something weird happened .as soon as we were in his apartment , he pushed me on the bed and started to take off my jeans. i felt terrible and was in two minds whether to have sex . suddenly he turned me on my stomach and entered me from behind . i am 22 yrs old and he is 33 . he says he loves me but i dot know what to make of it ..he calls me everyday and we go out almost daily but i am feeling weird about what we did. Is this normal?
2007-05-04 09:07:08 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
then just go with it i did email me at jenlutt@yahoo.com
2007-05-04 09:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by jenlutt 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you at any point say that you didn't want to go through with it or said "ow" or anything showing your discomfort? Some guys arn't romantic the first time they and a girl have sex together. I wouldn't know as I would be face to face, then next time try being more adventurous. Have you had sex again afterwards and does he keep doing that? the other question is does everytime you guys go out, is all you do is have sex? I would no matter what, just talk to him about it. if he cares he'll listen, if he doesn't, ditch him as you can find better.
2007-05-07 11:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by joe c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not even sure what you mean by "entered you from behind." Either way, if you felt he pressured you, let him know. If you can't talk about it and get over it, dump him and move on. But realize that most men who want a girlfriend want sex as part of the deal. If you're not ready to have sex then you're probably not ready to date. That's just the sad reality of things.
2007-05-04 09:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by OSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone likes something different when it comes to sex. EVERYONE. You definitely need to sit down and talk with this person. Communication is the key to a relationship not SEX. without communication you will not grow as a couple. Plz take the time and sit down to talk with this person. Make sure to get your point of view across and make sure he listens. If this keeps happening you will not like it. If you cant work this out.........since this is a serious situation...take some time apart to feel how u really feel. good luck
2007-05-04 09:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um if you thought it was weird or you didnt want to - why the heck wouldnt you have said something as he was turning you over lol - like theres enough time there for a omg what are you doing, no im not doing that, sorry no, wait a sec etc etc. Why would you have gone along with it?
2007-05-04 09:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by radiancia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be a little controlling. Did you give in by saying you wanted to have sex? Did you ask him to stop? Some people enjoy sex a little rough, but if you asked him to stop or if you didn't want to have sex and you feel it was wrong, then just dump him and try to move past it. You maybe having issues within yourself that you had sex with him so early in the relationship too. It may not just be issues your having with him.
2007-05-04 09:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by misbotta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Makes me sad to read that in a way... no, it's not normal, especially after only a month and him not knowing what turns you on...
If you like that kind of thing, thats one thing, but to do that and not know about you more is insensitive.
If I was you I'd be wondering about the whole relationship.
2007-05-04 09:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by ridelightoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had sex before?
Did you say NO at any point? If not he just was having a good time (being selfish) and wanted to have sex with you.
If he cared about you, your first time would have been loving and caring and slow and enjoyable for both of you.
Are you still having sex with him? Is it the same every time, wham bam thank you mam?
2007-05-04 09:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, you seriously deserve a guy that respects you and is willing to take it slow. My oppinion is that that is not normal and should be confronted as quickly and sternly as possible. You've only been together a month, it definately is never too late to move on and find a trully decent guy.
2007-05-04 09:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by nic j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you give into it if you were feeling strange about it?
I think you should re-evaluate how you feel about this guy and the pace you guys are going. Be careful. From your question, its seems you are very unsure about everything; from if he really loves you, to if sex was a bad idea. I think something is wrong with this picture.
2007-05-04 09:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by LifeIsPeachy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you said no and he entered you, this is considered rape.
If you said no but then changed your mind and wanted to do it, then it is consensual sex.
Since this happened this way the first time, don't be surprised if that is his "sex technique" in the future.
Certainly not what most women want in a loving relationship, but we all have our own desires.
2007-05-04 09:14:06 · answer #11 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋