im in 8th grade... i want to have sex with my boyfriend. now whenever were around eachother we get horny. i really want to. but im scared and feel like its wrong.
was anyone here in middle school when they lost their virginity?
is virginity overrated?
i really want to and i love him. hes my first love. but were only 14... dont think im gonna marry him just cause were so young now.
so i love him but prolly not gonna get married. is it worth it?
2007-05-04 08:07:20 · 37 answers · asked by christine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
wait till you are older, you WILL regret it
2007-05-04 08:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by kc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that yo have going for you is the fact that you are asking these questions. Virginity is really nothing more than a state of mind. 14 is a bit young to be getting into this without some kind of older input. I had a friend who was sexually active from about 13 or 14 but then her parents were in an alternative lifestyle and she was aware of all of the parameters from an early age. Planned Parenthood may not give you what you want as far as birthcontrol at that age. Make sure you use a condom at all times. The first time around it will be strange and probably way too short, but with a little practice it will get better. Take your time and have a good time.
2007-05-04 08:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 13 when I lost mine.. Trust me, you end up regretting it no matter how much you love the person at the time. I honestly can say I regret that day since now it is just something that people do, it's not anything to look forward to anymore. Not to mention the first few times hurt to the point you don't want them to keep going.
Instead of having sex why don't you try some of the other things (they sometimes feel better anyways)..
I think you should probably just give it a few years until you know what is going to happen with the two of you. You know? Just so you don't live to regret it like I do.
2007-05-04 08:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by britnic7687 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait.
Believe it or not but true love is worth waiting for. The urges you guys are having are normal; its part of growing up.
Virginity is not overrated its the only thing that separate you from the other girls. In high school their are two types of girls. The ones that do and the ones that don't. Be a don't. Guys show the do girls the attention because guys want to get laid; but they only date the don't girls. Sounds stupid but its true. Think about it no one wants to date a girl that everyone has been with.
Plus you guys are so young. Young love is great but you don't want to ruin it with sex. Being horny is a state of mind. Try physical activities together to release some of your frustrations.
Trust me its all worth in the end.
2007-05-04 08:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by RAE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong and you are way to young do you really want to have the chance of being another teenage parent story. I think you have your priorities messed up put your mind on school work and leave the whole sex issue until you are around 18yrs old or even until you marry that one special person.
Remember your first time you never get that back so are you sure you want it to be with this guy?. One other thing is he pressuring you into this because if he is once you give it up he will be gone from your life, and well it will get around school that you are easy!.
This is something that will follow you around for years to come and if you get pregnant then that is for LIFE!
2007-05-04 08:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the type of person who has sex at such a young age then your life ends up being ruined because you got pregnant. Dont do it wait until you are an adult or at least ina sutuation where you are able to make a more intelligent decision because right now you are not! Dont give in to your childish feelings.....Yes you are still a child....the feelings you are having are for adults.....I dont know hwat happened to this world but it is going down the crapper very fast!
I hope you make the right decisions in the future.....otherwise your next questions might look like this....
I need help I am 14 and i am pregnant and my mom has kicked me out of the house.....not a good picture is it?
2007-05-04 08:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kzracer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he the same age as you? I'd be wary of older boys.
I mean, I know when I was your age I thought I kenw everything. To be honest, when I say that you probably don't know yourself well enough you wont believe me, but in a couple of years you'll understand.
If you're both very much in love and it feels like the right desicion at the time, there's nothing particularly horrendous about it. You are quite young so you'd be perfectly within your right just to say no on that basis, and if you have any doubts which it sounds like you do, perhaps it would be a better choice.
2007-05-04 08:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by tom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very, very careful. Junior High age boys are notorious for the old "love 'em and leave 'em" tactic. Then they like to brag about their conquests. Don't be the name he drops...
Personally, I'm of the opinion that you should wait. As you point out, you are young. Right now you need to focus on learning about people...learning what you like and what you don't like in how others treat you.
You sound like a fairly level-headed young girl. Stop for a few minutes and think with your head and not with your passion. Is he a good guy? Does he treat you the way he should? And remember that having sex CAN turn into a lifetime commitment. Are you sure he is STD free? Are either of you prepared to protect you against an unwanted pregnancy?
Please, please, please...think this through. Don't be a victim!
2007-05-04 08:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is quite young to do this, and, as I've said before, I think the legal age to do this type of thing, in the U.S., is 18. I could be wrong, but 18 seems like a fine age. It is not uncommon for two people to be near each other and get "aroused", especially if one likes the other. Just wait it out a few more years, and then see what happens.
2007-05-04 08:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by lupe_guy_2005 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it because the next thing you know you will be pregnant, its not worth taking the chance, you know its wrong, and just imagine if your parents found out, if my 14 year old daughter had sex with some boy i would hit the roof, your only young boys come and go, dont listen to other people, wait while you are older.
2007-05-04 08:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by TRIKER CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think your to young. The hormones are raging and the way you feel is normal. There are lots of things to consider besides the physical gratification. Emotional baggage can real mess up the young women who aren't ready for this. If you wait a while to loose it you won't regret it much if at all. Letting it go to soon could be something you regret the rest of your life.
2007-05-04 08:13:58 · answer #11 · answered by BigNate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋