I am in my late twenties and I've slept with 4 men. Not a whole lot but I'm know virgin either. I've had a relationship with all of the men I've slept with and have never had a one night stand. I've been pregnant I was pregnant once at 17 and I had a miscarriage by my first boyfriend. Then pregnant again at twenty-two and twenty-three, by the same guy I had abortions both times. Then I got pregnant again at twenty-six by another guy and had an abortion. So basically I've been pregnant 4 times by 3 different men. I've had 3 abortions and 1miscarriage. I've been pregnant by every man I've ever slept with. But I don't regret the abortions. I'd like to hear what you think of me. I don't care if you think I'm a slut you've probably slept with more ppl than I have. I DO KNOW I'VE BEEN IRRESPONSIBLE SEXUALLY. BUT I'M ABSTINANT NOW.
2007-05-04 06:34:39 · 26 answers · asked by veronica r 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congratulations to you on your responsible choice to be abstinent. I have only had sex with one man, my husband, and the first time was on our wedding night. It may not be a popular choice, but for us it was the right and only choice. We have been happy and committed to each other and our marriage for nearly 30 years. We have 4 children, a son-in-law, and a new grandson. Our 4th child was born when I was 38 years old and our other children were 18, 15, 12. She was not planned (the others were). She was conceived despite the fact I had been taking birth control pills successfully for 11 years. My pregnancy did not come at an opportune time and it was not in our plan. Abortion, however, was never an option for us. Everyone is faced with decisions, some more difficult than others. Every choice we make comes with consequences. You may not feel at this time that you regret those abortions, but I think you will feel differently about that when you get married and become pregnant with a child you want to keep. There are few emotions stronger than the bond between a mother and her child. I think that you are making a good choice to be abstinent now. Everyone has things from their past that they are not proud of. I think it is courageous of you to admit your past mistakes and to make a decision to change your life for the better.
2007-05-04 08:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many types of birth control, and abstinence is definately the best kind. Is it that your not ready to have a baby? If that is the case then you should practice safe sex. The pill or the shot is the simplest way. If you keep getting abortions it can cause many problems to your body and possibly cause complications in the future if you actually have a baby. I think abortion is wrong in the sense that there are so many people that would kill to get pregnant, because so many are infertile. I think you should put that to thought when getting all of these abortions. How all these woman feel who can't even have kids, and here you have aborted 3.
2007-05-04 13:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by ~*lil jordy*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do in the past is irrelevant, socially speaking. Move forward and learn from your mistakes. If you keep repeating the same "mistakes" over and over again, then you aren't making mistakes, you are just being stupid.
That being said, you realize that sexual irresponsibility has consequences. This time it's only been pregnancy, next time it could be something far worse.
I'm in a single parent chat group and 95% of them got pregnant using birth control. A couple of them got something far worse that insured they would not easily get another boyfriend again....they got herpes. The guys they were with thought they were clean and they thought they were safe because they were using condoms, yet they contracted it anyway.
If there was no other good reason to remain abstinent, protecting yourself from STD's is the best reason!
Keep up the good work! Save yourself for someone special, like your husband. :o)
2007-05-04 13:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with having sex or being abstinant. It's all your choice. Nobody should criticize you for that. The problem is that you are dumb enough to keep letting guys convince you to have sex without a condom. You've been pregnant everytime so don't try to say that you have been having protected sex. You haven't. Is you don't care about the pregnancy then atleast do it to prevent disease. By the way, if you had a miscarriage you should probably have yourself checked out. You could have some serious problems that you need to know about.
2007-05-04 13:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with having sex or having an abortion. My question is, why weren't you using birth control? You should have gone on birth control after the first time, and the other three would not have happened. There's no real reason that you have to even be abstinent now, just go on birth control, and also make guys you sleep with use condoms. If you do that, you'll be ok.
2007-05-04 14:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you aren't a ***** or anything, you could of been a little more protective maybe got birth control if you knew you did not want a baby, but I think that you are mature enough to practice it now and that you didn't just go off and sleep with these guys that you actually had a relationship with them, but next time be a little more careful because having many abortions can hurt you to where when you want a baby you can have one anymore
2007-05-04 13:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by rebeccapolsh333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made decisions in your life that i don't agree with. Yes you have been Irresponsible with sex but i have also been irresponsible I had 2 children out of wedlock also i had more partners than you could count. I am proud of you for practicing abstinence shows your growing up and being very mature. i wish i could have said the same when i was your age.save yourself for your husband and they say after 4 years you can call yourself a virgin again.Joking have a wonderful day
2007-05-04 14:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by lcox65 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You murdered you unborn children that you made irresponsibly? I think your a promiscuous murderer.If youll turn to GOD and repent for your evil HE is mercifull.To say the abortions dont bother you tells me either your a liar or you are the most selfish self centered cold hearted beast I have seen on the net yet. Go watch an abortion sometime and SEE what YOU had done to YOUR own children murderer.Get you a hysterectomy while your at it.
2007-05-04 13:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have all done things in life that have not worked out the way we planned. I am sure that at the moment you had sex with your boyfriends becoming pregnant was not on your mind. Hopefully you would have learned sooner but better late than never. I think that you should be on the pill, sooner or later you are going to have sex again and with your luck you will become pregnant again. Nobody should think of you as anything, it is what you think of yourself that matters. good luck
2007-05-04 13:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by install3579 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need our opinions? If you made the decisions based on what you thought was best for you at the time, then live with it. There will always be people who will judge you but no one will ever fully understand your decisions but you because no one else will ever know all the intricacies of your life. Be safe, do what you think is right and fair and don't worry about what people think of you. Be a good person and strive for success and happiness.
2007-05-04 13:46:00 · answer #10 · answered by OSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋