I'm in love but my situation is like this. I have to decide between 2 girls:
1. 'V' is the one I'm in love with. We're together since 7 months now, and she's also in love, although for her it took some more time. We've gone thru a lot together, our relationship is passionate, and at times 'V' is a bit unstable, like she would think about her ex, and how miserable her life used to be. Now she's very eager to marry me, and has told me to come to her parents asap to ask her hand 'officially'. My family/parents do not really like her character and find her a bit 'superficial', and too keen on 'beauty products', 'clothes', 'fashion', etc.
2. 'R' is a girl I've dated a couple of times. She's nice, not as beautiful and sexy as 'V', and comes from a very wealthy family. She drives cars like BMW, and is the type of girl any 'opportunist' would like to settle with. I've slept with 'R' once, and she's a bit attached to me. My family likes her and want me to marry her.
Who I shud marry then?
2007-05-03 22:43:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Even if it's my own life, I've always been very attached to my family. I would be sad if they would be totally unhappy with my choice. So they do have an influence on my choice. My heart is totally with 'V', but I've seen friends who married their sweetheart get disappointed afterwards. They told me marriage is not just abt the one you love. It involves many other things. That's y I'm asking this question on Yahoo. I don't want to marry just because I'm guided by my heart...
2007-05-03 22:58:56 · update #1
Neither, if you gotta ask a question like this online you're not ready to marry anyone! You should know an answer to this question in your heart. And you shouldn't base who you marry on a choice of two. you should be with the one you want to marry and that person only for a long time.
You are not ready
2007-05-03 22:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by Subigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But being guided by your heart is why you should marry V. Trust me, I married a man I did not love and was unhappy throughout our 17 years of marriage. He was a very good husband and I cared about him, but I was in love with another man. I cared for both of them before I chose my husband and I chose him because I thought I would have a better life materially. I did have that with him, but it was nothing since I didn't love him. I just kept trying to find things outwardly to make me happy because I was so miserable on the inside. My family adored him and still does and we all still consider hiim to be family. He is now my best friend, but that doesnt stop the pain i had during the marriage and the pain I caused him when I left. Your parents dont have to live with the decision, YOU do.
2007-05-03 23:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither, If you can't answer the question with absolute confidence for whom to be with how can you make a real life long commitment. How unfair would it be for both women to be either doubted personally or be second choice only to find this out years later? Yes love is a big part but is the whole package you have to love not just parts of the deal. You'll end up regretting and divorced in less than a year or you'll be miserable for life.
Wait till you find the person with whom there are no doubts. It took me till I was 32 to find the person who loves all that I am and I love all that he is...flaws and all.
2007-05-04 02:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by cc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offence, but if you are coming on here asking a serious question like who should you marry, you really shouldn't be getting married in the first place.
To be honest, V sounds nice but if she is thinking of her ex and is superficial, I would say no.
R, sounds like the only thing you see from her is that she has money, so no I wouldn't marry her either.
You really need to rethink your priorities.
2007-05-03 22:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't marry either of them. If either one of them was 'the one for you' you would know and wouldn't be asking this question. Don't rush marriage it will only end in divorce. I have been with my partner 4 years and I knew he was the one from day one but we have only just started talking about marriage and children. Enjoy your relationship how it is for a while before you rush into things you may regret.
2007-05-03 22:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into inner beauty.Ask ur heart.Who u love and worth it?Dont put urself into dilema.Stuck between family n wife.Marry with someone who know how to earn and save not spend.If she is a spender,no matter how much u earn,at the end of the day,the money goes to the shopping complex.worth it or not?think by urself.
2007-05-03 22:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear sorry to say u dont love "R" nor"V".
coz wen u r in love u cant b confused abt it but in this case ur. it is hard to ditch any1 but its ur life afterall. so as u mentioned the"R" girl seems too b good and u r comfortable wid her and every1 approves of it then go for her.anyways the other girl "V" i think is all happy and thinks she is in love wid u coz she had not a happy life and u make her happy.
its up to u.
hope u make right choice.
all the best.
2007-05-04 01:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by rani b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on the time of Nikaah,it is the lady,who's asked first,if she would be able to settle for Mr so and so, for a husband.the lady is asked this question thrice,interior the presence of witnesses.If she accepts,in basic terms then will the nikah bypass forward.If she refuses,the marriage occasion alongside with the groom would desire to bypass away for good.
2017-01-09 11:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your family have any influance on this? Are you 5? Grow up, it doesn't sound like you are really mature enough to be married to anyone.
2007-05-03 22:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
V where your heart is.
2007-05-04 07:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋