We have been dating for 3 years, and 1 additional year back in high school. We're best friends and I love him very much. He's moving in to his friends house...he's actually kind of my friend too. He just bought a house, and finished off a room in the basement for him. He's been asking me to come, but I'd be living with not just him, but also the friend, his wife, their 5 year old son, and another friend of theirs. I would like to live with my boyfriend, but just don't know I feel about everyone else. I like my privacy...My hearts telling me to do it, because he will be upset if I don't, but my head is telling me to not even think twice about saying no, because I'm not thrilled about the idea of living with all of the other people. Any advice on what you think I should do?
2007-05-04 02:34:41 · 7 answers · asked by Minki S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and I know my email says "snowMAN" but i'm a girl :)
2007-05-04 02:37:37 · update #1
Thanks for all the advice everybody. I'm 21, he's 23. It's an easy situation for him to live there...it's only $300 a month. But I'm going to school full time, and working part time, so paying rent really isn't a good situation for me right now anyway. I guess it's just one of those times where I need to be a strong woman and do what is best for me, putting his feelings aside.
2007-05-04 03:17:55 · update #2
if something is telling you not to think twice about saying no then dont do it....my husband and i have lived with numerous family and friends in our 13yrs. together and believe me it never works out(.how old r u,? if i may ask.) it really caused us a lot of grief and many many arguments!!! if he really loves u then he will understand!!!!
2007-05-04 03:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by cincisweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I feel that live-in relationship is not a bad practice but one should take care. As you said you, you will have to live with your boyfriend's friend and his family. It doesn't sound that good to me. You should think twice before taking this step.
Live-in will help you know the real nature of the person you love. You people can understand each other. But it won't be possible in this case. You people won't get the space you need for your relationship to grow.
So. please give it a thought in a matured way. Keep these points in front of your boyfriend. He will understand your feelings.
2007-05-04 02:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ved 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting a moving in process with a bf/gf should not involve living with others. And why is he living with all these people anyway? Confront him and tell him you like your privacy, and you aren't willing to live with allot of people. It is never a good idea living with others, it ruins a relationship.
2007-05-04 02:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel comfy with the living situation than that should tell you that once you get in there it wont work
if you two really want to live together than how about getting a place of your own that way you two can enjoy each other?
good luck
2007-05-04 02:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can move in with him yes its been long but you can still break up.
you should tell him that if you was every to break up that your still going to live there if you like the house.
the only thing with that is if you break up he might bring others girls in the house so you should do the same and bring a guy so he thinks you not jealous.
2007-05-04 02:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lets see i say tell everyone in that house there will be one rule... leave this room alone. dont come in or nothing have it locked and have the only key for it so when it is you and him you can lock it to get away from everyone cuz when your not there it wont matter. and when you dont care when they come in you can have it unlocked.
2007-05-04 02:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by brandon W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many people, wait till he gets his own place.
2007-05-04 02:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋