Im having issues in between who to be with....Ok first theres my baby mama we were together for four years we did the whole family thing it was good...she was just so selfish and the only person that she thought about was herself..I always told her that if she continued to act like this i would leave her..She kept on so i left. I had to have threatened her for at least over a year. Then theres my girl she takes care of me. Makes sure im fed my clothes are clean...she does everything that ur girlfriend is supposed to do...with no mistakes. Its kinda too good to be true... She has an open open heart and she is just awsome...I want to be wit her but my babys mama makes it impossible. I want to be wit babymama cuz of tha kids but i dont have those feelings for her no more like a once had at all. when im around her i get annoyed.. i dont now what to do cuz i love my kids and i feel as if i choose my girlfriend then i will lose them cuz thats how my baby mama is
2007-05-04 00:35:21 · 10 answers · asked by NeedhelpFast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have kids
you dont just leave because you meet someone new... you Made a committment
honor it
2007-05-04 00:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love this other woman than you have to do what is right for you! If your babby's momma tries to keep the kids from you, take her to court. Fathers have rights too!! You can make arrangements to pick them up where you don't have to deal with their mother! If she wants child support she will have to let you see them, if she doesn't you could have grounds to get them yourself! She will try to keep them from you but if you do things right, there is nothing she can do! If you are their father you shouldn't have to pick between two women, their mother needs to grow up and realize that it isn't good to stay together just because of the kids! It will just hurt them in the long run. They will grow up thinking marriage is not a happy thing, then they won't want it! That's not right , because everybody deserves to be happy! Just stick with it, it will work out eventually. You just hang in there because it wont be easy, let your new girlfriend be a part of it all, but not too much! You can do this !!!! Stay in your childrens life, they need you! You don't have to be with their mom to do it! Hope this helps you make a decision!!
2007-05-04 08:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by alice f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man,
Sounds like you got yourself in a tough spot.
Because kids are involved, you defintely MUST make the right decision.
You're dealing with some "real" lives and you need some "real" answers.
Dude, there's a site called When Love's Talking (whenlovestalking.com). I'm serious you might want to see if they can help.
I've got kids too and a baby momma and you've got to handle this right.
Peace!
2007-05-04 07:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by brad t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids will stay your kids forever. No one can change that, not even your baby mama. If you are not happy with baby mama it is better to let go. It will be hard for the kids at the beginning. But it is not fair to let them grow up looking at unhappy you and unhappy baby mama, being unhappy only because you are together.
Let your kids grow up healthy. You are their father and nothing in the world can change that.
2007-05-04 07:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by E.T.O. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be an active role in parenting.... Start a life w/ the one you love.... Stay close to your kids so you can be active in thier lives. Try for custody but chances r you won't get it.... You never will have feelings for your wife unless you get rid of the girl you have .. CHEATER!!!!!! Do you know what love really is? Sex isn't love....... Theres no way you will ever work out w/ your wife unless you get intervention ... SORRY>>>>>
2007-05-04 07:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by harlot j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for your honest post, which illustrates the problems with pre-marital sex, children outside of marriage, as well as lust, immaturity, sloth and selfishness.
We will make you the poster-boy for all of these issues.
This may not have been your intent in asking, but hey, you signed up for it.
Later: OK, I realize with all of your obligations, you may not have time to be the only Poster Boy for Irresponsible Sex&Sloth, and be able to meet with the people and attend all the functions, so you are going to share this position with RchrdHazze down there. The 2 of you are equally well-qualified.
2007-05-04 07:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i can relate, i have 4 ex's try dealing with that, i cant even have a steady woman in my life without getting one or all of them mad at me, and yes they tend to use the kids as a tool, its there way of holding on to that control. if all you feel is resentment towards your children's mom, then you have to move on, don't let that resentment and annoyance get between you and your kids, i recently had to just back away from it all do to one of the ex's psychoactive attitude towards me. it started to interfere with the time i spent with my daughter, and i found myself getting headaches, and saying things about her mom while she was here. so i just oped out of seeing them for awhile i let my daughter know it was not anything she done & that i loved her , that my door was always open if she needed anything, i just couldnt handle the psyshobabble from her mom, there are avenues a father can take, parenting time, throught the courts ect. you have to do what makes you happy, and still provide for your children. i wish you luck in your decissions.
2007-05-04 07:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER, NEVER!! Be with someone because of the kids not only are you hurting yourself but you are hurting the kids. Yes the kids will be happy because their parents are together but in the long run they would be hurt because I am sure there will be fighting and they would see that and that is not good or healthy for them. they would be better off having two separate homes one with mom one with dad. two that are happy. then one that is unhappy. go with your heart.
2007-05-04 07:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you may lose your babys mother but you will never lose your baby thats the most important thing in all this, if you really love your gitlfriend you go for her, and keep a close relationship with your baby if your baby mama wont let you take her to court,
2007-05-04 07:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by ♥**•.¸¸verbalkint♥**•.¸¸ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must have some form of custody. If you love your girlfriend they stay with her she sounds nice.
2007-05-04 07:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Damien 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋