I have over over over protective family, and gets to be very controlling at times.... I'm not a kid anymore, I'm 24 years old, but I'm the youngest here. How can I make them let me decide what's good for me and what's not!!
I've been a rebel when I was a teenager, It was exhausting, they didn't bend the rules... I'm sick of this and I want to take things by hand...
2007-05-04 05:12:15 · 14 answers · asked by ♫ Chloe ♫ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you know how it is, parents only want what is best for you but they think they can offer it by protecting you and dictating your every move...you should prove to them that you are up for it and you don't need them and that you are doing great on your own. I dunno exactly how they control you but no matter what the issue is you should explain your point of view for the matter and tell them that you are going through with your plan even if it fails cuz that is the only way that you will learn, from your own mistakes, and you should tell them that they won't be around all the time to protect you and all they are doing now is preparing you to be vulnerable and naive in real life matters which is not that good.
Have a heart to heart talk with them and tell them about your plan for yourself...but you have to have a plan, ok?
AND SMILE for heaven's sakes
2007-05-04 05:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are living on your own, then your parents have little control over what you do.
If you are still living at home, this could be the problem and the solution is to get your own place. Now that you are grown, you no longer have to rebel against your parents.
As a parent, I constantly tell my children, "As long as you live under my roof and I'm paying the bills and taking care of you, then you'll do what I say. If you cannot live by my rules then you have to go.."
Parents can't control an independent child.
2007-05-04 12:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The situation you describe is not uncommon for the "youngest" in a family. It seems to me meeting with a therapist to sort this out would be really helpful to you. It is not that you can "make them" treat you differently, but there are ways that you can act differently whether or not they change!!
2007-05-04 12:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by pdxmaven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you still living at home? If you are, I would strongly suggest you become proactive about finding your own place. If you are already on your own, perhaps it's time to be firm and start telling your family to mind their own business. Of course, this will not go over big at first, but eventually, they will get the message.
2007-05-04 12:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way... They only have power over you if you let them, just takes time, you grow up and come to find out that your family makes mistakes too that they are just human, easy to say but believeing it is a whole nother story! just start making your own choices and let them influance you but not control you.. Big difference....
2007-05-04 12:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by quwen61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Some people just like to control others. If your living at home move out. Put some distance between you and them.
2007-05-04 12:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a young girl as long as you are 24, but remember no matter how old you are, you are still their child. So advice them. If they agree to let you do what you like, that`s good. But if they didn`t , allow them and follow their instruction. ok!
2007-05-04 13:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Nicefriend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone in your family or all of them have to stop fighting and resign from their job as General Managers of the Universe! Bad job, bad hours, no perks and very marginal benefits.
2007-05-04 12:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. What is the worst that will happen? If they are that controlling, they love you a lot too, so you doing what you feel is right won't make them banish you, it will just **** them off a little. But once they see you make good decisions, they'll relax.
2007-05-04 12:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by darkeyes_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out tell them that you are an adult and you will decide what is best and not best for you...and tell them if you make a bad decision then it is YOUR problem not theirs. I'm sure they are trying to protect and help you..but either tell them or ignore them and do you own thing...bad or good. and good luck
2007-05-04 12:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by kiya12bc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋