Do you think having sexual fantasies other than your partner is a way of cheating? If you have fantasies about someone you like a lot either real or unreal(meaning someone you haven't met yet) would you feel guilty about it? What do you think
2007-05-04 08:03:18 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it's not cheating. Really, if a guy has a fantasy about J-lo or some other celeb, I gotta think that's normal. Of course the same goes for women. I actually think it's healthy behavior.
The same would go for guys or girls going to a strip club for a bachelor or bachelorette party. It's candy for the mind.
2007-05-04 08:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by mark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are a health way to live. We all live our lives in a fantasy world. Whether it is in a Sci Fi world with Battle Star Galactica, or eating tons of your favorite foods, or living in a sexual fantasy, I find this all healthy and a form of escape your everyday life. Some can even say religion is a fantasy world create centuries ago to give us hope about the "nasties" that have happened to us.
For this answer you will get several different points of views:
For the true Christians ... many would say that even kissing (on the cheek) is a form of cheating if it isn't with your significant other.
For Hispanics ... giving a hug, peck on the cheek is normal.
Since you asked, my opinion would be that ... it is o.k. to fantasize; it is okay to remain friends with the people you had sex with (that is if both agree to that); cheating is when you actually do the deed and have sexual intercourse (oral, vaginal, or anal). The thought is not cheating alone, but the actions is.
2007-05-04 15:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a problem at all, as long as you don't actually act on them, or try to meet up with someone other than your spouse or partner to act on them.
I think having a fantasies is a sign of a healthy libido. If you can dream it, and it makes you happy, and doesn't get in the way of your life, why worry about it? Tell your partner if you want, or just act out the fantasy with them, and never tell them. Maybe it's having sex on a beach, or making out in your parent's house, or a certain position. A little variety is a healthy thing, and your partner will probably appreciate your interest.
2007-05-04 15:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has sexual fantasies from time to time if not all the time, like myself, or that is what my wife says!! LOL!! We don't think it is cheating, as long a it stays a fantasy. We actually tell each other our fantasies while we make love occasionally. Hope this helps!!
2007-05-04 15:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong.That is why they are called fantasies.It is something you dream about,but not pursue.You are not cheating if you are fantazing about people or things.
That is called being human.We all do it.Even your partner.How many times do you think guys who watch shows with say Jessica Simpson on it.Think to themselves.Man what I would do with that.That is a fantasy.
As long as you dont act upon them it is ok in my book.I just wouldnt let your spouse know.Unless you both know how to role play.Have him be the person in your fantasy.Just dont give any names if you know it is gonna be hurtful to him.
Every man would love for there women to say hey lets role play and play out my fantasy.He would be thrilled.I know I would be.
2007-05-04 15:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. In my opinion that is a form of cheating. Lust is not a good thing. Adultry of the mind.
When I am in a committed relationship, I have tunnell vision for my special someone. No fantasies. No looking at someone else and thinking unpure thoughts about them. Thats just the way it is.
Although you arent cheating in the physical sense, the person you are with will wonder if they are good enough for you since you are thinking about another person.
2007-05-04 15:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by summer_dawn7 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
That's not cheating.. it's in your mind.. you'll never get to "do" that person.. I don't know what would make you think otherwise unless you plan on hooking up with the person you fantasize about. Hope this helped you out on your problem.
2007-05-04 15:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by curtis91889 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are with people you don't know or won't meet. Lust is when you're daydreaming about things with someone you know and it's not your SO.
Everybody has fantasies, and everyone experiences lust. It's what you do and how you act that determine who you are.
2007-05-04 15:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by BigNate 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it's normal, I don't consider it cheating. If you go Thur the act with somebody else it would be cheating.
2007-05-04 15:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by TE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never fantasized about someone while I was in a relationship.
If I was in a relationship with a good guy I would feel guilty. He deserves better that what i would be giving him.
2007-05-04 15:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋