Funeral speech at my Grandads funeral. Don't know what to say. Any help please?

Question

My grandad died on wensday morning and i have to attend his funeral on friday. I want to say a few words at the service but I have no idea what to say. My cousin is also saying something but she is reading a poem. I want to say something else but i don't have a clue on what to talk about. I am 15 and have never been to a funeral before. I was very close to my grandad and even though I'm not much of a public speaker I want to say something because I know I will regret it afterwards if I don't. Any help will be greatly appreciated

Answer 1

STANDING UP IN FRONT OF THE CONGREGATION, WITH YOUR SPEECH OR NOTES IN YOUR HAND (people will not think the worse of you--few people are brilliant public speakers, they all want to have their notes in their hand!):

Hi. I'm pretty nervous, because I'm not much of a public speaker. (C. PROBABLY LAUGHS A LITTLE--THAT'S GOOD!). I've never even been to a funeral before. (C. PROBABLY MURMURS A LITTLE--THAT'S GOOD!). So this is really hard for me, because it's my Grandad's funeral. I know to some of you he's a brother or an uncle or a dad, and that's special too, but he was my Grandad (say the word with love!).

He was the man who (taught me how to tie my shoes/ took me to the playground/ was always there when I was unhappy--provide a short list of things that made him special to you).

One time, when (tell a short story about an actual event shared between you and your Grandad, preferably one that will make people laugh or make them feel "warm and fuzzy").

I just wanted to take a little time today to honor my Grandad. I'm going to miss him pretty badly. Thanks for listening.

SIT DOWN.

Tip: Either write out a speech or prepare some notes. Either way, print it up in a large font (16 pt or so), and double space between lines. Put even more space between paragraphs. It's MUCH easier to keep your place on a page when you do this. Don't feel bad about flipping pages while you read--just practice doing it quietly.

Another tip: It's OK to read word-for-word from your speech. However, practice a little bit at home--seriously! Stand in front of a mirror, and again in front of an empty room, then again in front of a few nice people (if they'll cooperate!) and read it out loud. You want to read it as if you MEAN EVERY WORD, not as if you can't wait to be done reading it. The point is to honor your grandfather, and rushing through it or reading it like a robot just makes it sound like a chore.

Last tip: If you have a microphone, speak normally. If you do not have a microphone, remember: No matter how loud your voice sounds in your own ears, somebody in the congregation will NOT be able to hear you. Speak louder. Louder! LOUDER! (Practice this at home, too. It really takes practice to raise your voice. Ignore anyone in your test audience who complains that you're too loud--remember, some people will be a hundred feet away, or will have a hearing loss, and will not be able to hear you unless you speak LOUDLY. Everyone wants to hear what's being said.)

And...my condolences on losing your Grandad. I'm glad you had a great relationship with him during the time you had together.

Answer 2

Funeral Speech For Grandad

Answer 3

Although on paper this is a sad occasion, your grandad will probably want people to be happy, smiley and celebrating his long life and his achievements.

There will be enough tears for the day so talk about a pleasant experience you had with your grandad, one that sticks in your mind. Maybe when he took you fishing when you were 8? Or maybe when he watched your school concert? At the end of it you can say................

"This is just one of many happy moments I had with my grandad, and the time I spent with him, I will cherish forever. You'll always be in my heart Grandad"

You could also say what he taught you, what lessons or advice he gave you or a saying he lived by. Or how he made you the person you are today.

Maybe he had a nickname that you made for him? Tell its story. Maybe you say how he got you out of a tricky situation one time and you couldn't thank him enough.

Its your last chance to pay your respects and show everybody what a great person he was, and how much he'll be missed.


Take Care
Good Luck..xX

Answer 4

I am sorry for your loss. I am also proud of you for wanting to say something at his funeral.

As someone who has spoken at many funerals and heard many speeches given by family members I have the following suggestions:

first of all, you can make some general statements about his character--kind, gentle, loving, adventurous--whatever best describes him. Then you can tell at least two personal stories about him. Times that he said something or did something that made an impact on your life or gives an example of the traits you listed before. Or maybe you know some of the stories of his life that maybe he only shared with you and others would benefit knowing about him.

It is ok to write it all out and read it. Just go over it several times before to make sure it flows right for you. It is also ok if you feel like you want to cry while giving the speech. Just stop, take a deep breath and give yourself a moment and then carry on. What you say will be such a gift to the rest there and will provide so much comfort especially if you can remember some humerous times in his life. Yes, it is just fine to laugh at a funeral, after all it is really a celebration of that person's life, so celebrate your grandfather and his life, it meant so much to so many and he obviously made an impact on your life.

I wish you the best.

Answer 5

Just stand up and talk not just about him but to him. It can help if you ask other people what they thought of him. Then put that in too. At the end of the day it wont matter what you say because you were close he will understand , so good luck hope it isn't too upsetting but a funeral I think should celebrate a persons life its a final goodbye.

so give your grandad a send off to be proud of.

Answer 6

Hi

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Funerals are not the nicest things to have to go through, and making a speech can be very difficult but i think if you feel that you want to say something you should go ahead with it maybe write down what you want to say and if you cant face it on the day someone else will read it on behalf of you.

think of things that made your grandad special, things you have done with him over the years, things that have made you laugh, holidays you may have been on, funny things he made you believe when you were young. all the things your grandad has done to make you the person you are today.

good luck with writing your speech i hope it brings you some comfort xx xx xx

Answer 7

When my brother died, I remembered some special occasion with him and talked about that. This is simply to allow you to vent and share what you know with the others. Don't get so involved in the perfection of it. Remember to grief. You just lost your grandad. As a speech you could talk out loud to your grandad, pretend it's just you and him. Thank him for the times you've had.

Answer 8

Just say what you really think about him...some funny memories...best memories...sad memories etc. At my grandma's funeral I said:
I just loved it that I could be so open with you and I will never forget that. I remember when I was sleeping at your house when I was 7 and we had a waterfight with the old woman next door. It was funny and one of my best memories of me and you together. I will love you forever, as long as Im living and some day I will join you in heaven and we can fly with the angels and fight with the demons. I love you grandma.
Then I said the Lords Prayer...((And everyone else joined in))
Pick out her favourite song or one that reminds you of her and get the person on the orchestra to play it. I know what your thinking...A bit soppy but everyone loved it...nearly all of them were crying..including me.
Omg I miss my Grammy...Thank you soo much for reminding me of all these nice memories. Tonight I will pray for your Grandad x I hope it goes ok. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 9

You seem like a very intelligent young girl, this is very touching, I wish my grandfather had been like yours. Maybe changing the << I shall remain proud forever, because....>> to <> Also why don't you read it some more times trying to make it longer 1m15s sounds like you might be rushing through it, I think it reads very heartfelt. Like username - ELLEN - said just remember to talk slowly and pause at times I don't know what kind of funeral you'll be having but I think that the only thing this panegyric needs is for you to wear a sober very age appropriate mourning gown. That is not to say you could add things to it, if you wanted, I think is great the way it is. Finally, your feelings are real I don't see why anyone would get disappointed.

Answer 10

The best things you can say are those from your heart. If you can think about the two or three things you most remember about your grandfather, and then think of a little story of something he said or the two of you did together to illustrate each, that would be great! Also, remember, don't worry if you tear up or even start to cry........people will actually respect you more for it.