What do you say to a man that is staring at your chest?

Question

I dont wear revealing or low-cut tops and yet when Im walking down the street i always have men staring at my chest!! I work in a serviced office and often have to deal with enquiries wanting office space and it annoys me that when I am talking to them they stare at my boobs and wont look me in the eye!

Does anyone know something that I can say that will get the point across without being nasty? (maybe a passing comment or joke perhaps) PLS HELP!!!

Answer 1

One should say with a smile, "I'm sorry; am I too tall for you [to meet my eyes]?"

Answer 2

Hey, my name is Hayley L. too!
In answer to your question, it would be easy to use any of the snappy one-liners above as long as you're in a casual setting, but if you're talking professional settings too, like with your boss or professors, you can't be so "snappy", you know? Maybe just glance down at your chest as if you think you might have spilled something there or whatever. I'm sure if they notice that you noticed them looking, they'll control themselves. Or, you could just stop speaking until they look you in the eye, then continue, and do that everytime they look down.

Answer 3

You could've just say, "Is there anything wrong with my tops?"
First, go and check if there's any dirty spots on your tops. It could be these men are staring at your name...do you wear a name tag when you work? don't be oversensitive to their behavior, sometimes people have something on their mind without realizing they are staring at someone else' boobs! If you find this really annoying, you could easily wave your hands at their eye level and guide them to look up at your face instead

Answer 4

Stop talking, and wait till they look up at your face - then stare into their eyes for a second or two.
This should bring them back to reality... repeat if necessary, until you have their full attention.
Continue talking, but let them know by the tone of your voice that they are out of line.

Answer 5

In the middle of the sentence, the moment you notice them staring, interrupt yourself with a sharp "Hey!" Not screaming, but loud enough to startle them. Tell them you expect them to pay attention when you're speaking to them, then start the sentence you interrupted again, from the beginning. The embarassment is likely to condition them to be less likely to do the same in the future--but this is less worth attempting on someone you'll talk to like once.

However, one thing you should realize is that, like it or not, men are biologically driven to 'focus' there. They usually cannot help it (and to respond to an answer above, it's sure not (or at least shouldn't be considered) sexual harassment just to LOOK somewhere, no matter where). But the tip above should help a little when dealing with co-workers etc., at least.

Answer 6

It may be old and outdated, but you could always say (especially to the people you see on the street) in passing, "Take a picture--it'll last longer." then continue walking.

As for the office situation--you don't want to be rude and risk losing your job. When you see this, duck your head down and look up at them, wave your hand and say, "Hello?! My eyes are up *here*, then sit upright.

Answer 7

Say yes they are 100% real and so are my eyes.They will quickly look you in the face because they know they just got busted for bust watching.How do I know this?I am after all a man that has on more then one occasion stared at womens breasts.Sorry but it is in our nature.Pointing out to us we are staring at your breasts isn't a bad thing.We know we are we just forget to look away.On a side note we stare at your butts as well it's just a good thing you don't have eyes in the back of your head..................Or do you?????

Answer 8

How about, "You won't find office space down there mate, but there's probably a few square centimetres between your ears!"

Seriously though, either wear something less revealing, or enjoy the attention!

Answer 9

as he stares at your chest... "hello, I'm up here, hi!"

but that is for coworkers and not people outside of the office.

perhaps "oh dear did I spill something on my shirt?" they ask "why" you state "well I saw you staring at my shirt, so I thought I spilled my drink/food on it"

Or you could pause in your talking, go and put a piece of paper in front of your chest, then when he looks at your eyes, smile and hold his eyes for a few moments, then continue talking, hopefully getting the picture across.

Answer 10

some women human beings do get offended thats in the experience that they are extremely pious or from a superb kinfolk, at the same time as some women human beings like it and desire adult adult males to stare extra. It does no longer ensue to me yet i detect this very rude.

Answer 11

::sigh:: It doesn't matter what you wear, it's instinct for guys to be intrigued by them. It's natural. I don't mean that to dismiss it, I mean that as the explanation for the behavior. There's nothing demeaning usually meant by it. There's things that girls instinctively do to men that annoy men too, trust me. If it really bothers you, just say something jokingly like, "They aren't talking, but I am!"