I am used to dating jerks and people who make moves a little bit faster.
This man does not. We go out, eat,drink,watch movies. Even at his home, he is not the guy that is all over me. And, yep its driving me crazy.
I think he likes me because we go out and we are flirty, but he has not held my hand or made a move? And I am confused by this. I think I see it as him taking it slow and getting to know me, is this the more mature thing to do? And I am I right at assuming?
Am I reading him wrong?
I like him so far, just waiting for him to do something dumb. Or do you think he thinks of me only as a friend?
Somebody help me.........I dont know what moves to make or what?
2007-05-04 04:44:37 · 11 answers · asked by baby_rost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...this guy could be anything. He could be gay and wishing he weren't. He could be a serial killer, buttering you up. Or he could be a genuinely nice guy who actually respects women and dates them only to find out if they're marriage material, because he's interested in loving and respecting one woman, the same woman, for the rest of his life.
You probably don't want to ask him if he's gay.
You probably don't want to ask him if he's a serial killer.
But you probably SHOULD ask him his intentions. Tell him what you told us: "I'm so used to dating jerks, I don't know what to make of you. You treat me well. You actually pay for our dates. You don't hit on me constantly. It's driving me crazy! I'm wondering why you haven't tried to hold my hand or make a move on me. What should I make of you? What do you want from a relationship?"
If he's a decent guy, he'll be pleased that you asked, and he'll answer honestly. Then you know where you stand. Then it's time for you to decide whether you want a nice guy who'll love and respect you for the rest of your life. Then it's time to decide whether you want to keep dating him to determine whether THIS is the guy whom you want to love and respect you for the rest of your life.
Have fun!
2007-05-04 04:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by katbyrd41 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, if you're going to be mad at him at least tell him why. Either own up to seeing the pictures and explain you were jealous or thought he might be seeing other people or leave it alone. Like you said, if you two have no commitment he can talk to whoever he wants. Besides, it was a party...is he supposed to be sitting in the corner waiting for your date the following week? I think you really need to search yourself and ask if you can trust him. That's the only way you know whether to stay or go. If you can't trust him, you either need to not be together, or let him know what you're so worried over so you can work through it together. Now that a year has passed, maybe it's time you guys talked about committing again (since it seems that that's what you want). If you want him to treat you like his girlfriend, just be his girlfriend. He's a guy...he's not going to let you have his whole heart unless he knows it's just the two of you. Think about what you really want from him. If you want dates, dinners, snuggling on the couch -- you want him to be your boyfriend. Anything else is just unattached affection -- a booty call.
2016-05-20 04:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a general rule, becoing friends gives a solid basis for romance. It's very likely that if your are used to "run and gun" or "hurry up, get in and get out" guys, this guy's behavior will seem strange. One thing we do know is that he's not after a fleeting relationship. Advice? Keep waiting for him to do something dumb that constitutes a deal-breaker and enjoy. It won't hurt if you initiate a bit of closeness and see how he reacts.
2007-05-04 04:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think because you are accustomed to the fast track its confusing to be with someone who takes their time. So, I suggest you stop assuming and starting enjoying your time with him.
Maybe, he isn't sure how he feels about you yet; which isn't a bad thing. Being friends now could always escalate to more later.
Be patient. And when that gets old then you make the first move.
2007-05-04 04:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by RAE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always ask him. Unless he's gay, guys don't usually hang out with girls unless they're attracted to them and want to get in their pants. He probably really likes you and doesn't want to scare you off. If you want to move faster, then make some moves.
2007-05-04 04:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have found a gentleman who treats you with respect and affection. Reciprocate with same. If you want a bum or jerk go look under a barstool or something. Your choice.
2007-05-04 04:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should hang out with him some more and if dosent make a move then ask him how he feels about you
2007-05-04 04:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweety , first i think u make a move on him , if he still reacts the same , then he will probably tell you whats wrong, and if he didnt you should ask him about it .
2007-05-04 04:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a move see what happenes where you are younger he doesn't want to scare you away so he is taking his time if you want to go faster show him
2007-05-04 04:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he respects you and he is waiting for you to make a move on him!!!
2007-05-04 04:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋