my friends, if you felt the way i felt you probably die, i am so heartbroken over my last boyfriend, i dont know what to do and dont think i will ever get over it. i loved him so much and he didnt even care about me. Also, none of my friends or family know i am mourning because they will tell me "i told you so" and it is horrible crying and mourning in private. i am experiencing complete hell!!! any advice?
can you say some kinds words to me that will probably cheer me up?
2007-05-04 02:13:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry for your loss. there are no words that could cheer me up when I lost someone I loved VERY much, and did not love me.
I can tell you, that in time, the pain will fade. Work through each day, and even when it feels like you cant take another step, take the step anyway.
I prayed for death when she was gone, and each day, i hoped something would come to take the pain away. My heart felt as if it would never love again, never want to beat. I wanted to rip it from my chest, in hopes that it would take some of the pain away. But, as the days turned into weeks, and the weeks into months, that feeling faded. It still hurts, years later, but I have moved on, and it only remains as a tiny sadness in the back of my heart. I dont let that last bit fade away, because I use it to remind me of lessons learned.
your family loves you. your friends love you. they will not rub this into your face, and will not make fun of you. I feared the same thing that you do, and I discovered they would always be there for me.
I hope this helps you. My last piece of advise is this. If nothing else helps, go to a friend, and just let them know you need a hug. silly as it sounds, they help tremendously.
2007-05-04 02:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by J K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that it will get better. Remind urself of all the bad things he did or didn't do. Go out w/the girls. Take up a new hobby, craft, learn something new. Write it down. Throw away or hide his photos in a box, along w/all the stuff he gave you. Do something that u didn't get a chance to do while he was around. Pamper yourself. Get a mani-pedi, a massage, go shopping, a new color/haircut. Pretty soon, you won't have to remind urself these things and it will get better, I promise. There's so many phases after a break-up. When things are really rough, remind urself that you're in one of those phases now and try to break out of it. Change ur routine, even if for 5 mins. If when you feel bad, you cry or go to the bed, change it. Go out for a walk, look up into the sky, take a bath, anything to take ur mind off of it. Take this as a lesson. The ex has taught you things you don't want in ur next bf. He wasn't the one but someone who will be is out there. Trust me, it'll get better. Feel the feelings you need to now but nudge urself to break out of it. Good luck! =)
2007-05-04 02:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Morning:
Sorry to hear your so sad...I know how your feeling...one day you'll meet someone new...in the mean time you have to Let Go...free yourself of this pain...be thankful for the love you had & learn from it...cherish the memories you have you'll meet someone that will give you more memories to have...try to keep yourself busy...get involved in a new group or club that interests you & you'll meet new friends there...join facebook.com it's really cool & it's free...you can network with people from around the world...when you close one door another will open...you said he doesn't care about you...why should you care about him? Life is far too short...get out there Girl & have some Fun...things take time...& things change...try to have an open mind...
Forgive the Past
Live the Present
DREAM the future...
Today is a gift...that's why it's called the Present...
Keep yourself busy...hang out with lots of your friends & family
Good Luck to You..
Sea ya
Daytripper
2007-05-04 02:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Daytripper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its hard i kno. i have been there and the worst part is hearing the "i told you so's" but you can stay cooped up forever. Yea your going to hurt, and yea your going to be sad, but is that how you want to live the res tof your life? dont you want a fresh start with a brand knew you? give your self some "you time". treat your self like a queen. go out and have fun and meet kne people and even hotter guys. Its great to fall in love and be in a relationship, but its even better to start over and be single, living it up and being freeeeeee. You will be fine after a while. Just be strong and dont let no guy bring you down. No guy is worth your tears, and the one that is wont make you cry. Always remeber that.
2007-05-04 02:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by vbolden88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay for a man who makes you smile & makes you happy to be around with. If he's not doing that, he's not the right one for you.
I know what you're going through. Been through hell myself. You know now that he's wrong for you. The right one is out there. Go look, there are plenty of fishes out there to search from. Take some time to reflect first and make yourself feel and look good. Don't jump into dating right away. You need to heal yourself first.
Have some fun (not the wrong kind of fun). Flirt a little, put on your makeup, dress up, feel good about yourself. Don't do anything you'll regret though. Behave responsibly. It'll pass. Good luck dear.
2007-05-04 02:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people have been where you are and i know that what your going through is extremely painful but time heals. Maybe your not giving your friends and family credit, if they fully understood how you felt im sure they would offer some support and comfort. Give it a try because it helps.
2007-05-04 02:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Widgi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE can be the most painful experience in life, but the happy times make up for it. what you doing now is completely fine, you've suffered a great loss and therefore need time to get over it. you will get over it, it's gonna take time and it won't be easy. don't be harsh on yourself
2007-05-04 02:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by the S'bu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only kind thing for me to tell you is, the heartbreak wont last for long...Maybe if you found something else to do with your time, you wouldn't think about him as much and before long you will be saying things like "Jay who, oh my ex. He broke my heart before, but I'm so over him now"
2007-05-04 02:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember why you broke up with him. Get angry. Get angry that he didn't care about you. Get angry that he didn't try to work it out. Get angry that he is an a$$. Write down all the things you want in a man...then write all the things you hate about him. Is he what you really want? Say to yourself, "I choose to be happy, I won't let him get to me, he is NOT worth my time"
2007-05-04 02:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by Comebackmylove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need a rebound! find someone hot 2 play with 4 awhile.
2007-05-04 02:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋