Will I be too old to have a baby in 2 years?

Question

I don't want a baby right now, but my hubby does. I want to wait at least 2 years. I'm 31 now. I will be 32 in November.

Eventually, I do want to have one. Just not right now. Will I be too old in 2 years? What will the drawbacks be of waiting until I feel ready?

People tell me that I will never feel ready and to just go along haphazardly and "just do it"... I think thats a bunch of bunk made up by people who had babies too early and so they want everyone else to be miserable as well, just like them.

Im not saying that you oung parents are miserable to offend you, but seriously, all you people that had kids at an early age.. arent you a little bit upset that you wasted 20 years of your life taking care of kids? What did you do with your life since you had kids. Probably not much.

Answer 1

Wait until you are ready.A friend of mine just gave birth at 49 to a healthy baby boy.Dont care what anyone thinks-its your choice ,people can be stupid when they trapped themselves with kids early.

Answer 2

I think the question is not whether you will be too old in two years, but more of should you have a baby, and will you ever be ready. You said "everyone else to be miserable as well" when referring to people with kids- Yikes. Not the attitude that one needs to have when having a baby. If you truly think it will make you miserable, it will. Sounds like you are not ready to make sacrifices that come with having a child. If you want a child, they are absolutely worth it- if you don't, you will resent the child AND your husband- not a good situation.

As to age- look at the success of fertility treatments- it goes WAY WAY down once a woman hits 35- so that is a big indicator. The other thing about waiting is simple- the younger you are when you have children, the easier it is on your body. The pregnancy I had after 30 was much more exhausting than the one before 30- and my doctor told me it was because I had crossed another age threshold. It was, FOR ME, completely worth it, as I really wanted another child.

There is nothing wrong with deciding to not have a child, or realizing you are not willing o make changes for a child. I think that is far more mature and kind than having a child who will feel resented.

Answer 3

Ok report me now! I have children 23,20,16,12 and 10 months. I am trying for the last one #6. I am offended about the statement (miserable young parents) I was one and at 36 will be an older mom. I am not nor ever was a miserable parent. In-fact I enjoy my children even with 2 out on their own I love when they are all home for Sunday dinners. I sincerely believe you are not ready .You need all the time in the world to see that children are blessings not misery.So in 2 yrs will you be too old no. Will you be ready in 2 yrs ? Babies normally are not planned,they are usually surprises. Last thing would you be angry or upset if when you decide to have children you find out you can't?

Answer 4

I don't think you will be to old. But the older you get the higher the complication risk goes. I had my first child at 18, my second one at 19 and now I'm 22 trying for my third. I am extremely happy and love my kids. I don't regret having kids. I love being a mother. This is what i have always wanting to be nothing else. If you think your going to be miserable i would recommend not having any children.

Answer 5

If you view raising kids as "wasting your life" if you do it when you're younger than YOU are, why would it NOT be wasting your life to do it at YOUR age or older?

It's NEVER a waste of your life to raise a child.

Personally, I am very happy that I am 35 and I will only be 43 when my youngest is grown. 43 is still young. I wouldn't want to be in my mid-to-late 50s w/teenagers. No, thanks. But there's nothing wrong w/that at all. Hell, my own mother was 55 by the time my youngest sister went off to college. It's just not for me.

Answer 6

There have been women in their 50's who have given birth to babies. No, you will not be "too old" to have a baby in your 30's. However, advanced maternal age is usually defined as age 35 or more at delivery.

Advanced maternal age predisposes to Down syndrome (trisomy 21). The risk of having a Down syndrome baby rises with maternal age. It essentially doubles from 1 in 725 at maternal age 32 to 1 in 365 at maternal age 35. And the risk continues to climb with the years and is 1 in 32 at maternal age 45.

As long as you're healthy and are keeping yourself healthy, everything should go fine.

Answer 7

34 is not too old to get pregnant, but the odds of getting pregnant decrease the older you get, and the chance of abnormalities is much greater after 35 [ that's why they recommend amnios at that age ]. You also have an increased risk of twins in late 30s and up.
The 65 year old lady and Marcia Cross both got pregnant with fertility treatments [ very expensive! ]
Then again,my sister had her 8th baby at 46! [ no treatments!]

Answer 8

I am 23 years old and I have 3 children. i think waiting is a good thing. you definitely will not be too old. my mom is 39 years old and pregnant (due in 3 weeks) with her 4th child. this will be her first with her husband. they couldn't be happier and although they are a little older than most people who are expecting, its not about your age but about your dream to become a parent.

Answer 9

no the older you are the more chances of birth defects such as downs syndrome even if it's not in your genetics. The main reason such as I get pregnant young is I want to be able to enjoy my grandchildren, be able to retire with all of the kids out on their own at a reasonable age, I am in no way miserable and don't know many of us younger parents that are.

Answer 10

There are people having babies well into their forties. I worked in a fertility clinic for a while and there were ladies that had had cancer previously and waiting until 45 to have a baby. Age doesn't mean a thing. Do what you feel is comfortable.