When i was 20 i met my partner, i told him when we met, thati wnted to meet my future husband when i was 20, get ingadged when im 23 and get married at 25 and have a first child at 28, and i told him the kind of ring i wanted. But he has 2 kids, 4, and 6. And he still only wants to ask me when im 23, get married when im 25 etc. And even though we cant afford the ring he still wants to bay thatone, its unnessisary. what should i do.
2007-05-03 22:08:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I guess you really can't do anything. If you want you can just try to talk him out of it but if he's willing to fulfill your dream and still make sure that he can take care of his family by doing so then let him. Not all girls are lucky enough to get their dreams.
2007-05-03 22:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by JK Sy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just aren't ready to get married. When I was 20, I also thought I wanted to get married at 23/25. When I got to that age, I wasn't ready at all to get married.
Also, I believe if you can't afford even an inexpensive ring, you might not be able to afford to get married. Tell him you'd like to wait for a while before he proposes. Hopefully he will understand.
2007-05-04 08:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The best laid plans of mice and men are apt to go astray." Shakespeare, I think.
Even though you have your whole life planned out, doesn't mean he'll fall in with it. With children from a previous relationship, have you even talked with him about having another? You said something at the very beginning of the relationship, but have you seriously discussed it since?
Is what you want affordable, practical, something you two are working towards? Or is it a dream, with no basis in reality?
Take care, when the reality doesn't match the dream, sometimes the dream dies. Know what you want to replace it with, if that should happen.
2007-05-04 05:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and ask him these two questions do you love me? and do you want to spend the rest of your life with me? if he answers yes to these two questions hitting with this answer. If you already know all this why can't we get married as soon as possible. there is no reason to wait
2007-05-04 09:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by tasheema22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him it's unnecessary.........
besides.....you guys should save up for your wedding...and after the wedding...for the house..future kids' education.......go for a simple yet elegant ring....
why'd you wait til 23????? why not wait for the right time??? you planned your life out too much....it's better to let things happen...the way they should....
2007-05-04 05:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
TII thinks smabe youse had litter muck too drinks.
2007-05-04 05:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Inuk-man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give up the dream girl..if you love him you'll love him forever...ring or not. if you can't love a guy forever without a ring then he is not the one you'll spend the rest of your live with.
2007-05-04 05:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your the one who gave him your life plan.........Can't complain for him wanting to do things your way now can you?
2007-05-04 05:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the crime, if you can't do the time.
2007-05-04 05:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by Big Feet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋