im 14 and my mum beats me, she has had 5 kids, im the forth and LL of them have run awa, HELP ME!!?

Question

ok, i am running away at the mo, i ran away last tuesday, from schl and ive ranaway from norfolk to harlow to find my dad, im with him now, mum hasnt reported me missing but her husband sed his worried, my social worker says she wants me bac, and dad has no PR ova me (parential rights) but no-one beleives me tht she is violent!!! i want to stay with my dad, bac in harlow where im from,HELP ME!!!!

Answer 1

Ring child line ask them what they suggest. Be brave and make sure ALL of your family know of your plight, you may find support from them.

Answer 2

Hey, I'm the same age as you, and some friends of mine have gone through the same thing as you have, and come out of it a better and stronger person. I'll give you the exact same advice that got them through their nightmare..

You've got through the hard part and you have to be congratulated for your amazing courage and strength and determination.

Now, you've decided you want to stay with your dad in Harlow. You comfortable, happy and by the sounds of it safe and secure there.
What your Mum did wasn't right and this is your chance to punish her for the evilness that she enflicted on you and your siblings.
Tell the police, but first get your other siblings to WRITE or RECORD on a tape about some of the occasions too. The more people who vouch for her behavior the better. You need evidence, and without that, the case is hopeless.

Take Care
Best Wishes..xX

Answer 3

i sorta no how your feeling i recentley got busted for doing something i shouldnt have! today (08-05-2007) i got home from school to find my mum waiting for me i guess she was layed back but now i everyone thinks im a s*ut! i live in a small town so there is no privatitsy im 13 and we met up with some 20 onwards guys but something i shouldnt have done is snuck out with my two best friends at five in the morning which i guess was pretty stupid consitering it was next door to a policemans house and the boy's were drunk.mum i guess was disappointed which is fair enough but she should of expected it from me and now i feel like running away but as i said i live in a smal town so i really have no-where to go 1 train goes through here once and it is used for carrying things so i have no where and i'm also scared that no1 will accept me for who i am which is not a s*ut consitering i havent had sex yet! well anyways you i guess should call your mother tell her ur alright unless she hasent even rang ur father to inform that u have ran away! if thats the case than dnt ring think of way's of what you will say to her when she does ring tell her that ur petrified of her and that ur too scared to come home because of the way she asults you which isn't right to beat a child! good luck with it !!

Answer 4

Press charges against her, once a report is done so is she. She'll be investigated and if found guilty she'll have a record. Did she beat the other children as well? Have all your siblings file a report makes a stronger case. Also In Ontario at 14 you can go to the court house and tell the justice of the peace which parent you want to reside with, Try that! The courts can award parental rights as long as you tell them where you want to be. Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. You took a very brave risk by running away from home, and you were very lucky that you managed to find your dad.
You need to tell your social worker that your mum is violent towards you, and that you want to stay with your dad. Your social worker should be supporting what YOU want, and not be forcing you back into a dangerous situation.
Try calling childline - 0800 1111 they will listen to your problems in confidence.
I hope things get better for you. Take care.

Answer 6

this is hard as people don't want to admit that mothers are also capible of domestic abuse. Do your brothers and sisters get abused aswell? If so try to get them to talk up it can help your case, or if you can have a recorder playing when ever you are with your mum if it is physical, mental, verbal or psychological it will turn up on tape (or on MP3 ETC) and will be viewed as evidence against her. But double check that as there is privacy laws that forbid secret recordings in some states and countries.

If its violent abuse you could try to take photo's of the red marks or bruises with the dates showing and if there is documents showing you were not at your dad's then your mum/step father would be the next to be looked at

Answer 7

I dont want to worry you but, when you get back its gonna be worse than when you went. your going to have to explain alot of things so i say before you do go back (if you do) then think things over. I think it would help if you wrote a letter to somebody you can talk to or trust. id say to your dad explaining what really happens at home, and why youve ran away. then you need to tell your mom, why you ran away. This is bring certain things to light and hopefully make her realise what shes doing to you is really affecting you. if its Really that bad may be you should think about going to court, so that your dad has custody over you. I hope ive helped you. But trust me form 1st hand experience running away wasnt a good idea, maybe at the time it was the only option but now things are going to be a bit rocky.

Answer 8

If your mum didn't report you missing, I will assume she knows you are safe and with your dad? If you are happy with your dad and he looks after you well, couldn't your social worker help you to stay there with your mum's consent. You are clearly not happy with your mum and I feel for you if she has been violent. If all your siblings have left home for this reason, the social services must be aware of it. Confide in your social worker. Good luck xx

Answer 9

hi,
the bad thing here is that you h ave to move back into the house with you mom. if you dad has no parental rights. the good thing is that you can still get help form the same people that you say will not believe you. you just have to document every event. if she hits you hard enough to leave abuse,or she insulates you document it all through tape recordings and pictures. when you have enough evidence take it to your social worker and the police. be careful it could back fire on you if she finds your proof.

Answer 10

Have you got an adult you can talk to, a teacher, nanna, auntie, your local community police. Because you need to talk to someone. Have you tried child-line, its all confidential, speak to someone don't keep it to yourself. Speak to your dad and ask him if you can stay with him for a while, ask your mum if its ok, if it works out then maybe your mum and dad can come to an agreement. There is a solution, don't think things can't change because they can, but it's up to you to make the first move and tell someone!! Good luck

Answer 11

i am so sorry that your having such a tough time...i left home at 15 because of my (egg donors) violence...i moved out of town and returned when i was 18....so there was no one who could make me go back....i do not or have no spoken to her since that day i left i am 43 now...you have o insist to the social services that your in danger of your mother and that you cannot go back....maybe volunteer to go into foster care until your old enough....o not let these people ignore you, this kind of thing falls on deaf ears alot and people should take notice to kids of your age who are being physically abused....DO NOT go back.....stay where you are for now, but don't let the SS take you back home...she needs help with her anger, so tell them that once she gets help, then you'll go back...BE HEARD....if she has bruised you or cut you in any way then get pictures so you have proof that your being abused, but do not go back until she gets help...ask your dad to back you up...TELL him that you can't go home because she is violent....and that you want to stay somewhere safe because you are scared...don't run away again, go to the police if she beats you again, get her arrested and get SS involved