my mom will be visiting my aunt in texas in july. she asked me to buy the ticket for her and she would repay me. being that my mom is not working and on permanant disabillity i thought i would ask my 3 brothers and my sister for all of us to pitch in $80 for the ticket, since the total is $400. my brothers were fine with it and happy to do it. however my b i t c h a s s sister was like "why"? "she has money" i am so upset because my mom watches her son for her and she is so ungreatful. the question is how do i tell my mom that she didn't pitch in without hurting her feelings. i dont want her giving her credit for this too when she didnt contribute to it!
2007-05-04 07:45:12 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be the bigger person here. My sisters are both kind of hte same way. Don't let it get to you. Just pitch in the extra money and you could ask for a little extra help from your brothers if you have to.
All these people saying your mom has some nerve asking you for money are horrible please don't listen to them. You are good person for wanting to help your mom when able. I send as much money to my mother-in-law as I can afford to since she can not work and is by herself. People today do not care about their parents like they should, and that is sad to me.
Anyway, my suggestion would be not to say anything. Don't try to rub it in your sister's nose or rat her out to mom. I am sure your mom knows how your sister is and will be grateful to you for your help. If your sister tries to take credit than say something to her. We are all adult and need to act like it.
2007-05-04 07:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by puggylover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow such a family feud... umm well lets see you are doing a very cool thing the only difference is everyone else is going to pitch in the extra 20bucks for the part your sister didn't contribute too... I'm not sure all the circumstances of her not wanting to help her own mother... but mabey you shouldn't mention it to your mom.. don't want to make her upset or let her know there was a problem between one of you. Mom should be happy you know? I wonder what the day care would cost for her son if her mother didn't watch him? But sometimes you never have to say anything, the ungrateful part of your sister will catch up to her sooner or later. Don't start a fight, not cool... just keep your cool and ignore your sister. It's bigger of you not to start a fight. Eventually your sister will grow up, and realize the real value of help. I hope this can help .. take care
2007-05-04 07:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to just let it go.
Sure, your sister sounds like a *****. However, if you stir things up you will just upset everyone and at the end of the day your sister will still be a *****. OTOH, if you just let it pass, 80 extra bucks is not a lot to pay to keep from upsetting your mom over something that she really doesn't have any control over. Sure, you get boned for the $80, but you have satisfaction of knowing that deep down both of you know "the score".
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You know, after thinking about this a bit I would like to add that your sister did not agree to chip in for anything. You went off and bought the ticket yourself and are now upset that after the fact your sister won't cough up money she didn't agree to spend in the first place. Next time perhaps you should ask for consent before expecting someone to pay for items you have taken it upon yourself to purchase.
2007-05-04 07:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid that I would not be as concerned about your sister; and I would get a card and have my brothers and myself sign it and give it to Mom.Mothers are a lot smarter than we give them credit. I'm sue that she knows exactly what your sister is like,and knows that she is a user and not a giver. If Mom looks after her Grandson, she does so out of love for that little boy.I don't think your Mom would be shocked or hurt that your sister did not contribute. Be sure that when you give Mom the card and the ticket, that "bright eyes" is there.
2007-05-04 07:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well what i would say is to tell your mom gentle or if you don't want to tell your mom you could get a part-time job to pay for the rest of the ticket i know that might suck but think of it this way you are doing it for your mom also you might not think the same way as i do but have mercy towards your sister after all even though if you don't believe the lord will give you a greater reward for your good deed don't waste your time be the better example and hopefully your sister will learn from you in the future!
good luck
2007-05-04 07:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by manny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that your sister has the money to pitch in, maybe she's having money issues too. She's got a point, if your mother doesn't have the money to buy her own ticket then how is she going to pay it back, maybe it should have been a Mother's Day gift and not a "I'll pay you back thing". I think to be upset with her without knowing all the details of her side is a little immature. But that is just my opinion. It's never good to lend or borrow money from or to family members or close friends it tends to cause issues.
2007-05-04 07:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I know how you feel.....
I'm not always happy with my parents (I'm 16), but no matter what, they support me though out my life (so far at least :). I just feel that it is very inappropriate for a son or daughter to not help with a very simple matter, how much did it cost your/her parents to raise you up? Maybe she is not happy with your/her mom, but all of you guys are grownups right? Don't you think it is time to let go of the bad times and try to repaid a little of what you owe to your parents?
I know this might sound mean, but you should tell your mom the truth, she should have the right to know about this.
2007-05-04 07:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can A)Tell the truth. Since your mom is already babysitting, I don't think your sister's behavior will be any surprise. Or B) not say anything, pitch in more to make up the difference and let your mom think whatever she wants
2007-05-04 07:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect your mother has done all sorts of things for you over the years without getting credit for it.
Let your brothers know in a quiet way - and pay for the ticket, and don't do anything to spoil your mother's enjoyment out of being able to say - My children paid for the ticket.
But also know you probably can't count on your sister.
2007-05-04 07:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give credit where credit is due. Tell your sister that you will have tell mom that she wouldn't help. Maybe being put in that situation she might feel differently. Or get a card and put the ticket in the card and sign everyones name but hers.
2007-05-04 07:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋