My mom thinks its ok to pressure me and forcefully push me to do better. I know that Nursing is very competitive, but is it alright if every time i get a C she downtalks me so much. Before the spring term, I was confident (my boyfriend supports me too) that I was going to pass microbiology. She had the nerve to say "are you sure about that?" Like she freakin doubts me!!! I know i've had low grades to prove it, but she's my mom, shouldn't she be a little more helpful than doubt her own daughter? I know one thing is for sure, I WILL NEVER DOUBT MY KIDS. Unlike her ***, I'll always be supporting them in every right thing they do. If they do wrong, I'll talk to them, not yell. But tell me, what do you think?
2007-05-04 02:42:15 · 3 answers · asked by ** i Am hiS giRL ** 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
who's paying for your schooling? if you are paying for it or if you have scholarships then you need to tell your mom to back off. if there is something in regards to your school that she doesnt' like then she needs to just stay out of it. being in school is enough pressure. she needs to let you be your own person and needs to let you be your own adult. or face the risk of not haveing you in her life in the long run. your life is your life. she really has no say in it at all.
2007-05-04 04:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may think that this type of comment is more like issuing a challenge than doubting you. You should sit down with her once and explain that it really hurts your feelings when she says things like that and that what you really need is her support and understanding. Admit that some of your grades have not been the greatest but that you promise to make some positive changes there in exchange for some positive support from your mom. Be calm and talk about how you feel, use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. A good relationship with your mom is priceless and is worth working on.
2007-05-04 09:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jbuns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it sounds like she's doubting you but i don't think that's really the case. i think she just wants to make sure you've covered all your bases and that you're sure. i know, that doesn't make you feel better about it but, unless you've told her, she may not realize how her comment's are making you feel. when things are calm, talk to her. tell her how she is making you feel and how hard that makes it for you to concentrate. tell her you know she means well, but it isn't helpful. i had to tell my dad something similar. it was hard but he understood. he slipped now and then but it got a lot better after we talked. if you don't think you can talk in person, try writing her a letter.
2007-05-04 09:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋