural though, doesn't mean he loves your friend any less....the only way love influences the way a man looks at other women is the fact that if they are in love they are most likely not going to act on those impulses. There are men out that who are not as bad as other men, however they all do it's a fact of life and we have eyes, it's just if a man has enough respect for the person he is with it is doubtful she will notice hardly ever. Myself and my boyfriend have been together almost 2 years and a week ago is the "First" time I have ever seen him even look at another girl...LOL...Men calm down in love but don't let it hurt yours or your friends ego becausee he does it, looking can be harmless...to an extent...remember that! Good Luck!!

Answer 4

It's only natural to notice the opposite sex...even if he is in love...theres always gonna be pretty females around. It's natural to look, but not ok if he totally drools over someone else. If the guy is totally happy then he doesnt need to look for someone else, so he wont check out every female that walks past...but if hes a player then he will always be looking.

Answer 5

Il notice a pretty young lady but i wont "check them out ". It is possiable for man (like) myself to feel content and not "check out" other women.

My Girlfriend is not what the media would label as 'beautiful' , but she has an amazing mind, her body is just a carry case for her mind, to me she is the most beautiful person in the world and im happy with my girlfriend . I dont "check out " other women because im happy. I think that other men could be as content with thier girlfriends regardless of looks.

Answer 6

Just because a man is in a relationship with a woman or woman is in a relationship with a man does not mean that they are no longer attracted to the opposite sex. Any man, or woman, that tells you so is a liar! We have to be honest with ourselves. I am aware of this and so is my girlfriend, and because we accept reality for what it is, we are at peace with ourselves. When my girlfriend and I are out, we joke and play with each other. When she sees a woman that she knows is my type, she'll quietly point her out to me and i'll smile and I do the same to her when a guy that is her type passes by. We are secure in ourselves. There are always going to be "better looking" people than ourselves, so the key is being content and happy with yourself. We love each other and are honest with each other and will never disrespect each other on that level. Its been four years and i never cheated on her even once.

Answer 7

(This isn't meant to be degrading to women, just hear me out)
If a guy has a Ferrari, will he not turn his head when he sees an Aston-Martin driving down the road? Or, to be more cultured, if he has a Monet, will he refuse to go to the museum and look at the Rembrandts? No; just like girls, guys like beautiful things. And women are beautiful. I don't drool or catcall, but I do "check out" women. And I think boyfriend probably does, too. (And the fact that he doesn't admit it may make him feel jealous or ashamed when he does.)
But here's what's funny-- when I check out women now, I immediately think of my fiancee--and not in that "oh, what would she think" way, but in that "oh, I love her" way. Other women may be objects d'art, but the most beautiful one is the one at home.

I dunno, maybe other guys are different

Answer 8

In my opinion guys will "check out" girls. When you said that your best friends boyfriend says he notices them but dont like droll over them, I do believe it to be true. For us ladies it is so typical for us to think guys are going to check out girls no matter what and it's not true. I think it is more of respect in a relationship for a guy not to do that. My husband will not look at another girl because like you said, being in love gives you less of an urge to look at other women. I have to say that I still think that he might in his mind say "that girl is cute" or "she has a nice butt" But all I know is he keeps in to himself lol I mean, if you think about it, girls do it too. It's just so natural for us to "look" (not droll) over the opposite sex when they are gorgeous. In some guys I see no harm in it as long as its not in front of his girl and in an ignorant manner. My brothers also feel the same way. They have girl friends and "notice" other girls but they dont dwell on it. Some guys do and some guys dont. I think it is definitely possible.

Answer 9

Ifeel like guys eyes wonder to other girls. I don't think that is that bad though because it is better than the guy cheating on youand you no that he is yours not theirs.I think womens eyes also to wonder to the guys. Its just a habit after you have looked at guys for a while and then you become in love so then you just keep on looking at guy/girls because you know you can't have them because you are in love with someone. This is almost like he can't look at any girl which I think he has the right to unless he goes and does something with another girl behind her back.

Answer 10

A good man will perhaps notice someone is attractive but he has made vows to who he is married and will let the that be it. You can notice someone is pretty or attractive with out lusting after them. My wife and I mention to each other about attractive people all the time. I'll say, wow that lady was really pretty, or she'll comment on how a certain someone is very handsome, but because of our commitment to each other we don't linger on such attractions.