What do you say to him/her? Please help, I am very interested in what kind of reponses I should give to him.
2007-05-04 07:53:19 · 36 answers · asked by worried mother 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Love him no matter what and tell him that you will be willing talk whenever he is ready. His sexuality is just something thats a part of him, and its not really important. But at that age a lot of them are just confused.
2007-05-04 07:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not those who are answering was interested in sex at 14 doesn't matter. Kids are having sex earlier these days. We see 10 year olds getting pregnant. What you say to him is what you would say if he didn't think he was bisexual. His sexuality should have nothing to do with the way you talk to him. He should be educated though on possible risks, bisexual or straight, and just be willing to listen to him if he has any questions. Get some education yourself so you'll be prepared to answer.
2007-05-04 08:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I know this must be hard for you but it must be 10 times harder on your son. He's going through his teenage years and they can be very uncomfortable and stressful. He might just be confused right now, who knows. If anything just back him up 100%. Don't be judgemental at all because you don't want him to feel uncomfortable about his sexuality. It probably took him a lot of courage to come out and say this to you- you're his mother, you've got to appreciate the fact that he was open and honest with you. Just be there for him through this tough time. His biggest fear right now is probably disappointing those who are close to him. He doesn't want to feel as if there is anything wrong with him so try to keep any negativity out of the whole situation. Stay strong... Only time will tell whats truly meant to be.Good Luck With Everything.
2007-05-04 08:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by LilMiss143 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My little sister went through this when she was in 8th grade. All of my surrounding family gave her attention and always wanted to talk about. Basically I just ignored it the entire time. I told her that I think it's all an act and from that point on I never wanted to hear about it. Well I never gave her attention and my family did for a while. But after a while the idea of her not getting attention and actually being with a girl faded. Now she is boy crazy and has never turned back. I think you should just let her do her own thing, it's probably a phase, and she will figure it out on her own.
2007-05-04 07:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just talk to him, don't be in a hurry to label him. Talk to him about sex and find out how much he knows. But don't accept his answer as an absolute. Remember he is only 14. And he is most likely under some sort of pressure. Ask him why he has these thoughts,where they came from. And look at the people around him. Has he been watching porn?
2007-05-04 08:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by alwayintosomething 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Accept it. It may or may not be a phase. I personally knew that I was bisexual when I was 12, and it wasn't a phase. On the other hand, I had a friend who thought she was bisexual, but was just confused and experimenting, trying to find herself.
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2007-05-04 07:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by dragonfly_soup 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
F*** the people who thinks it's a stage or about sex or advise therapy. It's not about anything like that. I knew from a very young age there was somthing different, I was attracted to females as well. It's not about sex. being bi-sexual doesnt make you a slut. It makes you a wonderful person who is truely great. Sexuality isn't just about sex. It's about love. a bi-sexual is able to see beyond gender, to me it is the most open minded you can be. To be able to love someone no matter what.
The best thing you can do is be supportive. Let your child know that you love him no matter what, no matter who he loves, that it doesnt matter. It doesnt make him different or wrong or bad. It makes him wonderful for being able to look outside our stupid standards and feel safe being who he is. As his parent (assuming you are) you will have the biggest impact on him. The fact that he can talk to you about it, shows he trusts you and needs your support. Being a parent is about supporting our kids no matter what as long as it makes them happy and they are striving to be their best.
How can you take advice from anyone who is close minded and ignorant? Please, support him and show him your love and understanding.
SUPPORT LOVE
I was 14 when I "came out" to my parents and It wasnt about sex at all. It was about how I felt towards one of my close girl-friends and that I knew since a young age i was attracted to both men and women and it had nothing to do with sex. One of my best relationships was witha female and we never did anythign sexually and we were together for over a year.
I also agree with above answer, he's your son first and formost. Accept and love him for who is he, and not 'what'
2007-05-04 08:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by cait5156 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Check out this website,it will help you to better understand what your 14 year old is going through or why he may be feeling this way:
http://www.doctorann.org/index/results.asp?keyword=Bisexual
2007-05-04 08:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Euphoria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is confused and having trouble accepting it he should see a counselor to help him accept who he is. your response should just be the same as if he tells you he is going into a sexual relationship with a girl. give him the education of safe sex, waiting for the right person etc. and let him know that you are always there for him.
2007-05-04 08:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All He needs right now is someone to support his decision im not saying its ok but it could be just a phase remind him that u are there for him no matter wat Just dont git mad at him for it because that will only push him away from you. tell him u love him but try to get him to change his mind dont push him or rush him. if u need to bring ou the bible read to him the part where it talks of men should not lay with a man the way a man lay with a woman
2007-05-04 08:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by rawski's ma boi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋