Ok my friend is a mom to a lil 2 yr old girl..she stays up all night partyin and hangin out with people, and then sleeps all day, keepin her daughter locked in her bedroom..ive spent the night over there and when her daughter is crying to be let out of the room cuz shes hungry or thirsty, my friend just yells to her from the other room to be quiet...i feel so bad for her daughter cuz ive called my friend at 6 and 7pm before and shes still sleepin...and she puts her daughter to bed at 9, so her daugher is only out of her room for a couple hours a day...ive tried talking to her about it, but she gets defensive...should i end the friendship? call child services? or just let it go?
2007-05-04 05:18:02 · 35 answers · asked by Jessica 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You should call child services. I know it's your friend and all but you need to call. That child is being severly neglected. Your friend isnt feeding her properly either. If you dont call the child will most likely die. If this is how she treats her child in front of you think of how she treats her when no one is around. Think about it. She is holding back some of her negativity in front of you, all abusers do. But once your gone her need for secrecy is gone, and she will be alot worse.
Please, please call child services before it's too late. Call today/night infact! Stress to them that you have witnessed such behavior, and that it is not just speculation. Explaining to child protective services what YOU have witnessed will get them serious about visiting the home. Do not say to them that "you think" ____ is happening, because this is only speculation and they handle those differently.
Please call right now!
2007-05-04 05:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by chicata25 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Before I would call child services I would try and get help for your friend she obviously has some resentment towards the child and being a mother. Child services is not always the best solution for a child, the child can end up far worse off. On the same note if you feel like the child's mistreatment can be fatal, at that point is when I would involve child services.Talk to one of her family members about it and see if they can get to the bottom of this. Keep in mind that as long as she thinks that she is being judged she will never see or hear that what she's doing is wrong so just watch your approach.
2007-05-04 05:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by E. 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
As her friend I would imagine that you have grown close to her child as well and you have a right to be concerned. Your friend is neglecting her child and it should be reported. A child's welfare should always come before anything else...even if it comes between friendships. As a mother of a two year old it breaks my heart to hear of this situation and I wish you the best with making your decision but if it were me child services would have already been there.
2007-05-04 06:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by Passerine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first try to talk to any relatives of her that you know of. It's best to keep a kid out of the system, if possible. If you do need to call CPS, and I would if she doesn't have a mom or sister able to step in, then be sure to let them know what TIME to show up. It is very hard to determine the truth when the mom can easily lie and cover it up.
I would also suggest having an additional witness to back up your claims for CPS. Perhaps you could even arrange a time, when you will be there at her little get-together when CPS can show up and "surprise" you and her guests (or the next morning at 9 am, after you've stayed over. You can probably let them in on the truth without being obvious about it. ("oh is that bad? we just didn't want her to be wandering around....)
You've probably already spoken to her about this, but do it once more first...maybe AA or rehab is in order, or maybe just a few weeks with her mom staying over to sort her out first! I wish that poor little girl could be spared having to be put into foster care, but do what ever you need to do to keep her safe and healthy.
Best of luck!
2007-05-04 05:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Junie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I watched an episode of Dr. Phil on Wed. where a stepfather was bullying his stepson and the mom still styed with him because she had a roof over her head. Dr. Phil advised her that their story is like when a kid gets bullied at school and others watched and did nothing because they were scared to get bullied too, well the "watchers" wer just as bad as the bully. So that makes you the watcher, you need to report this abuse, this baby cant defend herself, You can help her, and forget that lousy so called friend of yours, shes not a worthy mother. You Should know how many mom's really want a baby.
2007-05-04 07:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by e1flyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call child services. This girl is being neglected. It takes a community to keep a child safe and you may be the only person who is able to help this little girl. Don't end the friendship yourself, keep in touch with her as much as you can for the sake of this little girl.
2007-05-04 05:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Laura H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Child services most definitely. That child deserves a chance to be a child, not an animal. It is ridiculous, I wouldn't call her a mother at all. You can call anonymously, but you need to do something before the child gets hurt or too psychologically damaged.
2007-05-04 05:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by littleitaly1377 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would call child services. A two-year-old cannot protect herself against neglect or abuse. Since you've already tried to your friend about it, and she's not listening to you, I think you need to take the next step. What if something happens to this little girl and you DIDN'T call? You'll feel terrible for the rest of your life.
2007-05-04 08:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Child Protective Services. That woman has no right to be a parent.
2007-05-04 05:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by barefoot_yank 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely call child services. I would end the friendship too. This doesn't seem like the type of person you should be hanging out with.
2007-05-04 05:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋