I am a 20 year old male college student, and I am in a difficult situation.
I am not heterosexual.
Beyond that, I'm clueless.
I have strong romantic feeling for women, but not really any sexual feelings. I don't have really any romantic feelings for guys, but am very strongly sexually attracted to them.
I have had 2 sexual experiences with guys, and as yet none with any women. I don't think I'll get to have sex any time soon, as I am about as socially awkward as possible, but I am sick of being uncomfortable around friends and family when my love life enters discussions. My as yet apparantly clueless family nags me about getting a girlfriend, but the girls I have romantic feelings for I don't want to have to come out to if I do end up being gay.
What am I, or what should I do to figure it out?
2007-05-03 19:54:22 · 10 answers · asked by buggin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems like you are looking for a label. Why ? Just be who you are. When the right person comes along ( male or female ) you will know how to react. Love is love, sex is sex. Just because you had sex with the same sex, does not make you gay. Who do you fantasize more ? Act on the NOW.. you have the right to change your mind tomorrow. Just be honest with your self at all times.
2007-05-03 20:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Maria V 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might have grown up in a small town. College is a time to explore identities that you never even knew existed, so look on the bright side.
I know it's tempting to want a label, a clear cut identity to fit into, but it doesn't always work that way. You might find that what fits you best is consider yourself "pansexual" which means basically that you are attracted to people regardless of their sex/gender.
Mostly, I think you should stop worrying about it so much and just follow what feels right. See what it's like having sex with a woman if you find one you're really attracted to. Or maybe you will find a guy who not only turns you on phhysically but satisfies you emotionally as well. That perfect partner may come in time but you've got to be open to finding him or her (or maybe a transgender person or a genderqueer person or an androgenous person.)
Humans exist in an infinite variety. There are not 2 genders, or 2 sexes, and there are certainly more variations than just "gay, straight, and bi." Just be you!
2007-05-04 03:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Rainbocarnage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some guesses that occur to me. First of all, if you were definitely heterosexual you would have had responses to females from puberty. Also, you say you have "strong" feelings for women but not sexual feelings...and you say you are "very strongly sexually attracted" to guys. So it sounds like you are gay. You can always look for a relationship with one or more guys and see what happens.
2007-05-04 03:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has God has given you status in life try to live with it. Your born a male so accept it. Don't mind if your family and friends pester you about having a love life. You have the choice to rule your life or to be ruled by others. I am sorry to be blunt with you but the bible says homosexuals are not accepted in heaven. You are given the chance to be the state of life your into now. Its your utmost decision to be what you are now. What is important is your happiness but if you really want to gain true happiness then follow Jesus teachings. Stop sinning.
2007-05-04 03:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Angelique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you may be bi-sexual or you just aren't comfortable coming out totally as being gay. are your feelings really sincere towards the girls or are you trying to make more out of them? sounds like you need to take some time to really think about things and talk to people both straight and gay. do women turn you on?
2007-05-04 03:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by juliemarie6151982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have romantic feelings for a girl,please have sex with her to see what you are going to think of it and to find out what is it you really want for your life,if you end up being gay I feel sorry for you because being gay is just pathetic and nasty, and its against God's will. I am sure you still have time to change,I hope you turn out strait.
2007-05-04 03:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
probably bisexual, or just plain gay. Most gay guys have a strong emotional relationship with women. In time you will eventually realize the true nature of your feelings.
2007-05-04 03:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sexual feelings is just lust while romantic feelings is liking someone so you lust men but like women you are a bi-sexual unless u already knew that.
2007-05-04 02:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by bonethugspod420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think You Should Get Lost...
Guys this men is just acting...
2007-05-04 03:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by mystry m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With time you will know what your preference is.
2007-05-04 03:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋