Ive had to move back into my mums home, for fiancial, and other reasons. the problems,my brother ( who does not live there) is violent towards me, last year he come into the house ( he has the key) and into my bedroom ( without knocking) grabbed my the throat and the hair, shook me around, punched me and smashed my phone up, when i tried to grab it,
All that was because i had an argument with him over the phone the night before?
I am civil towards him, but deep down I just hate him, he has always been a violent bully.
question is, how to deal with it?
2007-05-04 02:04:43 · 18 answers · asked by raggyann 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont have a dad, my mother is 71 and Im 29, my brother is 36 and married with kids etc.
2007-05-04 03:44:51 · update #1
i know what your going through i think distance is the answer dont talk ;phone or contact him if he comes to your mums when your there go out
2007-05-06 21:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by christinebarrow@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother what he did and ask her to change the locks on the doors so that he cannot get in without knocking. You could also report him to the police and get him prosecuted for what he did to you, though it's probably too late now because the marks would have faded, though you might be able to get a court order against him ordering him to stay away from you. If your mother's not backing you on any of this though then it's not going to be easy.
2007-05-04 02:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by KB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with it is to wait until the next time he attacks you and allow the front of your knee to make sharp and violent contact with his testicles in an upward motion.
I have known this method to be highly effective in convincing some surprisingly large men to be more respectful. The key to the movement is to not hold back and allow your knee to follow through on to it's target. Be sure to use the front of your knee and not the top of your leg for maximum effectiveness.
Good luck. :)
2007-05-04 02:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by Shakespeare 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
report him to the police....it's obvious that he's got issues, so if he comes round again then get the cops onto him...or maybe pick up something very heavy and smash him over the head with it...you're right...he is a bully but bullies are usually spineless cowards....they only pick on women or people smaller than thmselves...just tell the cops and have your parents take the key off him...
2007-05-04 06:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easy to say phone the police but how will your mum react to that? and its easy to say hit him back but with someone like that i wouldnt recommend it unless you r sure u can kick seven shades of s**t out of him. speak to your parents, tell them the full situation, ask for their backing and if they wont give it to you tell them that they r condoning his behaviour and that you hope they understand that at the first oppurtunity you will be moving out.
cant u rent a room, a double goes for about 70 a week. i know its hard but if u really wnat out, take a second job, find the cheappest place possible then leave. good luck
2007-05-04 03:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by louie3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it.s no good ringing 999 .they will be no help what so ever. the one who has to take charge of this problem is your dad. then again he may not have any ball.s . whom doe .s your brother respect most .someone else in the family perhap.s.
if you have to stay; in your family home . for the time being. next time the @ss kick.s off; just kick him in the nut.s. if you can not ; give me a call . and i will do it . good luck.
2007-05-04 03:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
report him honey what u waiting for.
if that was my brother id beat the s**t out of him then call the police. Take care and dont put up with it, like u said hes a bully x
2007-05-04 02:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sad. Siblings should not fight. They can have arguments. I think it must be something in the past that made him so violent. Did you all treat him like an idoit when he was younger? If so, try to change it.
2007-05-04 02:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sleuth! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would start out by avoiding him by all means. I would also pray that God take that evil he has in his heart for you out and cast it into an empty field. Stand up for yourself. If he does not start treating you better, family or not call the police on him. kellym
2007-05-04 02:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would inform the police, violent people like that are unpredictable and what he has already done to you is assault and he can be charged and prosecuted for that.
2007-05-07 02:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋