I was at work and had to go home so that she could go and see her dad at the hospital, and when she called; it sounded as if he was about to die.
I just told her that now im gonna miss out on my bonus and she got mad.
Should I just drop it and not bring it back up?
It was my first chance at this bonus and I missed it by 3%.
I know that family comes first.
I guess I was just an expensive baby sitter, even though its my own baby.
I just want to know what some of you would have done?
2007-05-04 07:57:02 · 22 answers · asked by jetski 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
quite a few years ago, i went thru a similar situation. my friends son died. my mom and my brother came to tell me about it. i was devastated as this boy was like a son to me as i had helped her raise him while she worked and went to school. at the time my husband and i had only been together about 6mos and were raising his 2 children. it was almost time for him to leave for work and he didn't hesitate to tell me to go be with my friend and he would call in to work. at the time he was the only one working and i was home taking care of the kids. he didn't complain about the money he was losing, he was very upset as well as he knew what that child meant to me.
so, you are completely wrong! remember one thing, for most people when you have a parent in the hospital you automatically think the worse and freak out. so of course she is going to make it sound like he's on his deathbed. she did nothing wrong!
think of this.... what's more important to you... family or money? you sound to me like you need to get your priorities straight.
2007-05-04 10:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Chellee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understand here that she's under a lot of stress. She's probably sad and afraid, and she does need you. I do understand your frustration at thinking her dad was dying, and then finding out otherwise; however, for right now, you'd be wise to apologize for the bonus remark and go on, supporting her when she needs it. Your relationship with her is (I hope) more important in the long run.
2007-05-04 15:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she stays home with your child do you consider her to be a babysitter too? that's doesn't seem like a very fair statement - it's called parenting and your baby should have two of them... I have a feeling people will have some pretty ugly comments to say to you, you might even deserve a few of them. I'm not very religious but I heard a quote once "if you make money your god it will plague you like the devil..." family should definitely come first.
2007-05-04 15:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by stagger lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a terrible person, if you think that 3% bonus means anything compared to the health and wellness of your family.
2007-05-04 15:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as "babysitting" your own baby. A baby is both of your responsibility. You did the right thing by going home. Don't mention your missed bonus again.
2007-05-04 15:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let it go. Family is important and even if it wasn't life or death she may not have known that. Do you really want to compare her father's emergency (no matter how minor) and care for your baby with a monetary figure? Who wants to be THAT guy?
2007-05-04 15:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by kendall_c_williams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course family comes first. You did the right thing. Just drop it.
2007-05-04 14:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You my friend are a first class jerk. The girls father was about to die and she asked you to take care of your own baby, and all you can whine about is some chump change bonus. You better go back to school and take a class on manhood and learn how to be one.
2007-05-04 15:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I never would have told her about losing the bonus pay. That was hurtful and mean, whether you intended it to be or not. Sometimes things are better left unsaid.
2007-05-04 15:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her father was in the hospital and she wanted to be with him. Emergencies happen. Part of life. Yes, you should drop it and hope she does the same.
2007-05-04 15:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by danl747 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋